I love Ur A WMN Now...The thrid verse speaks to me because my mom too was a single parent and had a hard time rasing three kids...It makes me cry when I hear it..But it's such a great song all around...
 

I am a child of a single parent, my mom and I am 24 year's old now and I am still living with her while I attend college, but through out my child hood I have seen her struggle with keeping her job, or making it to end's meet. She alway's found a way to make it, I admire her for not giving up. She is my hero and I will always thank her, because no matter what has happened she was alway's there to tell me to go for my dream's when noone else would. She would give me her last dollar if I needed it.
My mom is the true definition of love and support. There were time's where I thought we were going to lose our house, but she would alway's manage to scrape up enough money to pay our bill's and ger a little groceries for the day and or week. She hide her depression through out the rough time's, but I heard her crying at time's at night when I was in bed. I can proudly say she found a job, even though she travel's about 80 mile's there and back each day, I can tell she is happier now that she can pay all her bill's and make it to meet's end with some money left over for a little fun here and there.
SaRa



 

it's so hard to hide depression as a single mom, and I am really glad you shared that and are obviously proud of her.
 

i am not a parent but this song makes me cry. because of all the obstacles i had to deal with growing up.. hell i still have to deal with it... i am 26 with two brothers and my mother that i basically take care of.. i feel like i am the mother and i am tired of it but i push through because the i cannot turn my back on my family.. this song just really hits me close to home and with Otep's music it always touches my heart everytime..

 

I am going thru harder times being a single mom to 2 sons than I ever thought possible. 5 and 4, they fully expect me to fix their world and I fully believe I will...eventually. Thank you so much from one mom who feels like everyone forgets about us....I'm going to go watch them sleep now, breathe them in every second I can.
 


 

yes, I agree...it's such an amazing song and it reminds me of my childhood as well. Thank you Otep.
 

I'm not a parent, however the song does speak to me in a very deep way. There are a lot of events that thrust girls into womanhood- and there's no going back. On a lighter note your voice is beautiful so soothing in the song, gives me goosebumps every time I listen to it
 

It holds a strong meaning to me bcuz I have a son and I'm single and going through a rough time cuz the father of him beat while I was pregnant. We are apart but now he's trying to gain full custody. Your song has me feeling strong with the attempt to pull through life and its obstacles
 

I am a single father and I, too, have had to stand in the welfare line with my 2 daughters. I am currently in school for IT Networking, trying to make a better life for us. After I get my degree and find a job in this dying economy, I plan to go back to school for music production and creative writing. It's hard being a single parent period. I just want my kids to be happy. Their mother has nothing much to do with them. She's stuck in her own fantasy world and that world doesn't have kids in it. I just hope that one day they see everything for what it truly is.

SERV ASAT!

 

I am a parent, single parent, and a child of a single parent, this song is very inspirational to me. Though I have learned that what one person defines as hardship and trial, another may find completely opposite. Great Job!!

 

This song made me cry.  I grew up dealing with sexual abuse and a single mom on welfare.  Those experiences hardened me and made me tough.  As a mom, I strive every day to provide the ncessities and safety for my own children. I respect my mom for all that she put up with for our sakes.  Beautiful song Otep.  I hope you play this when you guys play Sokol in Omaha on 9/30. 
 

the song is bad ass! i love it. my mom is a single mom and so am i of 2 lil boys.
 

I remember leaving my boys' father 8 years ago, and waiting in our own welfare line, scared as hell that we weren't going to make it, me a homeless 28 year old with 2 sons and no income. It was the boys that kept me going, my strength, and one day not long ago our family therapist said I made a choice to take care of my children. To me, there was no choice. I created them, I brought them here, I protect them. Now one is a healthy young man, graduated from high school. I enrolled in college this year (finally!) and have been back on the workforce since 2003. When there seems to be no hope, just look into the child's eyes. Just tough it out, ask for help from people you trust, and allow yourself to be the best parent possible. My favorite saying through it all was "this, too, shall pass" and I have NO idea who wrote that, but it got me past anxiety, fear, depression and utter desperation.

I have to thank Otep for writing and performing her words, because sometimes, just having something to release and relate to works to get you through a tough day. A day when the electricity is cut off, your rent is overdue, and you got laid off your job. Just remember, tomorrow is another chance. Seek out help to pay the bill, use any and all resources, talk to your landlord, sometimes they do understand and will cut you a small break. There is always another employer willing to give you a shot. Just keep your head up, and give your children the best gift.
Hope.
^v^
 

i love it  im a parent

 

It speaks to me deeply as well- (Also made me cry!) I, too, have a single mother who gave her all and then some to provide a better life for me and my young sister. This song is so powerful, not only because of the beautiful lyrics but the haunting melody. I love the addition of Emilie Autumn's violin! The combination of it and your all-powerful esophagus really make this song stand out. :) Undeniably lovely and deeply moving.
 

It's pretty long, but here it goes...
My parents divorced when i was in 3rd grade and I lived with my mom.  We were on welfare and had to deal with a lot of verbal abuse from the numerous boyfriends she had.  I was called fat, stupid, retard... among other things.  Then after 8th grade, she abandoned us and moved across country with her bf at the time, so my younger sister and I moved in with our dad and step mom.  Amazingly I got straight As throughout high school and graduated top 5% of my class.  Then I got pregnant at 18... a few months after I started college.  It was from a one night stand and I never seen the guy again.  Throughout my pregnancy I battled myself whether or not to give my baby up for adoption, and finally decided that I couldn't go through with it.  I had my daughter and right away had to move out on my own.  The only option I could see at the time was to be on welfare.  And I took a year off of college.  I went back, having the welfare support and the support of friends and family.  I had my son 4 years after I had my daughter, to a deadbeat father who I thought I knew better.  So, I was single with a baby again, and a 4 year old.  I didn't take any time off of college and went back right away.  Then because of the circumstances, I had to move out of state, and unfortunately I haven't finished my last year of college yet due to finances.  Since I had my daughter, I've always lived for my kids.  Everything I've done has been for them, and I do my best for them.  I am no longer on welfare, but I still struggle day to day and cannot afford health insurance.  I made one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make by giving temporary guardianship of my daughter to my dad and step mom because they are much more well off and they can afford to get her the braces that she needs.  They live 3 hours away so I don't get to see her often, although I do call her everyday.  I am proud of myself because despite the moving I've had to do, and the mild depressions I've gone through, and everything I've had to put my kids through, they remain happy and loved and are very smart.  My daughter is in the 4th grade and loves school, and my son just started kindergarten today.  I try my hardest to do things for them that will end up being the best for them in the end, no matter how hard it will be on us.  I believe when they grow up and look back that they will know I did everything I have out of love for them.  And they know that they can talk to me about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING without me judging them or getting upset at them.  I am here to support and love them unconditionally, and I will give all my strength to abiding by that unconditional love. 




 

I'm a single mother of 2. And I pray that my children never actually realize how hard we have it. Everything shall always be rainbows and butterflies for my little girls as long as I can keep it that way.
 

Being a single mom has been the hardest, most rewarding job I have ever had. I love this song. It gives me hope and strength to keep going. Thank you so much.
 

OTEP (please hear me)
Mother of an autistic beautiful son is who I am, and he has faith in me to communicate his every need and I am a young mom that tries really hard while he is spitting in my face and having sensory issues,. I tell him everything is going to be okay, and that we'll make it through.. when I don't know how in this we are going to make it. The world is mean. We are going to get kicked out because he screams from noises, it seems as though I would have some rights, the schools don't care about his rights, his dad does not care, and I need to really be his strength and I don't know how sometimes. Your music gives me the strength to keep on fighting for his rights to a free and appropriate education, and to be himself without ridicule. I cry as I write this and I am hoping you read this because I can never go to a concert of yours because he would need a special babysitter, but I am moved increibly by your music. Please don't stop inspiring the people who need it the most. Thanks for listening and acknowledging that mothers in the background are important even if they feel so small.
 

I was once a single parent of two badly abused children. My ex had (has) some pretty scary and very real mental issues and he was very violent, he hid his meds from me for years and I had no idea anything was wrong with him til he went off of them. For a while I thought he was just acting that way toward me and not my kids, if anyone has dealt with someone in an abusive relationship they will know it is pretty common for the abused adult to think something along the lines of how it is okay because he's hurting me and not my kids. I was stuck in that trap ... for a little bit. I wasn't worried much about his behavior toward me because I could hold my own with him and he knew it, hindsight is 20/20...

Luckily, my daycare noticed unusual marks on my one year old son and reported it to CPS. I was blind to it somehow even after they opened a case and started investigating me. One day it came to a head and we had an explosion of epic proportions at home. He had beaten my son almost to death while I was out of the house, at that time my son was one year and thirteen days old. It turned into a bloody, messy crime scene before I got my children out of that house, I ended up charged with domestic violence - for the second time - but I got them out and to a safe place. They have not seen their biological father since 2001, I had his visitation rights permanently removed and had a restraining order for five years.

If anyone cares, the child he nearly killed that day is healthy and fine. He is nine years old, a vegan, and animal rights activist, and honor roll student, a cub scout, and many other things. :)

 

I am NOT a single parent but my mother was. What she went through is now happening to me. She worked everyday of her life (and still does) but made too much money to apply for assistance, and we never had food or electricity. Go figure. The same thing is happening to me now. It's hard being stuck in the "middle."
Welcome to womanhood.

 

i am a single mom and this song where it talks about the welfare line really means alot to me cause i have said those exact words to my oldest daughter when she was younger
 

I am a single mother i work my ass off to make sure my daughter has food on the table a roof over her head and clothes on her back. Being 23 and a parent is no easy task i wouldn't change a damn thing it has made me the woman i am today. With that being said love you guys can't wait to see you sept 22nd in the bay area. Keep metal hard and sexy!
 

 

PoisonKiss said: "I'm not a parent, however the song does speak to me in a very deep way. There are a lot of events that thrust girls into womanhood- and there's no going back."

I think that PoisonKiss hit it right on the nail. This song is maybe also about being thrust into woman hood and living through things like ABUSE (verse1) marriage, and MOTHERHOOD (verse 3)  . . . which are all major events of a woman's life. Having her life 1st broken, then uniting her life to someone elses, and then springing forth life from herself.

one minute she is a little girl, the next she finds herself to have just grown up and her mom starts getting her ready to pretty much just go out into the world [mama woke me up at dawn-she helped me get my best dress on-she braided flowers in my hair] and fulfill (what in her mind) a woman is supposed to mainly become ...  a "WIFE".

So much sh*t happens to this girl (she gets hit [abused], gets married despite the doubts and insecurities in her head, and she ends up with a kid and i guess NO husband to support her). And all these things just push her to be strong and pull through for her daughter and actually become a woman.

To me, the song pretty much is about the evolution of a girl, who becomes a wife and a mother with out asking to be either or.

BTW- 1st time i heard this song, it made me cry too. It's very funny that a lot of people are saying this. I thought I was the only one. Um . . . But ya my mom is a single mom. She struggles everyday to make ends meet. And the 3rd verse does remind me of her.

I hope this song inspires people to help single moms everywhere and to keep programs like WIC open because mothers are the one's raising the future leaders of tomorrow. Our children are our future.

 

 

Sorry to make this long, I'm just very passionate about the song and this website is almost theraputic...If you read all this, thank you for your time...

My mom and my dad divorced when I was about 5. My mom and I have been through so much together...she's had countless boyfriends who abused her in many ways, made her think that she wasn't worth the time or that something must have been wrong with her. Even though all this crap that she was put through, she still kept looking and still kept getting hurt. One night she had plans to go to a club and had no one to babysit me so she called my grandmother to see if she knew anyone who could watch me. My grandmother is an alcoholic and hangs around with many shady characters, but my mom wanted to go out so she had this guy come watch me...nevermind with that part, but after her doing this to me many times she finally brought home a guy who didn't know she had a child. He moved in and he seemed great...he was the father I never had(I was about 9 at this point) and then after a while something happend. He just changed. He became very abusive, mentally and physically, and directed most of it to me because I, even being so young, wasn't about to let someone hurt my mom. Every day got worse and worse and I remember praying...so hard...for him to stop and just disappear and be far away from us. When I was 11, I remember I was still praying, it was the only thing I had, and at 11 I was raped. Not by someone I knew, but a stranger hunting in the night. After that I quit praying and believing, at that point, there was nothing left to hold on to. Everything in my life changed. I began cutting myself out of anger and hating everything, my mom put me in therapy because of what became my step-dad(don't asked why she married him)and I was put on many different medications. Lithium(mood stabalizer for bipolar), Ambien and Lunesta(insomnia), and Prozac and Zoloft(depression). Well this carried on for a while and all the sudden they want to have a child. August 1st 2005 my sister was born 15 years younger than me. Even though she comes from that bastard of a human being, she is the most beautiful thing on this planet and if I had to go back in time and do all the pain all over again I would just to have her. Well, even though he had been cheating for years, even took my sister newly born to a gf and said the mother died in a car wreck and he works 3 jobs to support her(couldn't even hold one job) my mom finally decided to throw him out. 2007 he was gone and my mom and I before he and my sister were even thought of, had lived in a small shitty apartment that was now full of holes and broken memories...She worked so hard and found one of the coolest jobs to save money and get us out of that falling apart home and she did it...she moved us out into our 1st house, just the 3 of us, and even though the story should end here, because my step-dad had ruined so much, my mom and I began to fight. Our last fight ended with me moving in with my dad who I had found a few years before. My dad has helped me become the adult I am today but I will never forget the woman who got me to this point. We still talk and we have worked out our issues and I'm going to see her this weekend. I will never blame her for what happend to us and I know my mother will always be there for me like she has been my whole life. I called her the night before last and told her to look a new Otep song called UR A WMN NOW and that I wanted to dedicate to her and we cried together. This song is going to let her know regardless of all the bullshit we've been through together, we will always love eachother and it will let her know that she is one of the most strongest women I will ever lay my eyes on and that all her hard work for me and my sister will never be in vain. My dad has helped me become an adult but my mother is the one that has helped me "bloom" into the woman I am today. Thank you Otep and thanks to my mom... 
 

I am a mother of 2 little boys and one is disabled. I am also the oldest child out of 4 of a single mother. The things my mother when trough are horrible I would never wish that apon anyone. Ur A WMN Now makes me cry every time because i am dancing to make a living, just so my kids have what the need. But I know things are going to get better and I cant thank you enough for that song.
 

I am the daughter of a single mother so this song really speaks to me. It is so beautiful and sad. My mother struggled to raise my two sisters and I. We went through some really tough times and I am glad my mother finally made a good life for us and herself. She is the strongest woman I now. I made her listen to this song she just cried. Its beautiful. Makes we want to go see Otep live again!

 

I listened to your album earlier than most... I recieved it 4 days early because I ordered the deluxe package for someone I loved... it was their birthday present...

We sat in their room and watching zir put that disk in for the first time was just the cutest thing. It was like a precious and fagrile painting being handled. After every song we discussed what we felt and how it impacted us and other random thoughts.

Then Ur A Wmn Now came on. It was instant. Our mouths shut. and with every note our souls sang and with every breath I could feel how much the first verse effected zir... Ze was raped as a child by a friend and I knew that the weight of the song was hitting them full force... (Granted Ze is taking steps towards becoming the male ze feel that ze is but the message still hit home

For me... the last verse made me cry. My mother was a single teen mother... I was a true bastard child and I can remember the struggles my mom went through... She lost her childhood to give me a childhood... For that I am so thankful. I can remember seeing her cry over things like money and hurt and feeling alone, but she always tried to make the best of it and did everything she could to provide for me... my mother went through hell.

I love her alot and thank her very much for all she has done. Even with the newly developed struggle that my sexuality has placed on her... I still consider her one of my best friends...if not my best friend...

I want to make her proud of me... and I want to prove to her that she raised a strong wmn. This song is my daily reminder and my motivation to becoming a stronger person and rising above all odds.

After the song ended... my loved on and I were speechless... The room was heavy and I have to tell you... it hit us both very hard. They have a hard time listening to the song... and I can't help but play it over and over as a reminder to stay strong and overcome...

Your words are powerful... and this is a very scattered post... But I want you all to know that I am a wmn and my name is gaelic for strong. If you ask me... with a combination like that... I just can't lose.

Thank you very much. I will break free and I will stay strong through whatever life throws at me.
 

I absolutely love the song as I do you and your band I am a single mother of 2 children I left their father because he couldnt choose his kids over his addiction to meth I tried...I tried to be the one who tried to help him but in the end I realized my kids need me more than he does and if he cant make the right decision for his kids fuck him
 

Yes I am a parent of a beautiful 19yr old daughter (Ashley). I was 17 when I had her, and when she was 11 days old I found out her father (who I happened to be married to at the time-briefly) was having an affair with a "friend" who was in our wedding as well as a few others. Obviously I kicked him out and struggled. I remember standing in the welfare line, and even though my girl was still so young I thought to myself those exact words. And I did get us out of there and made a better life for us. I'm not perfect and like many have made some mistakes along the way. But NEVER did I let my daughter get hurt and I will always protect her until the day I die. Thank you so much for your words. I have all of you CD's and enjoying it all. But I must say that I think this is the MOST beautiful and empowering song I have ever heard. Thank you for having the courage to do this song.

A truly grateful fan
Andrena


And this is my "baby" Roxy-thought you would enjoy this.

 

 

 

When I was 5 years old, my parents separated (living in North Carolina) and I, along with my brother, moved to Oregon with our mother. We lived on food stamps and farmers market for 8 months while the state said that they were preparing a cheap apartment for us (it was a law for a single woman with children). What I didn't know for quite some time is that my own mother, for months, had been skipping several meals in order to feed my brother and I. We moved back to NC and when my mom met my stepdad, he could enclose his hands around her waste. Every day I am grateful to my mother for what she had sacrificed for us. It breaks my heart, and what Ur A Wmn Now gives me is a way to make this memory into something I can smile and cry on. Once again, Otep has given us the gift of knowing we are not alone. Life gets better. :) I love you Otep!
 

I was born into a family with a mother and a father.  But my father was on drugs at the time, and was very abusive in all sorts of ways.
My mother left him when I was 6 and she's been a single mother to my brother and myself ever since.
That whole song resembles my mother's life, and I made her listen to it and she cried.  Then she explained to me how the song made her feel empowered and proud to be a woman.
 

I am a mommy of three and step mom to one. My oldest is now nine and I was a single mother of two boys up until about 5 years ago. Ur A Wmn Now is AMAZING!! You have captured the essence of the whole situation. The fear/determination of being completely on your own with a child/children. And your voice and emotion in this song perfect..... Thank you!! Much love and respect from Ohio

 

I love my husbands copy of Smash the Control Machine and I LOVE IT!!  UR A WMN NOW is also my favorite song on the album.  Good job you guys ROCK!!
 

im a 24 yr old parent to 3 kids. all have different fathers. it seems that all the guys wanted was a good time and dont spend time with thier kids or care about them. my oldest really loves otep. shes 6. her dad has three sons and shes the only daughter and the only one with a dna test to prove her parentage. its so hard to hear her cry that her dad doesnt love her. she tells me that she loves me the most bc im always there for her and i always give her the things she wants even if i have to do without. ill but my kids a new toy before i buy myself a new toothbrush. id give anything for them. considering that every man skipped out before they could actually know their own children doesnt speak well about them. my oldest has been in the gifted and talented program for quite sometime. my youngest daughter's father has 4 other kids and has money to go on a carribean cruise lately but cant call or send his daughter a letter on holidays to let her know he loves her and hasnt forgot about her. my youngest child my only son is an inspiration to me. hes autistic and battled with malabsorption for most of his 3 years of life. when he was born he was in NICU for 3 weeks bc he had a hole in each of his lungs. i couldnt imagine choosing any man, person, or thing over my children. being a child myself when i had my oldest made me grow up faster than i should have and i missed out on alot but id be dead, on the streets, or strung out on drugs if it weren't for them. i love the messages in oteps songs but ure a wmn now speaks volumes for all mothers.
 


 

To all the women who are single mothers and have lived in abusive households. To all the women who have had told to them what their life will be like once they move out. To all the women who were expected to marry out of the household. To all the women who have posted here: I am male, I have had a bad life, I have been expected to be a certain thing after moving out of the household, my dad was very abusive towards me for most of my life and my mom didn't leave him til I was 15 becos she wanted my brother and I to have a father figure, she dealt with all of his crap and how he treated her for 15 years when she wanted to leave him before I was born, my mom worked her ass off to pay back my dad's embezzling of the company he worked for, and my grandma's house was where I ran away to from all of the bullshit. All of this caused me to do many things to myself, bad and good. Life was very confusing to me. I feel for you all.

Now for my current situation:
I am with a woman I love, but it bothers me that she is an alcoholic. Her whole family are alcoholics. She has had her share of problems growing up, but this is about my life and my perspective. Her whole family complains about their problems and then drowns their sorrows. Like just now, her mom unexpectedly comes over to the apartment and asks for alcohol cos she flunked 2 tests cos she's in college. They don't see me drinking or trying to drown my sorrows in some way when something goes wrong. Life really isn't that hard if you pursue for a happy life day to day and not letting these things get you down. Like I have seen a lot of people here say that they will go through life to make sure their kids see no struggle and make it easier for them and that is what makes life worth something. So I'm sitting here, trying to get over the alcoholic annoyance, trying to focus on what is important in my life, and it's kinda hard. Nowadays though, it's nothing compared to what I've seen in a lot of these posts here, but when I was a kid, the times were very hard.

I just want you all to know that I feel empathy towards all of your situations and I hope every has the greatest  blessing of getting through it all to make a happier life for everyone. As of right now, nobody believes me here when I say I care. So I'm giving my cares to you all. It's what makes me happy......
Caring.

Take care everyone.

 

i am the daughter of a single mother. And my mother is my hero . She withstood SO much. I could go on and on about her. And now I am a single mother, and going through the same struggles she did, has really opened my eyes and made me appreciate her even more. Times are so hard right now. Funding has been cut so bad in Ohio, that welfare can barely help people. I am going back to school so that I don't have to continue depending on the government for help. Being a single mom is so hard and people give you alot of shit for it, they don't realize how hard it is. It seems like ever time I start to get back on my feet again, I get kicked in the face. At this point and time I am facing many trials and tribulations. And I just don't know what to do. My son is my everything, and he deserves so much better than this. That is why I am going back to school. I have to go to school an hour away from where I live because they offer the program I want to get into and I can get done with it in half the time and it will cost half as much as other schools. But now I have to worry about my car making it back and forth there. People don't seem to understand, hopefully after listening to your song it will open their eyes and they will show more compassion and understanding.
 

I'm a child of a single mother that is a single mother... and that song is stunningly beautiful... enough to make you wanna deal with all the day to day drama and bullshit just so you can get home to listen to your little one say they love you...

 

i do not wanna share my story but i can say i cant keep it together through that song...i cry n get goosebumps yet i love it thank you otep u r amazing!!
 

I am a single mother and so was my mother i cryed when i heard that verse. I grew up eating free food on happy hours untill i was six. Very well done song
 

the first verse of the song was very meaningful to me, had i been born a female i suppose it would have been rather comforting. it more or less made me feel isolated, but not at the same time if you know what i mean...

 

This is an incredibly beautiful song. I have two sons ages 12 and 9 years old. I had them when I was a teenager. I'm on welfare and going to school and trying to give my children a good life. It's very difficult being a single mom without a car, we take the bus everywhere, thankfully Orange County has good public transportaion. My boys have seen the hell I've been through over the years, they've seen their dad beat the shit out of me for years but he's out of our lives now. Every time I hear this song it brings tears to my eyes because of the lyrics and the way Otep sings it so beautifully.
 


 

I am NOT a single parent, but I still feel this song. Thanks to the economy, my husband has no job, and I am supporting our family on my own. I am channeling my inner uber-feminist at this point, reminding myself that  I can do anything even if it's just me.

So I gave my daughter the strongest female name I knew of - Lilith - because I can only hope that I can pass this on to her. You don't need a man to support you. I love my husband, he's one of the good ones (i've been in enough bad relationships that i had almost given up on men when i met him), but men are not the answer. If my mother hadn't raised me to beleive I coudln't count on men to support me, I wouldn't be where I am today.

Mother's, teach your sons to gentlemen, and treat your daughters to not take shit. In this age, girls need a whole different kind of education.

 

it is a great song and yes I am child of a single parent, not only did my mum have to do horrible things to her body to get money for food and clothes for us but in doing so became a part of a culture that almost got us taken away from her...My mum struggled also cause she has a genetic illness that now has taken over her life....I forgive my mum for alot of things but it is hard to forget and we talk about it alot know that I am an adult..She went to hell and back for us and I am sure there are alot of mums in the same boat...when will the government wake up and realise that women as a whole do not benefit financially by having children and that they need more support...whether single or married mums and dads give up so much everyday for their kids...it is time for governments to wake up..Cazza
 

i am a male age 17 and my mom has been a single mom her entire motherly carear, and she is aged 58 or so now.

she has struggled through hell and back, and even though our homelife isnt exactly picture perfect and we dont always get along, i have to admire how much she has sacrificed and struggled through just to make ends meet...

love you otep!
 

I am also a single parent, or rather a teen parent i'm 19yrs old and i'm raising a 22mon old daughter. I've recently moved out from my home town to go off to college. Its hard but its for a reason. I want to give her a life that i never had. when i first had her the song perfectly flawed came out and i thought that song spoke for me and was clearly about me and how i felt. Now that i recently found out that im getting older and now have this big responsibility. the song UR A WMN NOW was for me once again. It helped me to remain strong. A reminder that i'm not alone and that I am also changing from girl to wmn. Thanx otep. Your songs also helped me out.