First I wanna say I was taught and Do understand from issues in my life that a persons true Character comes through disaster!

When it comes to bad company it is better to be alone...But it is not right for man (People) to be by themselves, but I have learned you cant go around making things happen, you just have to be yourself.

Ultimately no one is perfect, but you are a reflection of the company you keep and when it comes to those that will uplift you and fight for you, be patient, and correct you (basically Love You) that is the way to succeed! But you also have to give your self (relationships are two way streets)I dont know everything but these are General things I've learned from Life's experiences.

You will always have negative encounters, and people who are in your way, I have learned that , unhealthy relations are sometimes discovered , some you notice right away and some are only discovered if you have your mind right, Also some are a product of you own negative mind.

You proved a great point when you said: "If you know yourself, you can feel when the person you meet is for a reason and whether or not you'll keep in touch. Sometimes, the answer doesn't come for days, months, years but some people stick out when you meet them and there's a reason to that."

Personally My Best Friend is Jesus...(No literally, I'm not just saying that, I have a personal relationship with him)Tell me who I am , I am a Christian (but see just because a Person says Jesus is their best friend doesnt mean they know him You know a person from the fruit they bear or the attribute and the outcome of thier involvement with you)... I see you pointed out some great things:

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.

Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.

Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.

Painful moments, TRUST GOD.

Every moment, THANK GOD.

But did you know that in all Things to follow him, and that comment you made
"Eventually we will all die, but do we all truly live? Just something to think about.....;-)"
You probably did not mean it in a totally "Spiritual" way because you probably meant do you live and not just breathe air...But totally You have to know that God's love is for everyone, and Eternal life is How you live...We all will die but the question is "WILL we Live" These are not just fancy talk it's the way I write and important factors to understand.

When you say: Happy moments, PRAISE GOD. Difficult moments, SEEK GOD. Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD. Painful moments, TRUST GOD.Every moment, THANK GOD.

What does your heart feel about it, does it give fulfillment and completion, is God Living in you and not a form of religion? Is it not scientific, or is it your PERSONAL testimony, I dont know if I'm explaining this right...DO YOU KNOW GOD LIKE YOU KNOW YOUR CLOSEST FRIEND, HE IS REAL AND WORTHY TO BE PRAISED, HE has GIVEN ME and fullfilled a void I searched for my whole life, LOVE, God knows I've searched!

I want to encourage your discipline, because discipline is very, very hard. However when you have it you have to stick by it, I do vow in my periods of discipline people have said to me loosen up or relax, They basically went against my views of safety, I'm not saying that it was healthy, because it opened me up to being hurt very badly(made me vunerable). but eventually from being hurt Jesus has literally helped me to understand the balance of give and guard your heart.

but there are ways of balance if you do have the right people speaking into yourlife.

Everything you do should be harbored by patience, and Selfcontroll to name a couple. Doesnt mean waiting long periods of time but not making descisions off impulse, the more you give into self controll, the better it will become...That doenst mean you dont have to be spontaneous... but even your spontaneousness will be harboured by wisdom! HMMMM...

And if people always tell you what you wanna here they are not looking for your best interests, They are not your friends! (Period)

All this Comes from the Love of Christ which lives in me to have My life as a sacrifice to help others, From what Christ gives me and teaches me, for him...He gave me purpose and he Died for YOU and ME! I mess up but ultimately my HEART gets back on track to where I'm going, I'm not perfect and never will be, neither are you! (With out Judgement) Where is Your Heart?... Something to think about.

On my page I have written a saying: "Life is a thing worth living, Where you choose to go and How you choose to do it determines, who you will become." ~~Latonya walters~~~

I want to tell you that your words of wisdom and form of discipline has encouraged me and helped me to better understand the importance of personal Circles! But there is a Balance to achieve...

I dont know how this went that way But it did, God Bless You!
Latonya Walters~ (Write you later)

(DISCLAIMER: THESE ARE PERSONAL OPINOINS OF MYSELF LATONYA WALTERS THAT I CHOSE TO SHARE, AND ARE NOT TO BE TAKEN AS A JUDGEMENT TO MR. LAZ ALONZO)
 

Word !!Word! Those are words I try to live by..
 

I Love It!!! It's The Truth Any How!!!
 

hello...
those are true words of wisdom.... people tend to think that they should pick and choose their friends and then use the word WISELY behind it... but what i have learned, especially now that i strive to get closer to the father, is that you should let HIM pick and choose your friends... besides only the Father has the power to drive away people that will bring obstacles to what He is doing in you; and bring those who will nurture, encourage and speak positively in your life.... i have never had a lot of friends, but even some of those friendships have withered and died off... but only to be replaced with people who are wonderful, ambitious, have great descernment and are born learders....like me!

be blessed.... and have a great holiday
 

I was in church not long ago, and my pastor was speaking on being productive. He said that you have to associate yourself with people who are more productive than you because they will help you and motivate you to do better. They will help to motivate you. That is a powerful message. I had to comment on that.
 

Amen....
 

Thank you for that encouragement brotha Laz, I really appreciated it. And I relate to this information on so many levels.
My relationship with my two best friends in the world (of 7 years), had to end in order for my relationship with God to begin. My heart was broken at the time, but HE showed me them and how negatively they affected my life. With them I was negative, gossiped, and had an overall bad attitude.
I had to lose them to understand that my true necessity was not in friends, but in the Lord. Once I met HIM, He blessed me with real friends. Who have not betrayed me as those others have. When people are not really there for you, Jesus absolutely always is. Always ready and willing to listen, to encourage, to lovingly correct, to lift you up.
Think how much better of a world this would be if each person's best friend was Jesus. No more bad advice, intentional efforts to sabotage relationships and marriages out of jealousy, no more low self esteem based on someone's mean and insensitive comments.
If just believers would make Jesus their best friend, this world would be completely changed. Unfortunately, too many of us are still caught up into other people's opinions, not realizing how destructive they can be.
I thank God for true friends, but beyond that I thank God for the type of friend HE has made me to be to others. Interestingly enough my middle name is Amina, which means honest and trustworthy in Arabic. In and of myself. I cannot be trusted. But with the Holy Spirit living within me, I have become a trustworthy person.
Laz I pray that you surround yourself with people who treat you the way you desire to be treated. And who love you for who you were before there was stardom.
Peace and Love,
Katari
 

wow...that's good! you know that's my language!!!!! i am impressed to say the least! hope to talk to you soon....
 

Words of Wisdom!!! "As you Grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are".

SOOOOOO true. This is something I have just painfully learned. As we grow, we often expect those around us to grow with us. Once you see that they are content with where they are at, or have no goals, dreams, or aspirations, that's when it's time to make a decision. One thing that I have noticed recently, is that while one is accomplishing their goals, advancing in their career or education, people start to treat you very different or become very envious, and bitter ( even though they had those same opportunities/choices) instead of being happy for your success.

*I see you came back to all this rain*
 

Thanks, good words!
 

I had to comment here because I'm really not sure how I feel about this. I literally just finished speaking with one of my closest friends. Had I turned away from her in the early days of our friendship, she probably would have lost her way completely. Simply put, she wasn't a great person. She did a lot of bad things, but she never influenced me, instead it was I that influenced her. I'm astounded at the woman she has become.
As Christians it would be so easy to just associate with "good" people, but then what would be the point? How would the lost become saved? To whom would we be the light? No one is perfect. We were all born sinners and it is only by God's grace we may be redeemed. What happened to encouraging people and helping guide them? I agree that God should be first and foremost in our lives and perhaps the ONLY one we allow to speak into our lives. It is him we live for, but I'm not one to only associate with those who can "offer" me something. I have a lot to offer because of where I stand in my relationship with Christ. I need to share that. We need to share that. Good strong friendships are definitely with those who care about you and genuinely want the best for you, but sometimes those people have issues. Big, deep issues. Sometimes, most times, you give more than you take. It doesn't deplete you because you have Christ in your life. But humanity is weak, suffering and struggling. Someone has to take the lead, be willing to take a few hits the betterment of mankind. Let me just clarify that you definitely need to have relationships with other believers, but just be careful not to snub non-believers or people who need support and encouragement to make a change for the better. I could have misunderstood this whole thing, if I did I apologize. If I didn't, think about it.

I do fully agree on the last part of the message.
 

Perfect message. Happy Holidays.
Abundant blessingsto you
 

Story of my life. Funny how each individual line, I can pull an experience in life to match it, sometimes learning the hard way but better for it today. This are jewels and keys to success. Life is ultimately built upon relationships. Once someone masters that, they can determine where they go in life. So very very true.

Have a blessed and progressive week and happy holidays homey.

Sphinx
 

Thank you
 

Oh wow!! I love this one. I can really feel this one right about now....
 

HMM VERY TRUE LAZ..
 

I totally Agree!
 

This is brilliant truth, i've printed it out and will be putting it up. Thanks for taking the time to share this with the world!

Peace & Blessings :-)
 

I agree and disagree with parts of this posting. I do think if you spend too much time with a group of people who might be a bad influence, that some can fall prey to that behavior; but, I also think that the only way the unsaved will see the light is to have a relationship with one who is saved. In my walk with the Lord, although I remain imperfect and always will, I strive to be an example for those who do not know Him.

This is worth repeating:
Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
 

Simply stated, and right on point. Jesus hung with tax collector's and prostitutes so who are we to say anythng different.
 

I love this passage....so many of us forget to do those things...and thank you for reminding us about life! I hope for much success and happiness to you.
 

Nice. La verdad!
 

I enjoyed the advising blog entry! For it is true, be careful who your friends are; Hang with those who wanna do productive things in their lives as well as those who understand and appreciate ur goals!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

Hey Laz, I just read your "Word of Wisdom" and it was something that I needed to read today....Thanks for the inspiration....Nikkie
 

Very true! I had to let some toxic people go out of my life.

Great post!

Catisha
 

Wow, I just might have to steal this from you.... I am impressed...God bless
 

So True
 

Awesome and very true!

In '07, I struggled with a friendship that lasted about 5 years and it didn't appear to be unhealthy until last year. I got out and haven't looked back.. I've always been an individual, so I can't say I'm better now without that friendship, but I can say I'm glad I'm no longer in it... it couldn't have been that great if it's over!
 

Ten kudos for your blog... I can definitely relate my "best friend" of 13 years is no longer my friend. When I'm online I like to take time out to read everyone's blogs your instantly grab my attention. After reading "Friends" I now completely understand why my friend and I are no longer friends.
 

I needed this at this very moment. Thank you.
 

Wonderful words of wisdom, my friend! It really encouraged me to become a better friend, a better person. Thank you. Peace and blessings. -Dana
 

I FEEL YOU SO MUCH ON THIS BLOG YOU GET MUCH RESPECT ON THIS CAUSE IT S SO TRUE FOR ME I RATHER BE ALONE CAUSE WHEN YOU HAVE LOTS OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE AROUND YOU PROPLEMS SEEM TO COME MAKES IT HARD TO FOCUSE ON WHAT YOU WANT AND SOMETIMES YOUR CLOSES FRIENDS DONT WANT TO SEE YOU doing big THINGS IN LIFE CAUSE THEY WANT YOU TO STAY RIGHTWHERE DAY ARE WITH THEM EVEN FAMILY SOMETIMES DO YOU DIRTY IT HAPPEN TO ME .THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING A SOCIAL LIFE WITH FRIENDS YOU KNOW AS LONG AS THEY KNOW AND UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU COMING FROM THERE ARE SOME OUT THERE THAT WILL BE WITH YOU TILL THE END BUT MOSTLY ITS JUST ASSOCIATES .THANKS FOR POST THIS BLOG ALOT OF PEOPLE NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT GIVE YOU THE MUCH RESPECT I LIKE THE FACT YOU BELIEVE IN GOD AND THANK HIM FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE HES THERE TO PICK YOU UP WHEN YOU FALLING I TRUELY BELIEVE THAT TAKE CARE SEXY. :)
 

Wow! So well put. I appreciate your brutal honesty and wisdom. Most people would find something wrong with this blog, hence becoming offended right away.



Individuals either understand the concept of GOD if you will, or they dont- and how that makes one's life so much fuller and richer on another level. I however have factually seen how GOD has worked in my life, and its simply amazing and I am so thankful.



Stay real and dont ever change.
I wish you more blessings to come!

Ms.
X~
 

Thx Dr Phil-laz..taking it all in!
 

Well said....
 

Remember some wolves are in sheep clothing. Wolves can praise God but they can't worship.

Everyone has to get bit by a snake every once, it's a part of growing with God. But you know what ...continue to love your enemy or haters because love conquers all. Stay humble and pray for wisdom because everyone needs it.

 

You should read God Chasers and God's Favorite House by Tommy Tenney because my worship is on a higher level. Remember some wolves are in sheep clothing because anyone can praise God but can they worship is the Question.

 

Now thats just magnificent! And so true!!! Big kutos to you! and you know what else??? It never stops! Somehow I thought they would grow bored or too old for all that BUT NOPE!!!!!!!!! IT seems the older they get, they just get worse! So you keep your head up and your prayers straight to God!! dont let them change you or effect you! kay?? wow......I tried to teach my daughter this.....................They still managed to break her heart.........................AND THIS MOVIE IS BRILLIANT!
 

I know you wrote this ages ago but I just checked it out.

You honestly have so many words of wisdom.
Many should learn
and live by your philosophies.
Why cant more men be like you?
where are they? they aren't from LA that's for sure!
 

So true! Been there and re-evaluating some of the people I know. I like the way you think. I honestly can say that I have heard from a few people and everything is going good(I don't miss them). God has a way of making you turn to Him, trust Him, praise Him. He created all things, He put you in situations so you can turn to and trust Him so that He can get the glory.
Amazing is He!
 

After reading the blog i understand wat it's talking about cause just a couple of months ago i found out who my real friends r and who not my friends @ all..whats really tripping me out is the part about "never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, or "the less you associate with some people the more your life will IMPROVE",i talked 2 somebody who was suppose 2 be a good friend about something personal and came to find out that person was not a good friend after all they just was a hater who didn't want 2 see me happy or move on 2 bigger and better things and since i haven't been talking 2 that person, it's kind of hard not 2 see that person cause we work @ the same job,my life have been so much better cause i don't need alot of drama in my life especially someone that's a hater...lots of luv
 

Laz, those were some deep words of wisdom! Keep living along those lines and there's no doubt you will reach higher heights in your life.
Damn, that inspired me even the more!

You go boy!
Shena
 

I previously read this but for some reason came to it again.......so what does one do who has had a dear friend that...basically doesn't do any of the above positive things.......guess It is time to SOAR alone! :-) sad that as we grow our friends do not always grow with us........................
 

See what I mean.... there's excellent advice here.
 

....Amen  you said a mouth full.......