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Gender: Female
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 28
Sign: Leo

City: Rotherham
Country: UK
Signup Date: 6/13/2005

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Saturday, March 01, 2008 

Current mood:Proud
Category: News and Politics

As many of you will know I am currently working with the South Yorkshire Pride commitee to put on the first ever LGBT pride event in Sheffield. (http://www.southyorkshirepride.co.uk)

I was asked at a fundraiser we held this week why we need to hold pride events. The reason that this question interested me is because it didn't come from someone who was heterosexual or homophobic or in any way questioning or unsure of the gay community. The question in fact was posed by one of the staff at a gay bar I attended before the fundraiser. As an active member of the community and a regular on Sheffield's gay scene he explained that he has no problem whatsoever with a big gay festival in fact as a bit of a party animal himself he is fully supportive of any such event. His query was specifically with the term "Pride". His view is that you can be proud of an achievement; passing your driving test, winning a race etc, but being gay is just something that you are, not something that you have achieved. So while he is completely out, open and happy with his sexuality, he questioned whether it is really something that he would consider himself to be proud about.

There are two points in my response to this. Firstly I am proud. I am proud to be a member of a community who over many years have campaigned for equality and human rights, who have achieved changes in laws and attitudes and prejudices within society as a whole. I am proud to live my life in an open and honest way and to be who I am despite the prejudices and discrimination which still exist. In a world where many prejudices still exist, racism, sexism etc homophobia is different. It is virtually impossible to hide the fact of being black or female, however you can hide being gay. You can feel ashamed of your sexuality and/or choose to remain closetted The process of coming out for many people is a major event in their life and one I believe is fully justified of feeling proud of.

Secondly I feel that pride events still serve a major purpose. In a world where 7-12% of the population are Lesbian, Gay or Bisexual depending on the statistical source (we don't need to argue over exact figures, needless to say there are a lot of us) the LGBT community is massively under represented. Sheffield is the fourth largest city in the UK outside of London and the largest city in the UK to have never held a pride event. Pride events are still an important tool in the campaign for complete equality. Homophobia still exists. People are still abused, attacked and killed on a daily basis across the world. We still don't have full partnership rights and can't get married (civil partnerships are different to a marriage). Sexual health provision for gay women is virtually non existent. Homophobic bullying in schools is still happening on a maasive scale. Incitement to hatred on grounds of religion is illegal but incitement to hatred on grounds of sexuality isn't. The list goes on. We have made massive advances over the years since the UK's first gay pride march in 1972 but we still have a long way to go in achieving equality. Pride events are a massive tool in this, in gaining visability, acceptance and continuing campaigning. It is also a fantastic way to bring together a massive community of people which includes people of all genders, ages, religions, ethicities etc to celebrate the diversity of their community, their achievments and their pride.

If you would like to find out more or get involved with South Yorkshire Pride, please email southyorkshirepride@hotmail.co.uk

My role on the pride commitee is organising the main stage so if you have any queries about that specifically then please feel free to contact me.

If you would like to help in a practical way by donating some cash to the event, please go to the website http://www.southyorkshirepride.co.uk click on funding on the left hand side and you will see a paypal link. South Yorkshire Pride is a not for profit community event which is being funded by various fundraiser events, donations and some wonderful people who are working for free to support the event. All donations however small will be greatfully received.

Currently listening:
Multi Kontra Culti vs. Irony
By Gogol Bordello
Release date: 17 September, 2002
Phil
Phil Leaver

 
Awesome! sounds cool,

30th anniversary Mardi Gras this year Sydney (last nite)

I am 30 this year too

Regards with the event!!
 
Posted by Phil on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 00:05
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ScottR
Scott Reitmeyer

 
Good Luck!!
 
Posted by ScottR on Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 06:27
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Lisa
Lisa Hash

 
Whether I agree with your opinions or not you always give me something to think about. At first both sides seemed logical enough until I really thought about it.

I am proud of my Italian ancestry, I am proud to be an American, I am a proud Auntie. I celebrate all of these, although, not necessarily in the same way.

I am also a heterosexual. Not anything I am "proud" of nor do I celebrate. Just what I am. I also do not celebrate being 5'6. On the surface this makes sense but not a stable foundation for an arguement.

I am proud of my Italian ancestry because of their contributions to the world, as we all should be should be regarding our cultures. I spent many nights listening to my grandmother talk about the old country. I am proud to be an American. While we may screw up, I believe we have made positive contributions to this world. Both Italian and American pride comes from accomplishments, perseverance, and the ability to overcome.

The fact that I am 5'6 and heterosexual has posed me no such obstacle. I know that sounds like a "duh" statement, but it's the heart of the arguement for me. Why should I celebrate something that was given to me at no cost and weighs nothing to carry?

Homosexuals and those with height challanges have had to persevere and overcome. In my humble opinion, send the invites and let's celebrate! Really if you think about it, with all the crap going on in this world, why not join in if someone has found a reason to celebrate. Life's to short to pass up the party.
 
Posted by Lisa on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 00:59
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dark side of the rainbow
ellis cain

 
im proud to be gay. but sad. for all the progress we have made with convincing governments that we are human, no one really believes us or cares for us as a community. black people are humans with black skin. we can test them in all the ways we can test each other and they are the same as us, with black skin. the same with all races. exactly the same as us. but whos going to give a shit about gay people? why should they make allowances for people but have sex with the same sex and say its all in the name of love? humanities faith in love is shaken and frail to begin with. my mums boyfriend was educated at oxford university and really is incredably sharp. he asked me, in all inneocent curiosity how i can expect to love properly, when the stark contrasts between a man and a woman is what fuels the deep love they hold for one another. i presume he was refering to the strengths each sex posses, the bravery and powerful love men give out, recieved by the woman who is gentle and constant, and soft against his rough. to him i could claim only one thing. that to me a man's touch only hits the surface and a womans reaches untold depths. that for me there is no alternative, and if my love is obtuse, if the blocks "can't" fit, that is my cross to carry.
It is true that two effeminate gay men will make strange bedfellows even too one another, yet they make it work. Im equally certain that two butch lesbians would not have ideally picked one another. im sure those women in which the true spirit of man resides in would much preffer an effiminate woman to her doppleganger.
so i feel sad for us. but i know without a shadow of a doubt that our love is real, from personal closure on the subject of weather or not gayness is something chosen or something set in concrete.

But society will always look at us funny. We are as confusing as holding two mirrors against one another. We defy conventions and for society we open up unanswerable psycoliogical and physiological questions. And i know from personal experiance that every last straight person is capable of making a homophobic jibe or joke. or has. or would.

And when it comes to politics, the motive is simple. promote gay rights, get the gay vote. Thats 10% more votes, according to you. Not to mention they come over as being more humanitarian. the gay community is desperate for recognistion and something to hold on to. Coming out is hard and even when you are out there is a certain resentment ever present. resentment at being segregated, mocked, and treated like a special case. i mean come on people, every one of us knows a gay dave, or gay danny, or lesbo rita. mostly the people
who get these nicknames are those who fully embrace their sexuality.

think about tegan and sara. i mean really, they arent that good and if they were pretty gay and twins theyd be right about nowhere atm. musically i mean...but they do something good for the gay community. everyone gets together and shares something and knowing that the music is made by gay girls makes them feel far more relevant.

i dont know what the conclusion of all this is but i think what i just said dont seem to get talked about too much. if anyone wants to argue against any of this im more than happy to hear it. im pretty smashed right now, and feeling slightly sulky so theres gona be plenty of bias up there but anyway. if you dont agree, then come with it. i have plenty more to say on all of this. sorry about the spelling. and the randomness of this. i just dont get to talk about it much.
 
Posted by dark side of the rainbow on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 02:17
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g
Glenn Cox

 
Okay, I'm going to go off on a rant here:

The heart of the matter is "civil rights" issues. Gay communities started "Pride Days" in order to promote their cause politically and to promote "civil rights" for gays. Hence your comparison of "blacks" and "gays" - but there is a significant difference, which I shall elaborate later.

As for "civil rights", what exactly are "civil rights"? In a nutshell they are the rights to be treated equally under the law, to not be discriminated against. They are different from "human rights" which recognizes that people have certain requirements in order to live. In both cases, "rights" are defined by the governing bodies of nations which also define the laws to which their citizens are subject. Ergo, "rights" are subject to political influence. I'll tell you right now, if 50million Americans didn't go to work tomorrow, and didn't go to work until the government provided "human rights" for the fetus, by April America would be abortion free. Look at Lech Walesa and Solidarity in Poland.

In America, blacks were discriminated against, and so they protested for "civil rights" - the right to not be discriminated against because of their race. Then women fought for the right to not be discriminated against because of their gender. Then gays fought for the right to not be discriminated against because of their sexual orientation. These are all "civil rights" issues - but should "civil rights" be given carte blanche to determine policies?

The main difference between blacks and women as opposed to gays is that race and gender are physiological whereas sexual orientation is behavioural. This sets a dangerous precedent for "civil rights". Should any person be granted "civil rights" based upon their behaviour, choice, actions or will?

As an example, I would like to advocate "civil rights" for "lazy" people. Heck, I'm not lazy by choice, I was "born this way". My boss shouldn't be allowed to fire me because I'm lazy. In fact, he should promote me based upon an affirmative action program because I'm a visible minority (all the other "hard-working" employees saw me doing nothing).

What I'm waiting for is all the pedophiles to get together and demand "civil rights" for their sexual preference (young kids). Why not? Seriously, why not?


Oh, I know what you just thought. You thought, "That's different. What 2 consenting adults do is their own business. Kids are too young to give consent." Did you know that insane persons cannot give legal consent and that gays were once considered insane? Using your own line of reasoning, gays never should have acquired "civil rights" because their actions were obviously insane and therefore they could not give consent and were being manipulated. But there were enough of them publicly bitching to acquire political influence and change policy.

"Civil Rights" is merely a tool in the hands of politically ambitious special interest groups to promote their cause of the day. Just wait and see what the future holds. 20 years from now, you will be shocked at what the next generation dreams up.
 
Posted by g on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 15:38
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g
Glenn Cox

 
I'm always wondering why there isn't a homophobic pride day. And did you ever answer your questions (blog)?
 
Posted by g on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 04:47
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Tomahawk

 
i think it's stupid, people are people. by seggerating yourself you're only embracing intolerance.
 
Posted by Tomahawk on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 05:55
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Doctor Terror

 
The question had never occurred to me, but its a good one. Your justification is better though. Congratulations on the event, best of luck for it.
 
Posted by Doctor Terror on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 11:46
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Karen

 
"In a world where many prejudices still exist, racism, sexism etc homophobia is different. It is virtually impossible to hide the fact of being black or female, however you can hide being gay. You can feel ashamed of your sexuality and/or choose to remain closetted The process of coming out for many people is a major event in their life and one I believe is fully justified of feeling proud of."

I totally agree.

Having grown up around Brighton, it's surprised me since moving here that Sheffield doesn't have its own Pride event. I'm really happy to see this being redressed and looking forward to the inaugural event!
 
Posted by Karen on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 14:55
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Glenn Cox

 
You're so right! I was always ashamed of fucking the neighbor's dog when he wasn't looking. But no more! I'm coming out of the closet! Tomorrow I'm going to promote "International Dog-Fucker's Day" by fucking his dog in full view of him and his family! Thanks for the encouragement. :)
 
Posted by g on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 15:51
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Scott
Scott Royce

 
Very well written...
 
Posted by Scott on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 20:50
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Martin
Martin Jones

 
Like you, violet skye, I have joined a cause I believe in and am active in. You were the inspiration, in part, to make that decision ( www.usmissions.org ) as well as needing a job and a place to stay. I go out and talk with men who are lost - down and out - outcast to the streets - alone... and try and provide them with hope. We also do fundraising ( gotta find a way to pay the bills ! )

And you protect people's needed civil rights. Way to go !
 
Posted by Martin on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 21:22
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Angel Villanueva
Angel Villanueva

 
And we are proud of you. Keep up the good work! :)

Many blessings,
~A.V.
 
Posted by Angel Villanueva on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 21:25
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Sgt Jamesway ~MAC/NMC~

 
I got to do alot of work with Heritage of Pride in NY, from the rallies to the dance on the pier, Really good times and I am straight,and have brought my girlfriend to a few events and circuit parties in manhattan. Just a great crowd that knows how to have a good time !
I find the display to intolerance is the biggest bang of pride activism. For me nothing is more punk rock or offensive to uptight conservatives than homosexuality.
Good luck !
 
Posted by Sgt Jamesway ~MAC/NMC~ on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 22:09
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Mandy
Mandy Parr

 
JUST TWO SIMPLE WORDS FOR YOU WHO AM I TO JUDGE?....... GOD BLESS!
 
Posted by Mandy on Sunday, March 02, 2008 - 22:59
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Judas Iscariot

 
Hey Lioness !!!

Why Pride?

We do not choose our orientation, but we do choose whether or not we accept that about ourselves and others in our group. By accepting ourselves, with love, and understandig, we also accept others like us. This process, of self acceptance, self knowlege, which leads us to a better understanding of our peers, is not a point of minor note, is is a MAJOR LIFE ACHEIVEMENT.

So YES, this is a celebration of ACHEIVEMENT, it is a celebration of ENLIGHTENMENT that we accept ourselves, our brothers and sisters, for being OUT, which is not given from birth, but is an EARNED PROCESS !!!

Just my two cents on the matter.

Luv N Hugs

Greggory
 
Posted by Judas Iscariot on Monday, March 03, 2008 - 06:30
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g
Glenn Cox

 
"Sexual Freedom For All!"
 
Posted by g on Tuesday, March 04, 2008 - 17:58
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Steph
Stephanie Davies

 
Good luck with this :)
 
Posted by Steph on Monday, April 14, 2008 - 20:00
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