Also, I miss my son.  A lot.  And I have the fortune of being a birth mother who gets to see him as often as she wants.  It's been a month and a half, which is nothing compared to many birth mothers.  I don't understand why some people close their hearts to birth parents in allowing them to see their children.  When the birth parents are involved, everyone feels more secure.

The parents are supported.  Ruth and Scott were dealing with some heavy stuff last time we saw them, and we were over there frequently taking care of the kids and cooking meals while they were distracted.  Just think!  Free babysitting for the rest of your life!!  =P

The children are connected to their roots and have more love and guidance in their life.  I plan to provide for Tyler throughout his whole life.

As for the birthparents?  It was so difficult and painful at first, but it got better with time, precisely because Ruth and Scott were so loving toward Dan and I.  Because we were able to see him whenever we wanted, it turned from loss to gratitude.  Everything is perfect here.  I don't feel like Dan and I lost a son.  I feel like we've created a tribe around protecting and nurturing this little boy, and that we've created a family that's bigger than blood.

I do not understand those families who keep the birth parents out of their lives for fear that the children and birthparents will become too close.  Live with an open heart.  Don't be scared of sharing your love and inviting others into your family.

I miss Tyler so much.  It's felt like forever.  I'm going to call him tonight, and I am seeing him as SOON as I am back.