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Sunday, November 30, 2008 
This morning on my way out of the hotel, i glanced at the requisite stack of USA Todays on the front desk and read a quick survey: Since Obama's victory, 67% of Americans feel "optimistic," "proud," or "excited." Only something like 23% feel pessimistic and about 17% feel "scared." For the umpteenth time in under a week, I teared up.

From the ecstasy of Tuesday night to the giddiness of Wednesday's morning-after astonishment to the apparent continuing reality of President-elect Obama, I, like everyone else, have been fascinated by what it all means. I went for a run in Prospect Park Wednesday morning and looked at every passerby for signs of some new shared reality - who are we now? Riding the subway, I was dying to know what everyone was thinking.

As the initial euphoria of the election begins to wear off, I've noticed that some people are beginning to add just a little edge of self-protective cynicism back into their voices. Not wanting to be disappointed by what will doubtlessly be an imperfect presidency, people are checking their excitement. "Well, we'll see what he actually does." "Well, this won't cure racism." Or as my mom's partner, who is African-American, said to me last night, "Yeah, but I still can't get a cab in D.C."

Obviously Obama's election is not going to change everything overnight. It remains to be seen what kind of an administration his will be, and how it will or won't change the way that we as Americans relate to each other and to the world. Still, I want to make the case for why our celebration and optimism are founded, regardless of what Obama ends up doing with his power; why we don't need to temper our joy with pessimism (more commonly called "realism" these days); and why this election truly is about us.

We create our leaders. They are us, in condensed form. Just as George W. Bush was the perfect reflection of our national apathy and appealed to our worst selves at exactly the time we as a nation embodied that spirit, Obama came forth out of our collective sense of what we could be, perhaps in direct contrast to what came before. En masse, we wore out the model of cynicism; we took it as far as we wanted it to go. McCain/Palin tried to take it further, using all the same techniques of the past eight years, and we finally said no.

Seizing the moment, Obama bet everything on the idea that our sense of optimism and hope, no matter how sublimated, was actually deep down who we are, our deepest instinct - deeper even than fear. Maybe the reason we are feeling so astonished right now is because he dared us to take that chance on ourselves, against the backdrop of perhaps the most cynical time in American history, in an atmosphere of such utter doom and gloom that we either had to agree to give up on ourselves and our world, probably for once and for all - or, simply argue for our own worth. That we chose the latter is nothing short of a triumph of the human spirit.

To me, the fact that 67% of Americans feel optimistic, proud, or excited right now means that change has *already* happened, on a national (and probably a global), internal, scale. And what we create in the world always starts internally, with ideas, and ideas come out of a sense of what is possible.

So - what is possible? Obama is willing to even go beyond "hope" to a true understanding of the nature of reality: as he said in his acceptance speech, "Anything is possible." Those of us who are in the business of uplifting others feel a great sense of relief that he is willing to go out on a limb and say the thing that we've staked our entire existence on. It feels like finally having external backup from a world that we've seen mostly laugh at us, or at best call us dreamers.

But don't take my word for it; take it from Malcolm Mitchell, a fifth grader at the Sojourner Truth School in Harlem, who I just read about on CNN.com. He said "[Obama] kinda motivated me because looking at the past, people say 'black men can't do this, black men can't do that'...you know, he's changing time, little by little. Women can vote now, and he's the first black president."

Because we argued against our own limitations, worlds have opened up for Malcolm Mitchell, and for all of us, on whatever level. That is already change. It will manifest in ways we can't predict. And *that* is exciting.
Aaron

 
It's amazing to me how far we've come in such a short time. It wasn't that long ago that slavery was still a reality. Hell, the last Civil War widow only died about 5 years ago! Segregation was still a reality until the 1960s when the courts stepped in and said that separate will NEVER be equal. And now we have our first black president! It's long overdue and it actually makes me proud to be American. I have a lot of hope invested in President Obama and what he can do for this country.
 
Posted by Aaron on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 4:29 PM
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Heather Miller

 
"Those of us who are in the business of uplifting others feel a great sense of relief that he is willing to go out on a limb and say the thing that we've staked our entire existence on. It feels like finally having external backup from a world that we've seen mostly laugh at us, or at best call us dreamers."

Thank you thank you for putting words to that emotion! And the whole thing about creating our leaders, so true!
 
Posted by Heather Miller on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 4:36 PM
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dayspringgirl
Loran Andrews

 
Thank you for your words...and once again i want to sit and have coffee with girlyman......

I live in a place that isn't as excited about this election and am hit on a daily basis about how bad this is for our country. Your words uplift me to a place that I know exists. I feel change in the air and I love the way you explained it. You, of course, are good with words and expression and help those of us not so gifted in that area.
 
Posted by dayspringgirl on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 6:59 PM
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Holly
Holly Thompson

 
Very well said. I couldn't agree more.
 
Posted by Holly on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 8:30 PM
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Gary Young

 
Ty,

Hello.

The Voting Rights Act, that was 1965? My grandmother was 48 years old before it was legal for her to vote. Before she was considered enough of a human being, an equal, for her vote to count. My grandfather was 45.

When I was young they used to tell me something I didn’t really understand at the time about a few of the really nice white families and friends. They would come around to the black neighborhoods like Turner Station and encourage people to vote. Here’s the part I didn’t understand when I was a kid. There was a poll tax.

My grandfather said that they would walk to the polling location and when they got back home someone, they never knew whom exactly, had left money under the doormat covering the cost of the poll tax. My grandmother is 90 years old. God, I wish my grandfather and his brother could have seen this. I’m glad my grandmother did.

As momentous as the election was, aside from the racial aspect I'm just as excited to have President Elect Obama's even handed thoughtfulness and practical optimism (if that's not an oxymoron). You know what I mean? He doesn't have the war wounds and shell shock of the Civil Rights era. He's not steeped in the ways of the Cold War. He doesn't draw a thick line around the middle of the globe or through the middle of America and say good/evil.

The next few years are going to be tough but it is uplifting to have a President whose approach or world sensibility isn't ... what's the word. Cynical? Or the important thing is, that maybe it reflects a less cynical electorate. People are inspired to participate and campaign and vote.

Invigorated. For something positive.

That's pretty cool.
 
Posted by Gary Young on Sunday, November 30, 2008 - 10:48 PM
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Donna

 
I could also feel the shift coming and still was walking on eggs wondering what might happen on election night. When we first saw that Obama had won enough electoral votes it was like you could feel the earth move... the sky cracked open and it was going to be a new day. I cried for all that has gone before, the hatred, the ignorance, the insanity. I cried in relief that it would be changed. I cried for everyone who put their lives on the line for truth. I cried seeing all the faces in the crowd.

It is enough to be glad we have a leader who is intelligent, who feels humbled by the privilege to lead, who wants this country to be the best creation that we can make it, but we got so much more. I think his clarity shows that he is not naive, his choice of advisers shows he is leveling the playing field in favor of real change and growth. I am, for the first time since I was 6 years old, in 1963, willing to feel proud and a part of something good.

Thanks, Ty, for putting it all out there so clearly.
 
Posted by Donna on Monday, December 01, 2008 - 10:23 PM
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