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Age: 27
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City: East Lansing
State: Michigan
Country: US
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Friday, August 31, 2007 

Current mood:  aggravated
Category: News and Politics

At its essence, disability IS the intersection of biology and power.  That is, much like feminism defines gender as the social construction of roles in society that favor one sex (men) over the other (women), disability is a set of social constructs that favor the abled over the disabled.  To at least some degree, biological difference BECOMES biological disability when it is inserted into a time and place with an existing power structure. 

 

When the majority of people in power positions have a particular biological trait, they exert their power by designing society in a way that gives preference to those with that biological trait.  The trait may be something as simple as a "normal" range of height.  If a person falls far enough outside of this range, they face physical and attitudinal barriers to their access of what is "good" in life (independence, romantic relationships, choice of employment, etc).  Perhaps my examples rely too heavily on my own experience as a little person, but I think this "power-centric" description of the social model of disability can really apply to any disabling difference. 

 

To resist this oppression, we need an understanding of how the application of power works.  How are people with disabilities "crippled" by this combination of biology and power?  Some of the ways in which power is exerted over people with disabilities is fairly obvious.  For instance, many times oppression is direct and unapologetic, as when people with disabilities are forced to live in nursing homes against their will because "there are no other options" (read: the way people in power are put together, they don't need help with x, y, and z and anyone who DOES need help with these things are physically isolated from the rest of the world, removed from society like a criminal).  Other times, it is slightly more subtle, where people with power design physical space that excludes people with differences from access, standardized testing that excludes people with cognitive difference from academic success, or entertainment venues that exclude people with sensory differences from art.

 

The oppressive assertion of power that is the most shrouded – and hence often the most destructive – is power that is wrapped up in the guise of kindness.  Here, I am talking abut pity.  When one person pities another, more than anything else, it is an assertion of power.  It is the expression of the belief that the pitier holds the high ground over the pitiful.  When an attitude of pity is taken toward someone, the object of pity is never seen as an equal.  Pity is not the same as compassion, which is an act of empathy.  There is no empathy in pity.  For pity to exist, there must be an "other" that is being pitied.  There must be a group or an individual that is seen as separate from and LESS THAN the group or individual doing the pitying.  This is an ultimate expression of power. 

 

Sometimes, the hostile nature of pity bubbles up to the surface.  This is the case for The Annual Muscular Dystrophy Association Telethon hosted by Jerry Lewis.  As if his generally patronizing attitude wasn't enough to clue you in about what Jerry REALLY thinks about people with disabilities, he has, in recent history given us more evidence to go on, like the 1990 Parade Magazine article where he states "When I sit back and think a little more rationally, I realize my life is half, so I must learn to do things halfway. I just have to learn to try to be good at being a half a person … and get on with my life." –Jerry Lewis on what disability must be like." When the interviewer suggests that pity may be a harm rather than a good for people with disabilities, Jerry Lewis responds with anger on CBS Sunday Morning (May 20, 2001), "Pity? [If] you don't want to be pitied because you're a cripple in a wheelchair, stay in ya house!"—Jerry Lewis. 

 

These words leave us with no doubt that a war is being waged at the intersection of power and biology.  A war between those who would oppress and marginalize others to preserve a status quo, and those who are proud of who they are and resist this oppression in all its forms, especially pity.

Currently reading:
No Longer Patient: Feminist Ethics and Health Care
By Susan Sherwin
Release date: February, 1993
Kilgore Trout

 
Loved your blog (as usual), and I agree with you on the nature of pity. The majority condescending to the level of others. It often happens without conscious knowledge, which makes it all the more insidious. Many think they do something honorable instead of something selfish. And if you do not see your "impediment" morosely as they do, you are in denial or otherwise ill.
Baring obesity, my "disabling differences" are internal. I can choose not to disclose them and people will assume I'm like them. People whose differences are external don't have that luxury. I imagine unless one is from that second group, they will never understand what it's like to be on the receiving end of bigotry. Most people from mixed race areas have gotten tastes of it, but nothing near what you must face. If there is fallacy with your perspective, it's only that most cannot fully understand it.
This is where the majority blunders. A hot, sticky gush of pity washes the conscience instead of cold distaste aimed at the majorities tyranny.
So thanks for another interesting read and feel free to set me straight if I misinterpret. Either way, keep 'em coming.
 
Posted by Kilgore Trout on Saturday, September 01, 2007 - 5:24 PM
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Meow for Obama

 
Is there a fine line between feeling pity or sorry for someone versus say, compassion? I think there is room to feel sorry for someone in certain situations or who have far less than yourself.. but I defin. believe there is also people who pity out of ignorance while maintaining a sense of superiority.

One thing I cannot stand though is self-pity. Granted, we all have our dark moments, but the normal person will temporary feel bad for him/herself and try to snap out of it. But I don't tolerate well to people (as I've grown up with a few) who consistently think others were born with a silver spoon, or opportunities "were handed to them on a silver platter" while they're not doing anything for the betterment of their own lives.' And more often, those are people who are physically more healthy than any crip I've ever seen.
 
Posted by Meow for Obama on Saturday, September 01, 2007 - 11:05 PM
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Nick the Evil Genius

 
I always felt pity is vague. That may not make any sense but "pity" is always a sensitive word. Without knowing the person bestowing pity, it is difficult to know if they are making an ass of themselves or not. Perhaps I am happy to see any pity in this world at all, guided or misguided.
 
Posted by Nick the Evil Genius on Sunday, September 02, 2007 - 3:42 AM
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JoeStro

 
i think we need to make a distinction here between pity and compassion. they can look a lot a like and many times it is impossible to tell which a person is expressing. That is, i agree that it is difficult to tell if someone is making an ass of themselves or not. What it comes down to is motivation and it is impossible for someone to really get at and understand another person's motivation.

However, as difficult as it is to distinguish between pity and compassion as a third party (or even many times as the person the action is directed at), i think there IS an important difference there. Compassion is something that has empathy at its core. It is something to be encouraged. It boils down to a statement of "your struggle is my struggle, i want to understand your pain, its causes, and help you eliminate it." Pity is quite the opposite. Pity is the statement of "you are nothing like me and i find your way of being disturbing and have no idea how to react. i will not try to know you as a person, but will express my superiority over you by giving you charity." In my opinion, pity is uncomfortably tossing a few coins into a hat as you walk by a homeless person. Compassion is volunteering at a soup kitchen every week and having meaningful interaction with the same person.

Again, it is often very hard to draw this distinction in real life, but it does exist. compassion makes the world a better place, pity promotes and entrenches existing systems of oppression.
 
Posted by JoeStro on Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 4:20 PM
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Dave

 
Pity is a normal human emotion. No amount of debate or action or disdain will eliminate it. Either people learn to deal with it or they can live bitter life. That's a personal choice.

It seems like a mistake to me to assume that someone who has spent so much time with people who have a specific disability would feel nothing but pity for those people. Jerry Lewis just employs it (very effectively) to raise money for research. You also seem to forget that he has a severe disability of his own, it's just not as obvious as many physical ones.

Pity may not be the most flattering emotion, but it does serve a purpose or two. I'd rather draw someone's pity than have them fear me or ignore me. I've used it plenty of times to get beyond someone's initial reaction and reach them on a personal level, making it a vehicle to education and awareness. Before I had a wheelchair I didn't know anyone in one and, frankly, I didn't care to. While I'm not incredibly proud of that former attitude, I also embrace it because I think I am fortunate to be able to see things from both sides. I spent 24 years out of this chair before the 16 in it. I don't hold it against someone to react in whatever way they do as long as it isn't intentionally damaging because I understand how someone could get to that place. It's hard to understand the view form someone else's perch unless you've spent some time in it.

At the very least, you have to give him credit for trying to understand. Too many people will never even consider taking that step.
 
Posted by Dave on Sunday, September 02, 2007 - 6:37 PM
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JoeStro

 
Firstly, please see my above response to Nick, who raised similar concerns. I think drawing the distinction between pity and compassion goes a long way toward addressing your point.

Also, I think we are talking about 2 different things here. I am not talking about pity as an emotion, but as action. We cannot have access to someone else's emotions. I do not know what drives mr lewis. He may be a very compassionate person with a deep sense of empathy for people with disabilities and a genuine desire to understand their struggle and help it.

however, his public actions promote an attitude of pity. I don't need to tell you that the real harm of disability isn't physical or medical but social. Anyone who lives with it understands the isolation it can cause. The telethon presents people with disability as the "other." It is shot through with superficial, negative stereotypes that promote "wow i'm glad that's not me" way of thinking rather than the "let me try to understand you as a human being and understand what it is like to live as you do" way of thinking. The telethon further entrenches the sense of "otherness" most people have regarding disability and this does not raise education and awareness, but promotes harmful stereotyping.
 
Posted by JoeStro on Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 4:38 PM
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Zach

 
Beautifully put Joe, beautifully put.
- Naomi
You get to think about cool shit all day. love it.
Zach
 
Posted by Zach on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 8:11 PM
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gimp pimp

 
your blog is brilliant, as always.

I have been ranting about the notion that pity is really animus wrapped in benevolence for years now... thanks for sending this message in cyber-space. More people need to think about this issue!!

Best wishes stud muffin,
b
 
Posted by gimp pimp on Monday, September 03, 2007 - 8:41 PM
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Matrim

 
i read both your blog and your article in the paper on saturday. i definitely agree with what you are saying, i've been thinking about it a lot as i've been working with some of the more severely cognitively impaired students in our school for the past few days. to me, it seems as though most of those feelings of pity are a direct result of not getting to know those people with disabilities on a personal level, to develop that empathy. i have been fortunate to have known you since i first began school, so from the beginning of my education i was able to see how difficult it can be for some people. i just wonder how you effectively get those first hand experiences to those people that have never met someone who is different.

i also see what you mean about jerry lewis, and unfortunately older people oftentimes cannot really step out of the paradigm they have created for themselves. just yesterday, my grandmother was saying she refused to go to a convalescent home here in cheshire because it was run by baptists. however, shouldn't there be some consideration to the amount of money jerry lewis does raise, or do the means (potentially humiliating and pandering) not justify the end? how do you feel about this, i'm wondering because i think i read to today that he raised over $8 million, which is a lot of money that has the potential to help a lot of people.
 
Posted by Matrim on Tuesday, September 04, 2007 - 7:27 PM
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Matrim

 
that makes total sense.....just wondering what you guys thought about it.....it seems like most of those big name charities do not really contribute all that much to the people that really need it, because they have become such big organizations
 
Posted by Matrim on Wednesday, September 05, 2007 - 2:09 AM
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Corky von Texasheim

 
Rock ON!

I think pity, also, is akin to the "oh, bless his heart" or (feign light voice, slight southern accent of a fading South Carolina belle here): "Oh, I could NEVER do that" and my personal demeaning favorite, "God's Little Angels."

The pity and the blessing: all part of the same cultural hegemon that gives us someone like Jerry Lewis, who managed somehow to make donating to MDA a cultural duty, alleviating what I call "'able bodied' guilt" which is so much like white guilt in the sense that the attitude behind it is twofold: A: Thank god I'm not you/your loved one. B: I gave to Jerry Lewis. I'm good for the year. (people with disabilities only seem to be visible on Labor Day weekend, for the rest of the year, it's Ghostworld).
 
Posted by Corky von Texasheim on Thursday, October 18, 2007 - 4:35 PM
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Vicky

 
Great Blog Joe!

I agree with Corky, I have experienced what I call the 'Ah Bless' syndrome, Sometimes when people find out about my daughter having Down Syndrome the response from the majority is 'Ahhh' often with a little head tilt, and even a rub on the arm sometimes!

We were discussing pity and compassion a few months ago at University, Man I wish I had you with me!

Loving your blogs
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Posted by Vicky on Saturday, January 26, 2008 - 9:44 AM
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