I'm going to keep this relatively short and simple. I heard about a situation today being discussed on the radio where a young mother of 3 needed advice on what to do about her man---the father of the children---who is coming home from a 7-year stint in jail.

For some reason, she has a deep suspicion that her man was engaging in homosexual activity in jail. They apparently had a discussion before he came home and he told her something to the effect that if a man has sex with another man only once then he doens't have to or can't be considered gay. She wants to know how to deal with this.

There is only one solution, really. Taking into account all of the STDs and the fact that she'll never know the extent of his activities during that 7-year bid, she should take her children and move on. There is nothing else to consider.

But, this situation brings several things to light. One, the attitudes of some men who are incarcerated towards their own needs and sexuality. Two, her loyalty to him for 7 years in spite of a criminal record that has now revealed homosexual activity. Now, I don't know their entire situation, but any woman who's going to stand by a dude who got 7 years may have had a thing for "bad boys" or "thugs".

I don't wish her situation on anyone, but look at what wanting an "exciting" life with a thug got her. Look at where your feeling of "protection" has left you. Totally exposed and unprotected. And now, 3 fatherless children. I'm just saying this...you go out looking for a "hard", "street" dude and look at the consequences. Multiple children at a young age, a dude who now can't get a job and now might be having secret relations with other men---maybe even the men they were locked up with---and God knows what else.

Time to wake up, ladies. That Thug Life is not having a good life.