What a man desires is unfailing love; better to be poor than a liar. Proverbs 19:22

Understanding the foundation of unfailing love is the first stage to the sequel of loss. On the tour through life its almost certain that we all desire to truly find unfailing love. The sad reality is that we live in a world where love betrays, the only love that never fails or leaves is the perfect love found in our continued relationship with Jesus. Knowing God’s love is the sure foundation that will carry us through any and every loss. God’s love is the only love that can heal all wounds and it’s the only love that can fill all voids left behind from life losses. God promised to never leave us for forsake us even though many in this life will. Jesus love will never fail us. This sure foundation in the love God has for us is the well spring to finding love that last a lifetime.
We all desire and seek out love relationships that we hope will never fail. The love relationships we choose to be apart of will determine much of our future because the other persons attitudes and lifestyle will affect how we live ours. What we surround ourselves with in many ways we will become. Before cultivating love relationships you hope will last, cultivate your knowledge of God’s love for you. God promises us unfailing love that last a life time and if we can grasp and hold steady to His love it can overflow through our lives and our relationships creating the change we want to see. Only this kind of love breaks the falsehoods of love in a world where it has become a part-time thing.
The summer of 2008 I produced a concert with Warner Brothers Recording artist Jason Reeves along with Brendan James. Jason co-wrote with Colbie Caillat the smash hit song “Realize” from the double platinum album “Coco“. After the show was over Jason set outside The Music Hall parking lot and played “Realize” along with other songs he wrote with Caillat for the fans that stuck around. Through 2007 and 2008 “Realize” topped the radio charts through out the world. The song is very powerful because it displays the emotions of love. One of my hometown emo/pop bands, School Boy Humor even covered “Realize” for their freshmen EP released on legendary label Vagrant Records.
Though love songs illustrate very powerful love that is built around an emotion, songs doesn’t have the strength to withstand the chaos of this world. Love that last a life time isn’t built on a song, emotion, movie or a moment, nor is it built on sex, money or loneliness, those are foundations built on sink holes. Maybe your searching for unfailing love or maybe you think you have found it. Reality of divorce is more common in our modern society then reality of love that lasts a life time. The main reason divorce is so common in our culture is because the love isn’t rooted in God’s love but rooted in sink holes that are sure to fail. Take caution in who and how you chose to love.
Proverbs says our greatest desire is to know unfailing love but the Bible also tells us to guard our hearts for they are the wellspring to life. Getting caught up in the marriage bug can make you over look what is really before you. Don’t lie to yourself, just because you want to fill your loneliness with marriage doesn’t mean you wont be lonely and divorce a few years down the road. Waiting can make us all get impatient but taking second best only leads to more hardship. The crossroads of making the right choices begins with getting your love tank full of Gods love for you and understanding what you truly want.
Jeremiah 6:16 says This is what the Lord says, Stand at the crossroads and look ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is and walk in it and you will find rest for your souls.
I produced the Jason Reeves concert for the girl that had stolen my heart but because I was still very wounded from the divorce I lived through a few years earlier, I was carrying around a lot of fear, bitterness, and lack of faith that love could really last a lifetime. Sadly the relationship started to erode, though it had been leading toward unity in my heart and God had built a solid foundation the spiritual attacks on what the relationship stole what we had worked so hard for. Our relationship ended before the show even happened.
Though that relationship ended and the thief had done his damage the loss of that love caused many things to happen in me, it brought much healing and repentance. Poor choices in relationships from my past had put wounds in me the size of bullet holes. The love relationship I had before the Jason Reeves show had healed a multitude of hurts but the bullet wounds were still stuck in my heart and hadn‘t completely healed. God used the loss of that love to rip me apart pulling out the bullets of fear, bitterness and lack of faith.. Though the pain of loss had broken me, it brought me to that place again where I remembered the well spring of Gods love.
The sure foundation of God’s love removed many sorrows from my past and began to fill the holes in my heart. Surviving on Gods love was the only thing that gave me strength. Though I was single for the first time in many years I knew that settling for another relationship would never fill the void that only God’s love could fill. I realized that I could never find another love to replace the love I desperately needed from God. This is the place where true healing starts. God’s love is perfect and abundant He loves us so much that he will do what ever it takes to redirects our paths to Him. Though the door may close on love from seasons past Gods love never fails and is always protecting us on this spiritual tour. This is what the Bible says about the well spring of God’s unfailing love
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. I Corinthians 13:4-8
Be it our families, lovers, or friends, Christ’s love must be at the core before love can be more than a disposable word. Many of you that read this come from divorced families while some of you haven’t seen divorce in your home, or maybe your like me and have lived through divorce yourself. In searching for love that lasts a lifetime hold steady to the truth that God’s love for you never fails. If you will take steps toward knowing God’s love He will meet you more then half way and fill you with the healing power of His perfect love. God won’t put a Band-Aid over your wounds he will cut out the infection and put the healing love over you. After you have let His love begin to heal you, the virtues of His love will start to overflow from you. If you can let the way you love others be a reflection of God’s virtues in I Cor. 13 then He will lead you to the right relationships, where He can build a foundation of love that isn‘t built on sink holes.
As couples gather for their wedding ceremony they are celebrating their love, and confirming in public what has already happened in their hearts. As pastor for a wedding I have to sign the marriage license before the couples can take it to the state and confirm that they are married. In 2002 I pastured my first wedding ceremony in Ames, Iowa for my friends Travis and Wendy Pierce. Travis had just left his band Spoken right before they signed to Tooth and Nail Records to live with me in Fayetteville, Arkansas. I don’t know what Travis was thinking asking me to do his wedding but it was the fastest wedding anyone had ever been to. As I started the ceremony facing a church full of people I had never met, I forgot Wendy’s maiden name in the beginning of the service. I rushed through the message taking the total service into less than 10 minutes. I had a few people thank me because it was the fastest wedding they had ever been to. They had no clue that I rushed through it because I was the most nervous person in the room. Before the wedding day there should already be a foundation built on love from the couples hearts. The wedding itself is meant to be a picture of two people becoming one like Jesus says in Mark 10:9.
But at the beginning of creation God, made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.
Just like a wedding ceremony the moment anyone ask Jesus to forgive them of their sins and come into their life God gives birth to their spirit and unites Himself to their hearts. That moment we become one with God it goes beyond death do us part, it last for eternity. Like the wedding ceremony, baptism in water is meant to be a picture of what has already happened inside the heart of a believer. It is confirmation in public that they have found the love of Jesus that last beyond a lifetime.
For God so love the world that he gave his one and only Son, that who ever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16
I am sure none of you want to have a heartless marriage that is just a façade. Jesus didn’t die on the cross for our spiritual marriage relationship with Him to be a façade either. He died so we could truly know the power of Gods love . Jesus unites Himself with us when we confess with our mouth and believe in our hearts. His love will never leave us and is always faithful. When we begin to understand Gods love in view of not even death can part us, nothing can divorce us from His love then we can rest assured that we have found the love that will never die. Taping into this love ushers in the strength we need to carry us through any heartache.

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels, nor demons, neither the present, nor the future, nor any power, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord Romans 8:38-39
Has something separated you and made you feel rejected by someone you love? Maybe you had a parent walk out of your life never to return, maybe the divorce of your parents made you feel separated from what was once home, or maybe the person you have been in a long-term relationship with just left you. Even though you might have lost those seasons of love, nothing can divorce, separate, foreclose, or bankrupt Gods love for you. Even if we turn away from God’s love its still there. The reason love has become a disposable word is because the foundations are not connected to the source of unfailing love. The wellspring of Gods unfailing love is what makes us lovely, and it is the only way we find strength to stand in the gap and show love without conditions.
When those we love, be it lovers, spouses, family members or friends turn away there is nothing we can do to make them stay. The only way to fix the problem as far as it depends on us is to be the change we want to see and show them unconditional love. This reaction keeps us from playing games and making love a meaningless word. Yet with the wounds we have because of the loss, the only way we can respond as saints is by letting the knowledge of God’s unfailing love overflow through us. When our loved ones oppose us or attack us, if our love tank isn’t full of Christ love then we will be too wounded to respond as saints. Unhealed wounds cause us to take the side of giving up or even worse the sinner side in us makes us think we can get them back with revenge. That is all apart of the devils plan to still, kill and destroy , placing a red sea between family, love, and the relationships that God wants to use to eco his grace.
God’s perfect unfailing love has the power to cover over a multitude of hurts, and the power to heal all wounds. Once we “Realize” the source of unfailing love and never let go of it, we will never be the same. This realization will give God room to overflow His love to us and create in us the change we desire to see. At this crossroads of the spiritual tour God’s love comes full circle and we gain the only love that never fails. In a world were love betrays God’s love never fails. Even if those you once loved don’t realize what you have realized chose today to fill your wounds with Gods love. God’s unfailing love can turn the tide of the spiritual battle shining a light of love that last and healing the damage the devil has done to your heart and even the hearts of others.
Know that whatever ashes are left from your loss Gods love is going to turn those ashes into a crown of beauty if you let Him fill your bullet wounds with His unfailing love. The realization that you will never find another love like Gods is where love becomes real and last beyond a lifetime, where love becomes a full time thing, that always protects, always heals and never fails. Jesus died so everyone could experience the love of God. Take steps towards Gods love today and He will meet you beyond half way, He will fill you with His love so much that you will never be the same. Standing on the stage of God’s unfailing love turns our wounds into weapons of love that will become the change we want to see in the world where love betrays.
This is love; not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for or sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. (I John 4:9-12)
Personal Prayer: Jesus help me to see how much you love me. Even if you don’t give me what I want, help me to trust that you give me what I need. Please heal my wounds of loss with your unfailing love. Let your love overflow through me so I can show others the wellspring of your unfailing love.

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