First of all, you are in college to get a degree, not necessarily to get a spouse. I teach in my relationship seminars:

" Get a life before you get a wife or you have hassle in your castle; malice in your palace; your dame will lose her flame; instead of living like a priest you will live like a beast. Why because you have issues in your tissues and scandals in you sandals; dragons in your wagons. Meaning you have things in your life that will be dragging on and on."

Before a man really needs to get with a woman, he needs to get with himself. Out of being with himself, he begins to find out who he is and where he should be going.

When a man gets with a young lady before he finds out who he is and they stay together for a while, after a period of time he later finds out who he is now he
is connected to a woman of who he was or thought he was. After understanding this they realize that they need a miracle to stay together. So one key thing in going to college is not to really look for a person to date. It is good to have boy or girl friends. Listen to the language use boy or girl. Neither boys nor girls are not ready for marriage. The other word friends, stay friends. The moment you have a sexual relationship, it is no longer a friendship. You have a vested interest. Now bodily fluids can be very toxic. You can literally have the last tango in college if you 'kiss' the wrong person.

So the truth is, I really want to keep you focused. The concept is to go to college and stay focused. You are there to get an
education, which is why friends or so called associates are very good to keep. If I can meet your three or four best friends,
I should have a digital copy of who you are because whether you are that now or becoming that is shows of your destination. The truth is, get better friends, you can be a better person; get bitter friends and you will be a bitter person. The whole concept is to stay single as long as possible I realize now that a person told me at age 22/23 that the best age to get married is about 35. I did not believe the advice and got married at age 25 and I have beautiful daughters. Looking back, I would have liked to marry the mother of my daughters later. The truth is marriage is a serious decision; people need more time to get together. How can you juggle an opportunity to be a professional by going to college and managing a serious relationship that deals with so many mental spiritual, sociological and psychological issues yet the person has no even become an adult.