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how can we get along with our haters ?

can you get along with a hater all day long?!
the outcome will make you stupefied like questioning about that :
" can cocacola & pepsi hug each other ? " very funny!


i used to be a friendless guy for my poor relations with others, i did anything all alone in my going and coming,although i ownd an overwhelming charm when i stood on a stage in pubic,my expresses & performances were always a highlight in crowd,i knew how to impress people,but this kinda skill was useless for me to improve my interpersonal relationship,when i stepped down from the stage,previous highlight suddenly fade out into darkness,i had no idea of getting along well with others,this made me troublesome, even if i majored in television & broadcasting for the sake , i merely gain little improvement in surface,little by little,i was aware of a conclusion,i got used to focus on myself more than others,lived a self-centered life,i tended to be easily offended by others , even if those didn't attempt to provoke,i got used to put them in my heart,those somethings increasingly became anger saved into my depth of remembrance,extremely not to give up tiny details,sometimes ,to correct someone's character will be more diffcult than move a grand mountain.. afterwards,i received Jesus as my savior,i ever pray God to give me a good relations with others for gospel's reason,also i hope to become a popular guy about school & people..

i put it aside for couple months after my prayer , i almost damn forgot it till i attended a special christian meeting ,there was a certain elderly pastor was from U.S. who prayed for me , i didn't know him at all , of cause , i also didn't leak out any thing of my background ,but holy spirit moved his heart and through him to tell me words of knowledge of so called revelation,God reminded me that i ever prayed him to ask a good relations with others,and his answer was "help those who are weak , you will gain a good relations with others" , WOW! i was amazed by God's wise answer,you know... i used to be the kinda stereotype of regarding to my personal private matters, i was good at protecting my self,i never shared anyone about my secrets inside, when God openly manifested it , i was suprised & embarrassed by it , but in my deep heart,i true experienced his lifelike intimacy in my life, i had ever tried to made a self-improvement to change myself through a kinda training system like Carnegie,but outcome was in vain,i still couldn't break through my bottleneck,out of my thoughts ,God's wisdom beyond my imagination, i never considered to help people that could actually improving my poor relations with others , in reverse , i supposed if i want to be popular before people , all i had to do just to spotlight on myself..

later, i was graduated from school and join the military service,God put me on a small & backward island i never thought of ,over there,i run into my very very hateful man , he was my direct commanding officer,we used to live together about 1 and a half years, that should be counted as my greatest sufferings,if i had the alternative, i will not hesitate to get rid of him as fast as i could..but i lived in army where especially pay attention to obey disciplines....

he was a short-tempered & odd man ,he liked to monitor my any move all the time,if only what i did was out of his weird standards , he will extremely take action to oppress me with his authority,i endured at the start, but i am flesh man after all, as bombs and matchsticks were bound up (also like cocacola & pepsi) , sooner & later , the volcano had been ready to erupt,we always kept a tense relationship at the edge of terrible explosion,the one and only outlet to release my unsatisfied feelings was prayer,at the start i begged God's loving-kindness to take me away, he gave me no answer , but he change my heart to pray for him,sometimes i struggled and thought whether this was worthy to do it, but in order to avoid situations becoming worse & worse , i had no alternative to pray for him day by day,afterwards,i indirectly got knowledge of his background,to turn out that ...when he grew up ,his father also cruelly treated him as he treated me,for the sake,he unknowingly use this method to deal with his relationship..

actually, he was not the one and only example , there were good many cases like him, in my artillery troop , it's always a "honorable" tradition to connive senior soldier bullying raw recruits , they thought this kinda "training" was effective to lead and manage troops , it sounded very funny , when the bullyed raw recruits became senior , most of them usually took similar action to bully those innocent newcomers,even causing casualties,humanity is sometimes terrible,many people unconsciously take victims' mood to avenge themself,they don't know that they have been taken captives by hate, they are thirsty to suck bitter drinks as their vital nutrients,when we become adults ,our characters will be too solid to shape, as a slave tries to giving every effort to get rid his bondage in vain.

God let me live in a small island, thereby , it more or less reflected on my selfish bygones, it taught me a lesson: God removed impurities of my life which i couldn't be in harmony with others through those who had ever persecuted me,that's not one day's work but for years, i doesn't mention abstract concepts but real transformations, when we had parted till now,i don't abominate him at all in my heart of hearts , this is a truly wonderful healing beyond my past experiences,at present ,he was merely a passer-by in my life ever, he is always not an annoying fly live in my life i can't drive it away...

thank you Jesus , you give me a can of new drink,there isn't bitterness inside,but your loving-kindness,love is best lubrication of relationships..

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But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you

5:44 Matthew bible
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