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Craig Bickhardt



Last Updated: 11/30/2009

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Status: Single
City: Glen Mills
State: Pennsylvania
Country: US
Signup Date: 2/3/2007
Saturday, May 31, 2008 

Current mood:  pensive
Category: Writing and Poetry
The song "Giant Steps" was written for my son Jake in 1994.  I hope others who have children with disabilities will find some inspiration in it.

About the same time this song was written I also wrote the piece below.  I don't know why I felt compelled to share this stuff today, maybe it's the rainy weather...


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Falling Dream (1994)

My young son has begun to talk about his dreams; strange dreams to him. He's falling and calling out to someone below, Please catch me, but they can't hear and they don't answer.  In his terror he falls until he awakens.

He stands before me now, cut on one knee, an elbow, and both of his hands. This time it's his lame leg, not his dreams, that sent him tumbling head first. As he throws the heavy limb ahead of him, he sometimes throws it too far to the right and the cross up sends him sprawling on the grass if he's lucky; on something less forgiving if he's not. Gravity is his enemy, always conspiring with the roots of trees and the shoulders of washout stones To bring him down.

He has fallen in the drive this time. The bloodied skin is raised like Braille from the impress of the gravel. While his sister sings to him, I minister to his wounds, visiting the stations of his pain with alcohol and cotton.  I gently wrap the gauze around the backs of his hands and he turns his palms upward in a saint-like gesture, blessing me with a smile.

Then I go inside to write a long overdue letter to a friend. I tell my friend  I've been on a kind of precipice myself, fearing the winds that threaten to sweep me off the ledge I'm clinging to.  There are days when life with my son is challenging, and a dark horizon looms three hundred and sixty degrees around me.  And then there are those days of singing blue sky,when I know I'm a lucky to have him.  On those days my heart is an eagle's feather and I am made for rough winds.

My friend is trying to be helpful when he says he's there for me. He says to call if I need him.  I would call, but my voice is lost in the chasm between us. The closest of friends can drift apart under duress.

What can I tell you, son, about those dreams that alarm you?  This flesh is too heavy for the spirit's wings to lift us. Each of us in his way is a child of the falling-dream, an echo of the unanswered call, and ours is a constant prayer for the sudden awakening.  


Arcadian Skies

 
Dear Craig!

Lovely song and touching thoughts!
All the bliss and bless to you and your dears!

Petra & Bernd
Arcadian Skies
 
Posted by Arcadian Skies on Saturday, May 31, 2008 - 9:20 PM
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Charlotte Ryerson

 
This was achingly beautiful. I want to write more in your comments because the world needs to see your writing and hear this amazing song!
 
Posted by Charlotte Ryerson on Saturday, May 31, 2008 - 9:38 PM
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Andie

 
Thanks for sharing, Craig. This blog really touched my heart. Especially today. I don't have children with physical disabilities. In that, I am blessed. The only things I know about it, I've learned from the time I've spent with Grace G. However, I do have two sons with learning disabilities and it breaks my heart to see the obstacles they face. One of the worst things for any parent to come to terms with, is the fact that you can't "fix it". No kisses will make it better. My oldest decided more than once that it was just too hard, and quit school only to return and try again. This last time he wound up in a GED course, because he had missed too much time to be a senior this year. He has taken the 8 hour long test, and now we prayerfully and hopefully wait for the results. He moved out of my home just last evening. It's time for him to make what he can of his life. From the first time I held them, I've wanted to protect them from the world and it's cruelties, but I know that's an impossible feat. I just hope I've done my part well, and loved them enough to help them succeed. Sometimes I wonder.
 
Posted by Andie on Saturday, May 31, 2008 - 9:41 PM
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Nathan Bell

 
When I find myself wondering how to define the act of being a father, I often think of you in Nashville when we would sit and talk about how to make each day worthwhile and how to love those around us. You always seemed to know how to do that without question and with great calm and courage. I've always admired that most about you, friend. And used your good work and kind life as a guide for my own. Thank you...

Nathan
 
Posted by Nathan Bell on Saturday, May 31, 2008 - 11:06 PM
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Kevin Van Pay

 
Nice job Craig,

Luckily both of my kids are healthy, but I could see how painful it was for my parents, who had to watch me go through 9 months of chemo 20 years ago...

Best wishes
Kevin Van Pay
 
Posted by Kevin Van Pay on Saturday, May 31, 2008 - 11:08 PM
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Monty Savitz

 
Hi Craig,

Beautiful song and very touching piece you wrote there. I wish we didn't have things like that to deal with in this ole world but God always seems to give the children with disabilities to the parents with the biggest hearts and the most love to give. I know he is truly a blessing for you.
 
Posted by Monty Savitz on Sunday, June 01, 2008 - 4:25 AM
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Ande Rasmussen

 
what a lovely song
 
Posted by Ande Rasmussen on Tuesday, June 03, 2008 - 1:34 AM
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Mad Dog & CC

 
I have always been moved by your music, Craig, but here I am especially touched by all the kindness and love being sent back to you. Isn't the world an amazing place when you open up your heart to it?

As always, the best to you and yours.

Colette
 
Posted by Mad Dog & CC on Wednesday, June 04, 2008 - 4:08 AM
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becca bessinger

 
it's such a pleasure to read anything you've written because you are a consummate writer, but getting a glimpse inside your experience as a father is all the more poignant -- painfully joyous. having heard the song several times before reading your blog, i must say, it was surprisingly relateable and touching to me as someone who has not had your experience. one of your many gifts as a writer and musician.

 
Posted by becca bessinger on Wednesday, June 11, 2008 - 3:05 PM
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Andrew Scott Wills

 
Craig thanks for being such an inspiration to me. You are clearly are a great singer-songwriter but you are even more clearly an even greater father.

Andy
 
Posted by Andrew Scott Wills on Tuesday, June 16, 2009 - 7:59 PM
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