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Miss Keri
Tuesday, August 18, 2009 
The sentence that reduced Darryl James to ramblings... "Not only are you a chauvanist, you're a coward. Better stick with talk radio where there are no checks and balances, where you can control the dialogue."

Darryl James (yes, THAT Darryl James) hit B up with a friend request and invited her to check his show, dude got riled when she challenged him on the topic of his show "Why Michelle Obama is First Lady and You're Not", not only did he delete her in the attempt to save himself from looking like a fool when he was unable to defend his extreme views about black women, he unleased with the following rant in response to her comment

darryl@darryljames.com to me
show details 4:25 PM (19 hours ago) What an ignorant asshole of a bitch. No one is afraid of you, your bullshit is just boring, super ignorant and I'm just not interested. What am I running from? Some anonymous shithead on the internet? Please! What do you want, stupid--you wanna fight? Grow up and leave grown men alone. That's why you can't find a man--you're too busy being one.
You're the problem and a waste of skin and a waste of time. Who wants to spend time arguing with angry expended fools? I tried to do the polite thing and disconnect, but you're psychotic and angry and won't let go. So the only thing else to do is to ignore you.
Why don't you check and balance Oprah and the rest of the anti-man brigade? Or how about Rush Limbaugh and the rest of the anti-Black people machine? Of course not, because that would require work and thought and angry assholes like you just vent for nothing. You super-bitches are cool with the assault on Black men, but rage against even the hint of chauvanism--even when it's non-existent. It's not here, asshole. I don't have a problem with women (which you aren't anyway), I have a problem with ignorant assholes.
If you think I am a chauvanist and a coward, why are you on me? Something's wrong with you.
You are a misandrist and just a bitter angry fool. Fuck you. Fuck off or you will be reported and prosecuted like animals ought to be. Filthy bitch.
Find some peace... B'S Response... This self loathing negro may be the next Pittsburgh shooter.... You know the type, emotional brotha who blames black women for his inadequecies, lashes out whenever he is challenged because he has no justification or defense for his extreme views other than attempting to hide the pain inflicted on him by the sista who left him an emotional wreck, the type of brotha who gets kicked by "the man" then comes home and kicks his lady in order to make himself feel powerful and in control. But of course I didn't know any of this when I accepted his friend add and invitation to listen to his show yesterday....but I learned fast when I struck a nerve and the real Darryl James came out.
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Sonny Black

 
Wow! -  SONNY
 
Posted by Sonny Black on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 7:05 PM
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St. Louis Hip Hop

 
This just in from Sol Survivor over at IsisWisdom/Word On the Streets, a study that blows Darry's theory about black women

Darry's Theory
"When Barack Obama took the White House, some women took the opportunity to slam Black men by claiming that he was one of a few successful Black men to have a Black wife. The facts dispute this ignorant claim, because more than 90% of all Black men who are married are married to Black women."

The issue however wasn't what percentage of black women are married to black men, but how few successful black men have a black wife, two competely different issues, which he conveniently overlooks.

Marriage eludes high-achieving black women. Many remain single and childless, according to new research

Michelle Obama may have become an archetypal African-American female success story — law career, strong marriage, happy children — but the reality is often very different for other highly educated black women.

They face a series of challenges in navigating education, career, marriage and child-bearing, dilemmas that often leave them single and childless even when they’d prefer marriage and family, according to a research study recently presented at the American Sociological Society’s annual meeting in San Francisco.

Yale researchers Natalie Nitsche and Hannah Brueckner argued that “marriage chances for highly educated black women have declined over time relative to white women.” Women of both races with postgraduate educations “face particularly hard choices between career and motherhood,” they said, “but especially in the absence of a reliable partner.”

And there’s the rub. As noted in a recent Sexploration column, contrary to old media reports, most educated, professional women who want to marry can and do marry. But the picture is less bright for high-achieving black women because “marriage markets” for them have deteriorated to the point that many remain unmarried, the researchers found. Since these women also feel pressured not to become single mothers, they often go childless as well, the researchers found.

In the study, Nitsche and Brueckner used data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey of 50,000 households dating back to the 1970s to tease out data points on race, gender, education, marriage and fertility.

Among black women with postgraduate educations born between 1956 and 1960, the median age at which they gave birth for the first time was 34 years old. This was about the same as it was for white women in the same demographic. But once white women reached their 30s, many more of them did give birth, often more than once. Many black women did not. The rate of childlessness among this group of black women rose from 30 percent for those born between 1950 and 1955, to 45 percent for those born between 1956 and 1960.

The rate of childlessness does moderate somewhat in highly educated black women born between 1961 and 1970. In this group, 38 percent have remained childless.

Beyond the personal interests of individual women, the trend is significant because “in terms of American society, this is one additional obstacle” to the broadening of the black middle class, Brueckner said. Fewer highly educated black people having children means that they cannot pass on those advantages and knowledge.”

This defeats the goal of affirmative action, argue some demographers. The idea behind assuring that blacks had access to higher education and graduate school was that after a generation or so, African-Americans would reach a kind of achievement parity after generations of suffering educational and career restriction. But if black women, who comprise 71 percent of black graduate students, according to the census data, do not have children, the rate of achievement reaches a kind of familial dead end.

Another Yale sociologist, Averil Clarke, who has written a soon-to-be-published book called “Love Inequality: Black Women, College Degrees, and the Family We Can’t Have,” sees the impact of this demographic trend in a slightly different, and more romantic, light. It’s not about passing on economic and educational advantages, though these concerns are valid, she said. It’s about love.

“I think this inequality can be construed around outcomes in love,” she said. “We are very caught up right now in [the controversy] over gay marriage. Well, what are we arguing about? Whether people can have these kinds of emotionally satisfying experiences and if not, if that is unequal.” She also believes that these demographic facts, and the reasons for them, constrain the sexuality of some African-American women. She has found that many more are celibate than are white women with similar education levels. “So for me it matters because love matters.”

Declining marriage chances
One big reason why these women remained childless is, as one might expect, that they go unmarried, experts say. Among highly educated women of both races, about 22 percent between the ages of 20 and 45 were single in the 1970s. But then that number diverged. It has remained the same for white women, but now 38 percent of black women have never been married.

“Their marriage chances have declined,” Brueckner explained. “This may sound trivial but one reason is that they outnumber men in this education group.” The disparity in education is important because Americans have a strong tendency to marry those with equal levels of education, a trend that has only grown stronger since World War II. “So since there are fewer men with the same education,” Brueckner continued, “you either have to find another group you can marry or you are out of luck. You have nowhere to go.”

Highly educated black men tend to “outmarry” (marry outside race, religion or ethnicity) at a higher rate than black women, researchers say. Think of Harvard professor Henry Louis Gates or Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas. Both married white women.

Black women are either much more reluctant to marry outside their race, or do not have the opportunity to do so. The answer is both, Clarke said.

In interviews with a large number of black women, she found that community pressures on black women to marry black men can be more intense than the reverse.

“A greater negative reaction falls on them,” Clarke said. “Some women in my sample told stories of African-American men on college campuses getting upset if they dated outside the race. There seems to be a sense of some policing of women’s sexuality. I think women are more controlled by these community and family pressures around who they should date. Men have greater freedom.”

But it may also be true that even highly educated black women who are willing and able to pursue a relationship with a man of another race won’t have the opportunity. A sociological line of inquiry called “exchange theory” suggests that in the piggy bank of goods each of us brings to a possible relationship — money, smarts, sense of humor, looks, family background, education, gender — African heritage is devalued compared with European or Asian heritage. African-American females, even with lots of education, do not fetch as much “value” in the marriage market.

That may be a cold way to look at love, romance, and sex, but studies dating back to the 1980s support it.

Of course if highly educated black women felt free to have children outside of marriage, they could still have a family. When some white women make that choice it is often seen as a kind of liberal empowerment.

But according to Clarke, black women are concerned about looking "ghetto." Public interpretation of our actions matter for everyone, but especially for black women, Clarke explained. “When it comes to the issue of black women and should or should they not make a choice to have a child alone, these women are very much aware that the decision to do it makes people question their class status. We associate single unwed child bearing with poor African-American women.”

Not all women who remain unmarried and childless are unhappy about it. But for a set of sometimes complex social reasons, some high-achieving black women find themselves disappointed. “That this is something being denied to people is important in and of itself,” Clarke said.

Brian Alexander is the author of the book “America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction," now in paperback.

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Posted by St. Louis Hip Hop on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 9:36 PM
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