I get asked a lot...what exactly do you like in a man? Well here's my little list. But let me first say that sometimes the minor things you like you don't get so this is more of what I prefer in a man except for what I must have except number 1(that is a definite!)
1. Must have faith in the Lord...My man HAS to love, trust, and have a lot of faith in the Lord. Does that mean I expect my man to be perfect and "holier than thou"...no; cause I sure am not.
2. I'm kinda old school I guess. I expect the man to be head of household, making the big decisions, and able to provide me with protection and security. This is my theory on the situation....men need to be men. I hear men saying all the time that they want to be treated as such but really aren't doing what they need to do as a man to get that treatment. I know for me...if I don't feel like a woman, I can't make you feel like man. If I'm taking on a man's role, what I need a man for and therefore what am I making an effort to make him feel like a man for when he's no use for me?
3. Must like Black women...If he's one of those brothers that got this physchological defect that causes them to justify why he doesn't really like Black women and mostly dates others for whatever reason...I'm not really trying to hear it. That's really a pet peeve of mine so I try to avoid that ignorance as much as possible. I want a man that praises me as a Black woman and his race as a whole.
4. Realistic...There are a lot of guys these days trying to break into music and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But if I have a man asking for that career I really hope that he has a backup plan and realizes that there are millions of people trying to get into music and only a select few are really on the charts and making money. So gentlemen whatever really ambitious career you have, always have a plan B. Don't give up on your dream and passion, but there's gonna be a point in time when you just have to be realistic.
5. An honest man....no need to lie; just let it all out; with anything. There's no need to cheat on me. If a guy feels like he can't be with just one woman, I want him to tell me. Then I'll be like "Baby, let's end our relationship now and you go do what you need to do; and if you feel like that's how you want it, then fine. But if you feel like you can see yourself with just me, then we can do this." But lying about that or anything ain't gon make the situation better for anyone.
6. Physically?? As long as I am attracted to him....I've talked to all complexions, sizes (not like Ruben Studdard though), and heights.
Oh, and I don't date drug dealers, gangsters, or whores....if he doesn't have respect for himself, he won't have respect for me.
Not trying to come off any way, I just get asked this a lot.