Too often when we are in the position to help someone, especially for an extended priod of time, we tend to feel superior to the person we are helping.  Maybe we have forgotten how much courage it takes to ask for or even accept help.  Maybe we don'e realize how hard the person who is getting the help is actually working to not only try and get to the point where they no longer need our help, but also to work on not making the acceptance of help a burden on the helper.

The fact of the matter is that Allah is the only one who controls all the things.  It is Him and Him alone who has given us the resources to be able to be able to help someone whether it be financially, morally, physically, emotionally, mentally, or whatever.  As the "helper" we may have certain rights over the "helpee", but it would behoove us to respect the person we are helping and try our hardest not to make them feel as if helping them is the worst thing we could ever endure.  Though it may become harder than we thought to help someone, Allah sees how hard it is and he will help us.

There was a time in which I felt in a position to help you and I may have been arrogant and cruel.  I may have acted as though, just because Allah gave me the ability to help you that I was somehos superior in all things.  I may have spoken down to you, treated you as if you were a pariah, or behaved in a manner that made you feel asa if you were a burden and for that I deeply apologize.  If I gave you advice in a belittling way I ask for your forgiveness.  If I made you feel like you were less of a person because you were getting help from me, then I beg your forgiveness.  If I shunned you or ignored you or made you feel like any less than a special person in my heart, then for that I beg your forgiveness.

I thank you for giving me the oportunity to help you.  To learn from you.  To grow from the experience of sharing my life with you.  And if I treated you as any less than a gift from Allah please know that I am sorry for my actions.

I pray that you iwll find it in your heart to forgive me.  I also pray that if I am guilty of doing any of these things to you when I was in the position to help you, that when you are in the position to help someone, you do not treat them with the lack of respect that I treated you.

Again I sincerely apologize for an unsavory ways that I spoke or behaved that may have hurt, belittled, or offended you in any way.

May Allah have mercy on us.  May He make us aware of ourselves and our actions and may He give us the strength to act on the goodness we know and fight the evil we learn.

Thank you for your time and patience

Sincerely,

Qamara "Peaches=)" Muhammad