please don't play like your dumbi cant stand it when girls act like an idiot.. just because your blond doesnt mean you cant be smart...

I've dated several bottle job blondes and when no one is around they act themselves (had common sence) but around others they act like they don't know 2+2.

I have broken up with a girl for just this reason.

and I understand a lot of what your saying .. back in HS i was the dork. (well still am) i just grew up into better looks ( at least i think so?) but I'm still the same person inside.. everytime an attractive girls talks to me several things go through my mind then reality hits. why is she talking to me .. is this a joke .. she after money (not that i make alot but i make enough ) makes it hard to trust females...

 

but for the love of all that is good and decent in this world.. dont ever down play how smart you are just because a guy doesnt like it.. Brains and Beautiful are hard to find. and jest i said brains first. beautiful can be found any where. brains are rare (in male and female

 

sweetheart don't worry about it...some guys...like ahem me...like your personality....and your looks and take you for you...some men are just not that mature enough to appreciate something real..
 

First off,  good for you for not letting your beauty dictate your attitude.  Secondly, the best thing for you to do is to stop trying to figure out how you think people want you to act.  People will like you for who you really are, and if they don't, you probably wouldn't have meshed well as friends or anything else anyway.  At least you'll know who your "real" friends are, or who you're really compatible with. 
 

I don't think doing those things..."I read for fun. I draw, paint, write, volunteer for charity, act like the world's biggest dork, get pleasure out of the most inconsequential things..." makes you an ugly girl inside or out, just a person that knows life is more than the cosmetic...
 

You shouldn't have placed that bet because some people (like me) actually DO read things all the way through.  Sounds to me that you, morso than a good number of people, have some intelligence and good common sense.  Be true to yourself and how you feel about yourself, others, and the world and you should end up being happy and successful.  Now...about that bet! (Just kidding!)

 

Pay up with the bewbie sister,  cuz I read it.

I have the same problem when women see my glistening bald head and hearabout my massive cock, they think that I am just a stuntman, in it for their rodeo fantasies.  Never contemplating that I have feelings or that I may actually be able to have an intelligent conversation, or intellectual opinions on global issues.  Just use me and abuse me then leave the money on the counter as they sneak off.

Oh how I am treated like a piece of meat.

But then again,  I do kinda like it.  Rox cooks it up right!

 

very well written self analysis, i was impressed but not surprised since i do not judge people by their looks, i think you assessment of men is pretty acurate, and i think you are not alone in your thinking, many people are just as confused as you are they just dont admit it or take the time to take a real hard look at themselves, i think most people would benifit from following in your footsteps.
 

Well for the last line you are very mistaken as I read every word! I also never post in these things as I try to remain as invisible to people as I can. I knew a guy 20 years ago that was going through the same thing your going through right now(well except he didn't have surgical boobs) and he had the same confusion to a point. He was 315 pounds when he graduated high school and had few friends and a year and a half later he was 185 and excercising and doing all the things he thought was right to do and people that use to make fun of him was inviting him to parties and wanting to be his best friends...thank god he didn't fall for the fake fucks out there and remained true to himself.... I am sorry if I wrote a book here I just wanted to tell you to stay true to yourself and stay that toe cracking dork you are because that person is who will make a difference...as the person I told you about is in his 40s now and trust me looking back I had no regrests staying true to who I am inside..... oh drink diet coke ! :)
 

Very well put, all that you have mentioned is psycologically true. Good science project, ugly girl gone sex symbol....would make for a hell of a story. Anyways, we were supposed to have a photo shoot for the "walk of shame" article. Then I see you at the DC10 show...didnt realize it was you, as well as you not noticing me. It is a small world.  I would say be grateful that you have the personality of the behind the scenes girl and the looks of the in the spotlight girl....you are lucky and sure to raise eyebrows in your lifetime. Still interested in the photoshoot when your game. But great Blog, loved it!

 

I wish I had the guts to try to get to know you.
 

Wanted to let ya know that i read every word that you wrote and I really liked it....and just so you know I dont think your confused at all.  You are a very intelligent and beautiful person.

 

P.S. When ya gonna answer my 5 questions? 

 

Yes, you should be confused , I am and yes you certaintly have grown into a good looking woman w/ a little help from the plastic surg but it's refreshing to hear these thoughts from a smart, pretty woman. Go to your class reunion someday and what will shock you is the prom queen has had 3 kids and is 180 pounds/the pretty cheerleaders are now just average looking and because of their looks when they were younger they never studied and men bought them everything /where are they now ,well in a lot of cases in a trailer park w/bubba as a husband .Same goes for the dumb ass football jock that the teachers passed because he could play ball /now he's worked so hard digging ditches for a living a 30 year old looks rinckled and 50 .

                 Of course these are just examples and are not true w/everyone sometimes the prom queen is still pretty and still pampered by everyone,as I'm sure you are!! But I bet it's great to see the shock on their face when you open your mouth and talk about Tesla,Edison or Martha Washington .

               I sorta know how you feel ,because of my looks and because I can play an instrument all of a sudden I'm a burnout dumb ass who's just great to sleep with or play at a club and also I must live on someones couch too!

             When someone finally takes the time to know me ,they're shocked to know I have an Elec. Eng. Degree  and make a decent living.In fact I love it when their jaw drops!! 

 I also agree w/ you about sleeping w/ one person for life. If I'm dating you and serious I will love you and only you . And my little head will be only your'res but when i see a hot girl the blood flows from the brain to that little head and i want to play /I don't, but I think it's only human nature to want to.

Smart woman ,wish there was more like you,I only found a few w/both looks and brains but the search continues

                                       Take it easy,

                                                               Keith(kngskrt)

P.S. Stephen Hawkings new book is very interesting!! 

                                      Keith

 

You lose the bet,  I read all the way to the bottom.  Interesting statement.  If you want some advice, I'd say dont hide who you are when you first meet guys, let them see the real you from the beginning, if thats what you want them to like you for.  If you hide the real person, then the fake boobs are all anyone has to go by.  Take care.
 

That was a good read.  Reading that has seriously given me hope for the female gender.  If we could get more girls like you who thought this way, AND were into DSM's, well, I'd be a much happier guy that's for sure.  
 

your eyes are too awesome for you to ever have been ugly,

I simply refuse to believe it!

 

I'm just here to leg-hump.
 

  You write memos like me.  It was so long, I felt like I was reading a novel lol.  Interesting stuff though, so please don't be offended.  It's just people always tell me I write memos too long.  If I wrote War and Peace you would have never got it out of the bookshop door.  I don't think you should stereotype anyone.  After all you can't go on whether some one is blonde, beautiful, ugly, brainy or tanned to know what they are really like.  It's what's inside them that counts.  There character and their interests and the way they view the world in their own little Universes.  I certainly don't think Blondes are a turn off or any other hair coloured lady.  There is obviously other depths to you than just your modeling, as you told us you read books, do songwriting, paint and draw.  All things to be proud of and not what the usual world would stereotype a model as doing.  I think people just think models go to cool parties, make money, get pissed and are up on themselves with their looks.  They don't understand what you have to do to look glamourous all the time, even when you are having a bad day and the many hours you have to pose at photoshoots in very uncomfortable positions and fend off groping hands from fans, and that you might just have a life outside of modeling.  Stereotyping is bad.  They should look at your  personality and inner being as well as your looks.  I think you make a beautiful model and you should be proud of your other achievements as well.  It takes a brain to be able to master Art and Literature.  If anyone tells you otherwise, that your dumb just because you are a busty blonde, then just ignore them, as their talking out of their Arse.  Also don't give up to much on the old Romantic Vision.  I think it does exist.  And I'm a man saying this lol.  You just need to visualise it and embrace it and it's bound to happen.  It's amazing where you can find romantic situations in the world.  Like receiving flowers unexpected or watching the sunrise, dancing close in the moonlight etc....You get the idea lol.  Anyway I shut up now, before I write a book.  Hope some of this makes sense.  Bad at putting thing into worlds sometime lol.  Love Paul xxx.

 

The worst part about being formerly ugly... when people tell you how great you look, you wonder why it is that they suddenly feel the need to talk to you now. It's so stupid. People tell me they like me tanned, blonde, and all dolled up.. but I guess that means they don't like the real me at all, because she's pale, brunette, and in jeans.

Oh yeah. I totalled my Supra.

 

If guys only think of you as a bimbo, they are idiots and not worthy of your time.

Don't give up on guys, there is still good men out there. Even if it's difficult to find...

 

:mamoru:
 

You shouldn't have bet your boobs... you've only got two of them and you've obviously got some good friends, who are actually interested in what you're thinking.

Being a voice in a chorus is kind of annoying... It means you have to read the same comments over and over... but at least you have a good idea of who your real friends really are.

I have to admire your convictions. What I hope you'll learn to understand someday is that you are in complete command of yourself in all your many beauties. My advice to you: damn the societal norms, live your life the way you want to by your rules. In short, be true to yourself. There are those who are willing to see past the superficial layers to the complex, highly intelligent, wonderful you. Those are the ones worth waiting for. You'd be surprised who might be waiting around the corner for a dork with looks, brains and personality. (And if it helps you to think of it this way, that's like saying there's a guy who wants a girl he can carry on intelligent conversation with who can make him smile and keep him laughing.)

 

Sarah,
   As others have stated, don't act how you think people want you to act, and don't put up a front....just be yourself.  Ultimately, you'll be surrounded by those that like you for who you are, and not what you look like.  And if someone has a problem with the real you...F*** 'Em!  They're not worth your time anyway.  Just stay positive, and be true to yourself.


 

Never give in! A grounded, intelligent woman is sexier than a bimbo any day of the week! Not to mention, isn't just a little fun seeing the look on the guy's face when he realizes he DOESN'T have the stereotypical bimbo? Keep 'em guessing. ; )

Just be yourself and who YOU want to be, and let them adjust to you, not the other way around.

Good blog!

 

YOUR THE CUTIEST COUSIN A GIRL COULD HAVE!!!!! AND I AM PROUD OF YOU FOR BEING THE NERD YOU ARE. CAUSE I'M A HUGE NERD TOO. SO ARE YOU COMING TO AZ???
 

Sarah, I encourage you to be yourself, the girl you have always been !!! She sounds like an absolutely amazing person !! You will meet many people, including myself, who appreciate you for who you are inside !! Don't conform, its not worth it !!  I hope you become less confused in the near future, lol :) !!
 

 

were nearly on the same page. I tell people i'm a member of mensa they think i'm arrogent know it all. I'm a left handed mensian makes me more emotional and less logical. Creativity is the key. But instead i get a knee jerk reaction for my troubles.

Joining mensa has been a life goal for me since i was 8 i have wanted to join. It makes me happen to have completed one of my goals. Another was getting several degrees. I am the most educated member of my immediate family. Sadly true very true.

Your bloged sounded more like venting then anythign else. Sounds like your trying to make yourself believe breaking up with your guy is ok. Which i can relate. Its hard to break up with someone who is good and fits nicely but just bores you or does not feel right.

All i can say is life is a journy and all have there ups and downs.

 

Well girl welcome to the harsh reality of this world can be like. I was a very, very late bloomer, and having brains and beauty like yours is always an intimadating factor to those who can't appreciate or even have once ounce of what you possess on the inside. There is nothing wrong with you, you are in fact light years ahead of most of the human race and always will be. Just remember to never compromise yourself, it will destroy you if you try to fit in for someone else. I am sure you already have this figured out. Sure wish I did when I was your age. Dorks like you  are incredibly sexy, worlds beyond beautiful, don't ever change that. There is everything right about you.... and nothing less.......
 

IM sorry your not alone stereotyping is a very terrible thing.  People assume because IM of Russian descent that I want to fight and kill every one, its dumb.  But in an away it can some times work to my advantage, I make more than some managers at my work place.
 

Sarah, I know what you're talking about... When I was younger I was in that same awful place... noone would give me the time of day, none of the girls would give me a second look unless there was something they wanted me to do for them, I kept much to myself...
Then I came to college, got involved in the nations (our kind of fraternities) with the party fixing and started working as a DJ and all of a sudden people wanted to be my "friends". Then other things happend too but that's for another time and not for the public forum either and I got even more "friends".
Like you I'm suspicious of everyone who wants to be my friend, I always have that nagging feeling that it's not "me" they want to be friends with but "the DJ-guy" and the same goes with every woman I meet... Under the surface I guess I'll always be that ugly, unpopular kid.

Well, that's a little more open than I'd like to be in a public forum but I just felt I had to write in response to this blog, you have a beautiful soul and I hope that you'll never loose that.

Thank you for letting me be your friend


@->----------
*all my love*
/Martin

 

Looks like people are listening.  Beauty may get their attention, but it's the personality that keeps them captivated. 
 

I thought you made some very good points in your latest blog entry.

I'm glad to see that you are a "down to earth" type girl with a good head on your shoulders.

I know exactly what you mean about the looks thing, and how people won't give you the time of day if you don't look a certain way. It used to make me sad when I was growing up and I had thought about suicide, not being included by everyone, because I didn't look a certain way or like Brad Pitt,etc. I had my group of friends and then there were those people that wouldn't give you the time of day. As I became older I just didn't worry about that anymore and just had fun with my friends. I will talk and hangout with everyone and it doesn't matter to me how a person looks,etc. to me everyone is treated the same in my book. I'm a shy person myself but not as much as I was when I was younger. It's a great feeling to me to be able to include people who soceity views as loners/outcasts into my life and watch them grow as a person and gain confidence in their life when someone actually notices "he/she" and wants to include them into your activities for example, going bowling,movies, etc. with my friends. Some of these friends might end up turning out to your best friends for life. It's a cruel reality though that there are a lot of people out there that won't give you the time of day if you don't look a certain way.

I hope I haven't rambled on too much, but I really felt like sharing some comments since your blog post really hit home with my life too.

Jeffrey
 

you sound a very intelligent and sweet person. any guy who judges you solely on looks is an idiot, so don't care about what they think!
 

look i am fugly and i know it buit i am smart in some things and no one will change that for any reason if you let people change you even for a in...then its not you anymore just be your self and if they can't deal fuck them you don't need them....i like a girl who is real i don't care about looks just be who you are inside that is the true you......
 

aint it funny to see the people that treated you like crap in high school now that you've grown up and things have changed a bit, I was 5"3 and chubby my senior year, now 5 10 in what I like to consider descent shape and noone believe me when I tell  them I am 28, and the formerly "cool and attractive " are now either crackheads, knocked up 4 times over by 4 different baby Daddies or working at Wal Mart, or all of the above. HAHAHA
 

I suppose I can throw in my two cents. If you read it all i'll let you keep your boob; if you follow my erratic writing style and often aside from any main point narratives i'll give you one of mine.

I'll agree halfway with what everyone is saying. Ugliness, and beauty, can be subjective at times; or sometimes it really is just a physicality that someone exudes in lieu of wanting to be socially excepted. I'm aware that in this day and age, in certain social groups, fashion, body stature or simply just style is what drives acceptance for a lot of people and can create an almost endless cycle of playing catch up. The people that give you the lame excuse of "I don't care what other people think of me," are probably screaming out that they feel the need to be accepted at any cost but don't wish to show off any kind of weakness they see in themselves. We all want friends, we all want to be accepted, nobody WANTS to be the out-cast. Unfortunately for some, consequences of losing a sense of self worth is bigger than the return. Being the ugly kid, subjective or not, gives one a valuable lesson to step back and watch from the outside what the strive for social acceptance can do to a person, sometimes good sometimes bad.

I don't feel you need to shape yourself in any way to be accepted by who you want. I agree that if you give off a certain vibe you WILL attract the wrong kind of person and you will be forced to fend off or even insult those in order for them to simply go away. My question is, why would you want to have them around to begin with? Who you are and who you chose to be publicly should be one in the same; if people have a problem with that then they certainly aren't going to be around for long. Just as if you don't get along with someone's personality you can chose to not be a part of their life. Often times we get forced to do business with a person you don't like, but once business is done; get out.

Although I'm very contradictive in a lot of the ways I run my life, i'm not going to sit here and say I don't care what people think. I do care. I want feedback with the way I run my life, on my writings, on my advice on everything. I want that feedback because I can better myself which will ultimately make me a happier person. I don't want it to necessarily change my ways, simply just to adapt or to make things a little easier on myself. You can only swim upstream for so long before you get tired and burnt out.

As for your catch 22. Having sex is great. The risk involved takes a backseat to the fun of seeing somebody new without their clothes on. Monogamy works, it just has to be breathtaking everytime you wake up next to the other person. If not, it doesn't work. Your faithfulness shows a lot in respect to your character. Everyone thinks about having sex with everyone else and they always will, but to show that faith shows strong character and at least the desire to find that fairy tale love. With all the drunken/drugged up debaucherous nights i've had there have been more than one life-threatening scares so i've taken necessary steps to not hump everything I see, although at times i'd love to. I've decided to find a fairy tale of my own; who knows how that's going to work out for me.

So, don't let anything like this get you down. You're a smart girl, i've been fortunate enough to see a slight glimpse into that. You're stronger and brighter than those barbie dolls you try to emulate which sets you apart from all of them. Do your thing while you can, take advantage of those who fall for the bimbo persona but keep your self worth at bay and be sure to allow yourself the respect you deserve.

 

Hear, hear!  You have your head screwed on pretty well, except that your statement  "Blonde = instant turn-off" is incomplete.  Blonde = instant turn-off = low libdo. 

Intimacy as a reward?  Hmm, I don't want to just stick my wenier in your vagina, I want to dance with it, help you feel as good as you make me feel.  Or is that just my way of rewarding you for rewarding me?   I'm so confused.  Let's play.

Ok, I'd read about three quarters of your post, skipped to the last paragraph, and went back to read the rest.  If that doesn't get me one of your boobs, how about squeezing a butt cheek? 

Blue

 

Well you can keep your boobs...I did not read it all..

Sorry, Not much for reading....

But i get the point...

What can i say...:Welcome to the real world !!

If your ugly people piss on you..

If you beatiful people lie to you..

 

I'm ugly, but i kinda like it. People are honest to me!!!

I bet that you have a "few" liers around you....have a nice day..

 

this blog was awesome! before I hit the weights girls hurt my feelings and made fun of me religuiosly!

then I buffed up and , some people think im a dumb jock or around those lines. I totally saw eye to eye on this blog! One of the better ones I have read on myspace!

Richie

 

I know this is a trite expression,
but beauty IS on the inside. I never
date anyone long term just for their
external looks. If you can't imagine
that you can still love someone no
matter what happens to their body,
why bother? Dr. Leary was right,
intelligence is the ultimate aphrodesiac
(and personality too). Bodies can be
broken, crippled, burned, disfigured.
Your mind is far more difficult to break.

You remind me soooo much of one of my
best friends. She's a genius who went
to college at 16 and graduated at 20.
She also happens to have an amazing
body, gorgeous face and huge boobs.
Because of her looks, almost no guys
take her seriously. They just look at
her as a sex object and assume she's a
stupid slut, even though she's only had sex
with one guy, who was her boyfriend.
I have incredible respect for her and
become highly annoyed when she has to
put up with stupid BOYS. That's right, BOYS,
true gentleMEN are hard to find. :(

Please, please, please stick by your principles
and your interests. Someday, you will discover that
your "rule" will help you find your prince.
Change society by your example. Giving in
to THEIR sterotypes will not serve you.
Be a diamond in a sea of dirty coal
and your light will shine forever.

Much love and respect,
Baron
 

time to turn in the one boob.. i read everything.. lol.. as cliche as it sounds, you just have to wait for the right guy to come by.. stick to your values, morals and beliefs and make sure you find someone that appreciates you for who you are.. dont let society or people dictate or twist your morals.. in time, the right person will come around.. i do have to admit that before i started talking to you a lot, i did stereotype you.. ok, now that i have probably cockblocked some random guy and he hates me, i think i'll go to bed..
 

This is a testimony all women around the world sould read and understand yet some really are the bimbos you were talking about but those make girls like you be seen in the same way as them, which is bad and unfair!

Sincerely, of all the modells on myspace or the "stereotypical girls" (as you say) your the only one who has proved that has a brain, and a verry good one too. I don't claim that other girls are stupid, but they just won't take the time to prove that they're not just a body and their atittude leads to this idiotic treatment we all receive from the male part of the population!

Anyway, this was a very entertainig and nice lecture, it actually made my heart grow inside of me to see that there are powerful women who are both pretty and smart!

Kudos!

 

AWESOME!
I can kinda relate...I was picked on alot back in the day for many things....Its sad that looks mean that much in this world huh

:(
 

Hmm, I guess I'm an ugly boy, then! Too bad we ugly folks don't rule the planet..yet, it would be a better place without over consumption and war. But just wait, we'll get there. Until then - nicely written blog, fellow language police! Yup, that's also part of our ugly-people-takes-over-the-world-plan. Education wins over Hollywood egos.
;)
 

can you possibly be any more fucking cool/gorgeous/intelligent?
i think not.


thank god theres at least one girl on myspace that can have fake
boobs and know who the president of the united states is at the same time.


(: ♥
 

ABSOLUTELY POSITUTELY BORDERING ON BRILLIANT ! AS INSPIRING A..DIATRIBE OF SELF - AWARENESS AS THERE NEVER WAS !! PURE PLEASURE..TO READ , THE REALISM ALONE WORTH THE PRICE OF THE ADDMISSION ,..HIGHLY INSIGHTFULL STUFF , WE SHOULD ALL BE SO UGLY , ROCK ON WITH..YER BAD SELF !!!
 

Sarah, You need to be who you are! If people don't love you for you then they are not worth it! I can tell by your writings that you have a loving heart. Man should love you for that not some superficial dream they have. You can look into your eyes to see that you have a good sole and just want the best for you. It is better to live by rules then to be rule-less. I would rather have a conversation with a woman who can return the conversation. I think you need to see the goodness in a person before you see the outside beauty. With out the inside beauty then the out side is just as ugly.
You seem to be beautiful inside and outside!!! :)
 

Um Hi, You're awesome.

 

I am going to need proof to believe you were at any point in your life unattractive let alone fugly" haha i dont believe it!!