But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep,

that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.

14For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

15For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

16For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

When Jesus main man John the baptist was not only killed , but beheaded in prision , Jesus went away ,but the people followed Him .He did not yeild to the sorrow of the world ,or the grief of losing His cousin ,His friend . He resisted the devil and He got right in the middle of ministering to the people .

Matt 14:6-16

6But when Herod's birthday was kept, the daughter of Herodias danced before them, and pleased Herod.

7Whereupon he promised with an oath to give her whatsoever she would ask.

8And she, being before instructed of her mother, said, Give me here John Baptist's head in a charger.

9And the king was sorry: nevertheless for the oath's sake, and them which sat with him at meat, he commanded it to be given her.

10And he sent, and beheaded John in the prison.

11And his head was brought in a charger, and given to the damsel: and she brought it to her mother.

12And his disciples came, and took up the body, and buried it, and went and told Jesus.

13When Jesus heard of it, he departed thence by ship into a desert place apart: and when the people had heard thereof, they followed him on foot out of the cities.

14And Jesus went forth, and saw a great multitude, and was moved with compassion toward them, and he healed their sick.

15And when it was evening, his disciples came to him, saying, This is a desert place, and the time is now past; send the multitude away, that they may go into the villages, and buy themselves victuals.

16But Jesus said unto them, They need not depart; give ye them to eat.

He didnt let the grief or the sorrow get a hold of Him. Grief is a spirit it comes with the idea of losing something .It is always accompanied by a spirit of death . They hang together . Thats why when someone close to you dies ,

and your grieved , you also feel like you want to die too sometimes .Its that spirit of death taking hold on you . You need to resist that like you would the plauge . It will kill you if you let it .

Matt 10:21-22

21Then Jesus beholding him loved him, and said unto him, One thing thou lackest: go thy way, sell whatsoever thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, take up the cross, and follow me.

22And he was sad at that saying, and went away grieved: for he had great possessions.

When Jesus spoke to the rich young ruler , and told Him to get rid of his possesions .He was grieved , because he saw it as a lose ,not a seed to recieve a harvest . The whole kingdom of God is built in sowing and reaping . Seedtime and Harvest .

But this man didnt see it that way he only saw looseing it all . So he was grieved ,he saw the lose of all of his things ,and probly the death of his self ,

Jesus was also calling him to be a disciple .He wasnt ready to give up anything yet .

2 Corinthians 7:8-10 (Amplified Bible)

8For even though I did grieve you with my letter, I do not regret [it now], though I did regret it; for I see that that letter did pain you, though only for a little while;

9Yet I am glad now, not because you were pained, but because you were pained into repentance [and so turned back to God]; for you felt a grief such as God meant you to feel, so that in nothing you might suffer loss through us or harm for what we did.

10For godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct, produce a repentance that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance from evil, and it never brings regret; but worldly grief (the hopeless sorrow that is characteristic of the pagan world) is deadly [breeding and ending in death].

The only godly sorrow I can find is here wher Paul talks about it .And what hes saying here is he heard about the insest that was going on in the church ,and he had wrote a letter , { 1 Cor} to the church for correction , and it had caused a godly sorrow , it caused then pain , but it caused them to repent and turn to God .Which is what it is meant to do . Correction doesn't always feel good it causes pain to our flesh . But it has to be done to cause us to turn around and repent at times . But he is not talking about sorrow of the world here . yopu can see that as you read it esp . in this translation .

10For godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct, produce a repentance that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance from evil, and it never brings regret;

Here he tells us the reason for worldly sorrow ...

and what happens if we keep yeilding to it . In stead of resisting it like were told to do .

but worldly grief (the hopeless sorrow that is characteristic of the pagan world) is deadly [breeding and ending in death].

If your loved one was saved ,then you will be with them again ,they are not lost . Like the people of the world there loved ones are lost .they have reason to sorrow . We are of God ,we have HIs promise to save our children , to save our household . When we did were not lost ,we know exactly where we go .

To be absent in the body is to be present with the Lord .

2Cor.5 :6-8

6Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord:

7(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

8We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.

Sometimes just like our flesh enjoys a good pity party , we also in the flesh "enjoy sorrow" .It makes us feel responsable , if we dont grieve we dont love or care about the person . Its one of those "I" selfish things we do to make us feel better we think But actually it only invites demons of grief and death into our lives , satan loves this because he has us incapacitated then were all depressed and wanted to die ,were no good to anyone ,our family or our selves .And esp not to God and His work ,we can't do any anything . Our emotions can't ever be let loose to control our lives .Satan is good at lying . He uses these kinds of things against us all the time .Its time we stood up and said NO to the crafty things the devil tries on us ,instead of falling for it over and over again .And wondering why God did this to me ! God didn't do any sush thing to you ,its the devil who comes to kill steal and destroy you ,your family ,your kids , your babies . We as the body of Christ have been given authority over the devil ,we rule him .. Dont let him lie to you anymore .

The only way I know to handle this is resist the devil ,snd all his grief and sorrow , And death. Allow Jesus to fill you with His grace ,His joy , His peace . Start out by praising Him for His goodness ,continue praising until it lifts and departs from you and it will ,it cant stay in God s presence , and God does inhabit the praises of His people .

Worship the Lord . This is what David did when his child died . He worshiped .

2 Sam 12:18-23

18And on the seventh day the child died. David's servants feared to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, While the child was yet alive, we spoke to him and he would not listen to our voices; will he then harm himself if we tell him the child is dead?

19But when David saw that his servants whispered, he perceived that the child was dead. So he said to them, Is the child dead? And they said, He is.

20Then David arose from the floor, washed, anointed himself, changed his apparel, and went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he came to his own house, and when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate.

21Then his servants said to him, What is this that you have done? You fasted and wept while the child was alive, but when the child was dead, you arose and ate food.

22David said, While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, Who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me and let the child live?

23But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.

Jesus is our example ,were to follow Him . He says sorrow not as the world .When He says anything to us that means He gives us the power to do whatever He says to do . So we can sorrow not .

 He always makes a way to escape ...

Praise Him !

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