awesome
 

Amen...
 

I just watched the documentary on BBC iplayer. I wanted to say thank you for being brave enough to get up there and say what so many of us are too afraid to say. I have had some bad experiences with abusive men too and I could relate to so much of what you say. Thank you for putting this issue in the spotlight.

 

Dear Danielle: We admire and respect you for your charity & public service activities. Spousal/partner abuse is as old as time, but constant focus and education are needed. Dani, we love you; and as always, you are our favorite celebrity & dreamgirl. Sincerely, Randall in USA.

 

great programme... well done for voicing this
 

Maybe you can answer this question, being that you found the strength to stop this cycle, Danielle: why the heck does a woman go BACK to that kind of environment like apparently Rhianna is doing w/that assclown Chris Brown? I mean, marriage rumors, really? How can a beautiful woman devalue herself THAT much to think someone that beats her to the point of being bloodied actually loves her and be a worthy husband? Maybe you need to do an intervention w/her and set her straight or something, I don't know. You're obviously stronger than she currently is in regards to understanding this.

 

it must have taken a lot of courage to make that programme.




im sure it must have been a good help to a lot of other ladies who found themselves in a similar scenario.




i hope things continue to improve for you.




you deserve it.




take care and all the best for 2009.

 

Wonderful tv programme Danielle, well done. I think you have really taken the issue further on to better understanding. You have a really touching story, I have nothing but admiration for you. I know my donation to CR will be very well spent.
Take care and stay strong XX
 

I watched your documentary on DV last night, thank you for your courage and may you grow stronger everyday.


During watching it I discovered I'd been a victim. Although I'm no-longer in that relationship the realisation that I was and to some extent still a victim left me feeling like I'd been run over by a train.


I knew my then husband had mentally and emotional abused me for many years but I never equated it to DV. It was very hard watching a perfect stranger on TV discribing him, how he was and what he did to me. But then the killer blow came when sex abuse was mentioned. Until that moment I'd never realised I'd been a victim of sexual abuse- again for many years. Happily we are now divorced so the sexual abuse stopped over 5 years ago but unfortunately the mental and emotinal abuse still goes on. He admitted before the divorce came through that he tried to get me sectioned so I couldn't divorce him (I divorced him after he left me for another woman - who he also tried to abuse). He has given up trying to abuse me directly, now he goes through my kids.


It was a very bitter divorce, my daughter (then 12) went to live with him and he wouldn't allow me access, so I eventually went to court for access, so he applied for custardy of our son (then 10). He charmed everybody and I was told I was an unfit mother and that I needed to have parenting lessons etc etc. Anyway he didn't get what he wanted but my 10 year old son could choose where, when and with whom he lived - this is a court order and there is nothing I can do about it. So guess what, the first time I tell my son off he went to live with his dad. That was almost 2 years ago. Everytime my son's ready to come home, the ex "buys" things - playstaitions etc. The last time it happened just bofore last christmas the ex openly told our son that he would pay for him to go skiing with school as long as he doesn't move back in with me. The sad thing is he doesn't really want our son - he just thought he'd get the house if he had him and I'd be kicked out on the street - again something he took great pleaser in telling me before we went into court. Again it didn't go to plan, I get 60 % but I will still be homeless when the house eventually sells, he wont.


My ex moved out over 5 years ago yet he still mentally abuses me and there doesn't appear to be anything I can do about it until my kids either come back to me or leave for uni. I know that the day will come when he wont be able to use the kids against me and that day can't come quick enough for me.




I have never had any kind of relationship with another man since my ex, I don't feel I need one. I dress to hide myself as the one time I dressed "femanine" I was complimented by a male friend who told me I looked very attractive - it freaked me out, as soon as I could I went home and changed into the biggest, baggest pair of joggers and t-shirt I could find. I've never dressed like that since - that was 2 years ago. I couldn't understand it at the time but today I see it as a perfectly normal defense mechanisim - in my eyes anyway.




We were married for just over 12 years and looking back was abused for most of it. I never realised, it just kind of creeps up on you. He would sulk if I went out with his own mother and then he'd get our daughter who was only a toddler at the time to beg me not to leave her and that she wouldn't be bad ever again if I didn't go. There is only so much of that you can take so I stopped going out - the rest is history.




On the plus side it has made me a stronger person, at first I went to college to prove to him that I could do it. Now I'm doing it for myself and next year I've got in to uni at the age of 40. Not bad for a retard (He never acknowledged my dyslexia).




I'm a strong beliver in fate, that I was supposed to see your documentary last night and discover I'd been a victim. I will now find some councilling and hopefully move on and help other victims/survivors.




Keep up the good work. DV awareness should be taught in all schools to both males and females and I hope they show your documentary in secondery schools at least once.




Thank you for bringing to the surface something which I must have hidden deep but now is the time to deal with.




Amanda
 

you are such an insperation danielle & so brave to get up there and tell all about what happened to you and i hope that your documentary encourages women to be able to talk about domestic violence & hopefully it will help put a stop to it.
i have watched your documentary a few times now and it realy upset me to hear what you had been through & i hope that you do manage to find a nice guy that will treat you well & respect you X
 

Thanks Dani your an angel for doing all this and helping others.
You are a light in a dark tunnel x
 

Hi Gorgeous



i watched your documentary a few times & you are so brave to open up about what you went through & i hope that you find a nice man to settle down with, someone that will treat you well & not treat you like something they have just trod in because you are a total insperation danielle & you deserve happiness.






Keep up the good work & us fans are behind you all the way & good luck with your 2010 calendar X
 

I just wanna say that you are a brave woman, because you had the courage to denounce this problem taht many women around the world has to face but are afraid because of the fear that this evil people put in their minds, I have a very close person who had a terrible experince and I know how bad it is, so keep going and congratulations to pass this information, especially for having the strength to do it, go on and become an inspirational symbol for everyone and I giving you my best wishes...