I feel BM till has feeling for him because if she treats the baby like her own and there is no danger than what's the problem?? BM just want control over them and that's not right I'm a mother of three and if my childern's father get in a relationship with a woman and they plan to get married and she treat them with respect and love them like her own than I have no problem with that
 

SOUNDS LIKE BM SHOULD JST GET OVER IT. I MEAN IS SHE MAD CAUSE DUDE HAS MOVED ON?
 

HEY! I CAN FEEL THIS GUYS PAIN! I WAS WITH A GUY HAD HIS CHILD. HE HAD A OLDER CHILD AND SHE DIDN'T WANT OUR KIDS TO BE AROUND EACH OTHER BECAUSE OF HER DISLIKE FOR ME BEING HIS CURRENT WOMAN. SOME WOMEN AND MEN ARE TRIFLING THAT WAY!
 

I have a stepson and with his mom she actually gave me custody because she fely like i was more able to deal with him than her. we still communicate and i accept her input on his life also. i guess really it just depends on each persons situation. but with my son she accepts whateva i say and rolls with it. this chick must be jealous because dude didnt put a ring on her and needs to grow up because if he feels like she is good enough to marry he must feel comfortable about his daughter being around her so bm needs to get her self a life and stop using the baby as a pawn to control him.
 

He don't have 2 tell baby moma anything until he is bout 2 go down the aisle! She will really make things hard 4 him then. I understand some of bm rules tho...I have twin daughters and I let them spend the a month of the summer wit their farther and his ole lady, what a mistake! I thought I would do us both a favor by braiding my girls hair so she wouldn't have 2 be bothered wit 3 heads since she has a lil girl of her own. This bitch took my daughters swimming every week while they visited and didn't wash they hair !! So when they came home after the month was ova I saw they hair was braided different and I asked them who did it for them? They said oh my dads girlfriend, I said oh ok its cute. See at the end of the week and I took my twinz hair down I screamed all the back of they hair was gone!!!! MIA! All they thick long hair was ruined! She had the back braided upward so I couldn't see the damage. She took my gurls swimming and didn't wash the chlorine out they head! I was sooo upset! Red rum was all I could think about... I started 2 put on a diaper and ride 10 hrs 2 get both they asses... but he a man he didn't know his gurl would do that she knew betta,I guess she said u will think twice b4 u send ur kidz down here again 4 me 2 take care of while he work and u tossin n flossin for a whole month! She fixed my ass and I had 2 kick her ass! I couldn't wait 2 see that bitch and jump n her shit! I would neva do a child that! so I feel ya gurl when she say she don't want her fuckin wit the lil girl hair! Not sayin she would do that dumb shit but u neva know!
 

Lmao! I feel u tho Im kust happy my experiences were good i really be feeling for yall I swear! Hope they hair grew back!
 

WOW...OK...BM issues.  I have dealt with that before with an ex.  His BM was always bitchin' about something.  Hell, I was helping HER out, giving him a bath (she never bathed him before his visits, and he was only 18mo. old..so he couldn't do it himself), doing his hair (she wouldn't cut it, but never did a damn thing with it, not even braids..NOTHING!), feeding him shit OTHER than chips and soda (that was like his DIET???  Damn, the kid looked at fruit like it was from another planet I BS you NOT!).  Eventually the DADDY had to step in and let her know what was up, because he was being taken care of WELL, not neglected, and given his medication (which she conveniently forgot to send regularly..how you do that shit when your baby is asthmatic?  Lucky, my child was too, and they were on the same meds, so I bought him nebulizer tubes and everything so the kids wouldn't contaminate each other) and she STILL got pissed about shit.  The bane of our tie was the fact I could NOT GET that boy to stop callin' me MAMA!!!  I never encouraged it, and as a matter of fact, DIScouraged it...but with his limited language, that is what fit for him, and I couldn't just IGNORE that child because he was a BABY!  Really burned me up too, but my hands were tied.  There was NO communicating with her, and she eventually kept the boy away from BOTH of us.

Now, flip side, my oldest daughter has a stepmom.  I had no issues with her, until she started that shady jealousy shit.  You know, when it was HIS weekend, then she all of a sudden had a list of shit for hiim to do at THEIR house, so my daughter's time spent with her dad was cleaning that bit...sorry, her house.  There was a spare bedroom, but my child had to sleep on the couch! (I had issues with her DAD for even ALLOWING that shit.)  He promised her she could be in the wedding, but since WIFEY didn't think that was appropriate, she wasn't allowed to.  I let her run HER house, her way...when my daughter was there, but when they had the new kids?  My daughter was an afterthought, and she hasn't "visited" them in over 3 yrs.  And they don't seem to miss her either, which I find fukked up, buy she (my baby) is a college girl now and got her own shit...so she's like "fuck 'em" basically.  Hard call.  But I really think BD needs to step up and let BM know in NO uncertain terms that things are going to have to change because the GF will soon be his wife and a permanent part of his life.  As far as all her DRAMA goes...huh, get a new cell phone, change the house number and make sure it is unlisted and let her drama go to voicemail!!! ..

B.
 

I hate it when the child has to put in the middle of things. The BM needs to really get over it. She should be thankful and grateful alone that the father is taking his role. What are these rules solving? Not a damn thing. He is a grown man, he is expected to move on with his life and find a significant other and she needs to do the same. Just maybe the BM won't let go. But I do feel for him and I hope the BM comes around. As long as the child is safe, fed, and happy why limit what your ex's gf or bf can do
 

I hate it when the child has to put in the middle of things. The BM needs to really get over it. She should be thankful and grateful alone that the father is taking his role. What are these rules solving? Not a damn thing. He is a grown man, he is expected to move on with his life and find a significant other and she needs to do the same. Just maybe the BM won't let go. But I do feel for him and I hope the BM comes around. As long as the child is safe, fed, and happy why limit what your ex's gf or bf can do
 

Sounds like bm need 2 get a life of her own! If da girlfriend is not mistreating da child dar should be no problems? And da dad need 2 let bm know wat goes on at his house is none of her business as long as da baby is being treated rite and being love!
 

Another case of a chick who needs to stay in her lane. If the guy was good enough to screw, and have a baby with then let him be. You can not make the decisions for his household and yours as well. If the gf posed a problem ok then handle that but SHE has nothing to do with YOU and your problems with the role of EX and not present gf. He needs to grow a sack, let his balls drop in it, put some hair on them and put her ass in her place! If he trusts his gf who the hell is she as the EX to dictate anything? You would make the average woman resent your child just by how you act. I have NEVER been this type of baby mama. Once I let my son go with his dad I trust him and his judgement that he will be safe in his care. His ex wife I couldn't stand because she didn't like me. I cursed that butt out one good time and she left me and my son out of their mess from that point on. His current wife, I never spoke to beyond hi until she became his wife. I love her to pieces. She loves my son like she had him herself. That would have never happened if I was the bm who was always in her business and jealous of what her and his father have.


STAY IN YOUR LANES CHICK!