Okay guys I wrote a new blog today over at my site www.nwmasssmedia.com called Put A Ring On It. check it out below.

I've been in heated debates on this topic on a lot of other sites. At twenty-eight years of age I don't know how or when did this world take a turn for the worst? Now I know it's the new age and all but I can not get with it. Call me old fashion but I still believe in marriage! My grandma always said to me "If you good to lay down with than your good enough to marry."  When did being made official become wrong? When did we as women decide that being married is no longer important?

All I keep hearing is as long as he treats me nice it don't matter? Do we as women no longer know the benefits that marriage brings?  Why do we let men off the hook, what about our daughters do we raise them in just being a man's fu** buddy. Do we tell our kids that marriage is not important? Do we tell our daughters that it's okay to have babies with a man and he does not have to commit to you? I don't understand it please tell me if I'm stuck in the seventies or this world has no more values and has brainwashed the women into believing that were only good enough to date?

I'll be the first in line to holla nigg** ain't shi* but the truth be told we as women often look over the good men because we feel like he's a lame. He's to nice (<—- The stupidest shi* I ever said, ex Lisa Wu husband) He's a goofy are whatever is said. We run behind the wrong type of guy because his thug style and swagger got us off our rocker. Than when he stomps over our heart or we find out about his twenty other woman he got, you start hollering Nigg** ain't shi* are start back with there ain't no good man in the world crap.

I feel like men are never gonna step up and be what there supposed to be as long as we as women keep backing down and settling for less. Why should they stop running wild when they can freely have there cake and eat it to. Have a baby momma and not worry about wifeing her. Have a wife and a woman on the side because she don't care that he's married. I just think it's sad that we have come to this; ten years ago the world was much different. I'm scared to see where we will be in another ten years if we don't get it together. I know ya'll saying check your man and I agree but if we as women stick together instead of competing against one another than we could check our man. And my prime example is these cooperating ho's (I hate these type of bitches) I found a number once before and I called up the girl and she clearly lied for my boyfriend saying it wasn't like that.  They was just friends from high school. Now I got him lying and her lying instead of them saying yeah we fuc**. That way I can remove myself from the mess instead of holding on. So you all say check yo man but he ain't gonna tell the truth so why go along with his game if you're his side woman? I don't understand that mess but anyway back to the topic.

I was telling my sister and her friends that our relationships usually don't work out as women because we try to step on God's toes.  The bible says "When a man finds a woman he finds a good thing." it does not say when a woman finds a man she finds a good thing. So were out here running behind these men and we've already stepped in and took over God's order.  Instead of letting him chase you like God intended it your doing the total opposite. And it never works out because anytime you have to chase behind a man that means he's not checking for you like that. So he looks at it like "She will always be there I got her on lock, I'll do me and when I'm ready I'll treat her right."  Than your loving him more than you love yourself and your putting up with all his bullshi*  because you have doomed that relationship from the start. The correct way is to let a man chase you let him fall in love with you first. I feel like and I don't know if this is true, but if a man loves you more, if he took all his time chasing you, when he gets you he will appreciate it and will do all the things to keep you because he doesn't want to lose you.  If you running behind him why should he care about treating you bad you checking for him.

to be cont...

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