We often feel that we don't have the time or energy to
extend ourselves to others with the small gestures that
compose what we call common courtesy. It sometimes
seems that this kind of social awareness belongs to the
past, to smaller towns and slower times. Yet, when
someone extends this kind of courtesy to us, we always
feel touched. Someone who lends a helping hand when
we are struggling with our groceries makes an impression
because many people just walk right by. Even someone
who simply makes the effort to look us in the eye, smile,
and greet us properly when entering a room stands out
of the crowd. It seems these people carry with them the
elegance and grace of another time, and we are always
thankful for our contact with them. Common courtesy
is a small gesture that makes a big difference.

An essential component of common courtesy is awareness
and common sense; looking outside yourself to see when
someone needs help or acknowledgment. As a courteous
person, you are aware that you are walking into a room full
of people or that your waiter has arrived to take your order.
Then, awareness leads to action. It is usually quite clear
what needs to be done-open the door for the woman
holding the baby, move your car up two feet so another
person can park behind you, acknowledge your sister's
shy boyfriend with a smile and some conversation,
apologize if you bump into someone. A third component
is to give courtesy freely, without expecting anything in
return. People may not even take notice, much less
return the kindness, but you can take heart in the
fact that you are creating the kind of world
you want to live in with your actions.

When you are out in the world, remember to be aware
of others, lend your hand when one is needed,
and give this help without an ulterior motive.

Through these small actions,
you make this world a better place in which to live.