when some one that you love and trust lies to you and that lie has an impact on your life, what do you do about it? I know a person that was put in that situation and she came to me about it and I gave her my opinion but I am wondering what I would do in that situation. I gave her a scriptural opinion, but as a person I am wondering how I would have acted in that situation??? When people tell what we call white lies, that have very little if any affect on a person although we know that lies are sinful and just plain wrong, we just go on and forget about it. But when that lie affects you from the heart because you have made changes in your life to accommodate the person that lied to you and because you trusted that person and loved that person, how do you deal with that??
As a minister or a Christian one would look at things from the biblical stand point and trust God to work things out in their favor.
I did a survey and I spoke with the Christians and those in the secular community and have gotten a large variation of answers. Some of which I will list below.
Comments:
1. They should leave and not look back because the relationship was founded on a lie.
2. They should stay because they are married now and since they are married God expects them to honor their vows no matter what. He(God) will work things out for them if they trust him and let him take away the anger and the hurt. And the one of them that lied should ask both God and their spouse for forgiveness.
3. I would use it to get what i want and make him pay for every lie he told, until I got over his lies to me.
4. I would leave because who knows what else they have lied about, or will lie about and if they told unnecessary lies like the ones that I read then they have no regard for others and I don't know what else they are capable of.
5. I would consider the overall character of the person and then decide what to do because God knows what he is doing and will make a way for them to make it. They are married now if the person that lied doesn't cheat on the person that was lied to they would still be married in the site of God even if they divorced. The trust and faith in that person would be eventually restored if the liar did it because they were afraid that the person lied to would not have stayed with them. People do crazy thing when they love someone. They may never lie to their spouse again. I know that people in the world would disagree, but for the true Christian the only way out of a marriage is death unless one of them is found in adultery. Fair or not that is what the word of God says.
These are just a few of the responses that I received from other people, they are not necessarily my views. But if someone that you loved lied to you about something that was life altering what would you do???? How would you react? I would like to hear from any one about this. I hope to write a book about lies. The lies that we tell and why we tell them and the affect they have on others.