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Thor Knai


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Gender: Male
Status: Single
Age: 25
Sign: Cancer

City: Oslo/Los Angeles
State: California
Country: US
Signup Date: 9/5/2005

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Tuesday, June 06, 2006 

This is the fourth part of my personal ramblings about life in general. I will stress again that these are personal views and I appreciate if you don't agree as long as you state why! ;) This particular one is about why some people are good, why girls like bad guys, and why good is the ultimate sign of strenght...

Nice people are weak. A lot of people are nice and good just because they have to be in order to "survive" and progress in society. They are good and nice because they are at the mercy of others stronger then they are. And this makes them weak. They have low self-esteems and go about being the underdog, or the ones that never dear ask / take what they want because they are too "polite" to do so. Too "scared" would be the right word. Women don't like these guys, they are cute, they are friends, but never more. But at least they are nice, and often they are happy with their lot in life, which is great. This is the majority, demand is low because supply is high. Perfectly respectable because they mind their own business and treat everyone with respect...

Then you have the bad guys, mean people. The people who do what they want when they want to. And they don't give a damn about the consequences, because they don't have to, because they are strong enough not to have to be anyone's underdog. Not to show weakness through kindness. Strong enough to make their own lot in life, regardless of what other people think. These are the ones who talk shit about cops, who despise authority. The wildcards. They show their strength because they can. They are "bad" and loving it, and it gives them the feeling of power. Many women love these guys, cuz they are so strong that they take orders from no one, cuz they are unpredictable and "dangerous" and that makes them exciting. And they kick most  "nice" guys asses. Thus instinctively, these guys are better mates, stronger than the "good guys" and hence the saying "good guys finish last". These are much further in between than the first group, which adds to their popularity, higher demand, smaller supply.

But at the very top of the food chain you have the real Good guys. These are the people with confidence and power enough that they don't have to show it off. These are the people who choose to follow the laws and respect authority because they understand that it is in the best interest of everyone. They don't have to take orders, they could choose not to and be excellent bad guys if they wanted to, and they know it. But they take no pleasure in the suffering of others. These are the people who want to change the world for the better. Who cares about everyone because they know they can. Those who are powerful enough that they have resources to spend on every one elses well-being as well as their own. These people are the smart ones, that understand why things are the way they are, that recognize that everyone has their place in life and respect them for it. And they care what people think about them because they care about everyone, but they consider the source. These are the fewest, and with the highest demand. I admire and love these people. They make the world a better place. And they fight for what they believe in when it is needed.

To be good because you want to, not because you have to is to me the ultimate show of power. Unfortunately, good people are often mistaken for weak, and it's a reasonable assumption, because most people that are nice, are nice because they have to. "Nice" is a bad thing, it means you accomodate everything even though you may not want to. "Good" is a great thing. It means you do "nice" things because you choose to, because you can, and you do so out of honesty, not out of necessity...  It is hard to tell who these people are, and because of that, for most people there is very little incentive to be one...

Thanks for reading this! I would love to hear your opinion on the matter! Peace and Love everyone! ;)

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Stephanie Elise

 

You're amazing....period.

I wrote something similar to this called Kids and animals like me... About how people's insecurities keep them from aiming higher and taking chances on people they think are out of their league based on something dumb like looks.

Your inner beauty transcends your outer....you're definitely an inspiration.

Thanks so much for writing this


 
Posted by Stephanie Elise on Tuesday, June 06, 2006 - 5:46 AM
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Joe Condiracci

 

Yep...the world is full of assholes, and unfortunately the assholes are more in control now than they have ever been.

But wait...the pendulam is swinging, and the truth always bears out. It might take a little bit longer in these days of disgusting spin...but the cream does rise...it does:-)

Wait.

The Truth is coming up, and better days are ahead.

Back to Sanity 101,

Joe

 


 
Posted by Joe Condiracci on Tuesday, June 06, 2006 - 6:50 AM
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Rocky Marquette

 
Thinking comes after we learn.  It looks as if you are very aware of your knowledge.

That is awesome man!

-Rocky

 
Posted by Rocky Marquette on Tuesday, June 06, 2006 - 7:41 AM
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LUCIE
Lucie Schaeffer

 

Sweetie!! This is brilliant!!

We usually just divide the guys into 2 groups;

Nice/weak/Beta guys and Bad/strong/Alpha guys.....

You say that alot of women are attracted to the bad guys, the kind of guy that takes pleasure out of beating up the defenseless poor weak ones or the guy that brings anyone down to bring himself up and thinks he is so damn too good for everyone, that he's worth so much more than the rest of humanity and that the rules for the good fonctionning of the society just don't apply to him.

In my opinion, those last things just demonstrate a lack of confidence in himself by overcompensating with the power he think he owns and these girls are matching up with such guys for the same reason; their lack of self-esteem. By associating themself with such ''powerful'' men, it makes them feel like it brings them up above the ''weak'' people.

But FORTUNATELY, more and more, the 3rd category of guys is getting a bigger place... Just like you said; those Alpha guys all have the qualities to be a badass guy and screw everything on their way, but they don't. Why? Because there is no need to. They have enough self esteem to believe in their own potential and don't need to prove it by bringing down other people. And they have learned the definition of the word ''respect''. They also have enough confidence in their manhood to show that they are sweet, nice and have a heart, without having to care of what some may say...

          In my opinion, that last category are what real men are made of....


 
Posted by LUCIE on Tuesday, June 06, 2006 - 7:43 AM
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Monica

 
P.S.S. I know you separated "nice" from "good." Nice is "weak" and good is "mistaken as weak" ...I don't fully agree, but yeah, I did get that. ;-)
 
Posted by Monica on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 1:36 AM
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Monica

 
Very interesting blog honey.

I am not sure if I agree with "nice people are weak" statement. I don't think all of the guys who fall into this category *have to be nice and good just to survive.* or they are nice cuz they think it is necessary. How about just maybe they were born from nice folks, raised nicely, over all a good nice people?? But just a bit boring, not challenging or exciting, predictable indeed. But I wouldn't say they are weak. Although, you're right, low demands due to the high supply and girls usually keep it all only friendship with them. ;-)

As for the 'ass holes' ... I disagree with *they don't give a damn about the consequences, because they don't have to, because they are strong enough not to have to be anyone's underdog. Not to show weakness through kindness.* "Not to show weakness through kindness"?? I am very kind and show it with no prob... yet never consider that my weakness. You say it in the end yourself, "Unfortunately, good people are often mistaken for weak," so it's a mistake to consider these good people weak. no? These jerks might believe they can do whatever they want, whenever they want, but I assure you, they are not gonna get away with it all the time. *These are the ones who talk shit about cops, who despise authority. The wildcards. They show their strength because they can.* I do NOT consider "talking shit about cops" and such as the sign of strength AT ALL. Maybe 'THEY MIGHT BELIEVE' it is.. as you say that gives them the "false" power.
I also disagree with the generalization: *women love these guys.* Certain young, shallow girls might be "drawn to them" or "can't help, but to be attracted to them," BUT I don't think these guys are the ones women want to "LOVE" in the end.

Yess, I love the ones you described the last, the real good guys, "the REAL MEN"!! :-D I am definitely surrounded by these men including YOU of course. And I agree, these guys have the most "true strength" and the power. The top of the creme. When we women can find one like this, and if he happens to be also attracted to you, You hit the Jack pot!

Very interesting. Justin wants to meet you, too. He said: "yeah, bring Thor along. He is such a trip on mysapce. noone like him on that brainless site." HAHA!!

Looove you, Thor. XOXXO

p.s. I also just updated my blog a bit.
 
Posted by Monica on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 1:38 AM
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Thor Knai
Thor Knai

 

Hey you! Oh no, I don't mean to say that kind = weak. There's a difference between kind and good and honest, and being "nice".  It's better to be nice for the wrong reasons than to be bad for the wrong ones though, so I respect nice. But I respect good more. Good is honest, people that give constructive critisism instead of telling you what you want to hear.

And of course I have made things a little extreme. Nobody needs to be nice to survive on a basic level. Luckily we have laws for that. I also think that you're confusing my nice / good category a little. These are not absolutes by no means, they are very general linear categories. There are more dimensions of course, and some people are parts more than one, but these things shine through and are easy to identify. ;)

And no, most sane people don't consider talking shit about cops and not giving a damn, to be a show of strenght. But those that do these things think they are, and they are right to think so, because all they see is that it works out, since some people actually fall for it. To these guys kindness can be weakness. To most people it's not. And you are right again of course, women don't "love" these guys but they are attracted to them enough so that these people see real benefits of being that way. And women tend to let these guys get away with WAY TOO MUCH.

And your kindness is not weakness, you are not unconditionally nice to everyone, you stand up for your beliefs and you dis "drama queens" etc. Your goodness is an amazing display of power, I'm dazzled by it almost every day! ;) I loooove you!!!


 
Posted by Thor Knai on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 1:53 AM
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Monica

 
Ahh, I get it. You wrote it more through those ass holes' eye, not yours. Totally get it now. Then it all makes sense, honey! ;-)

You are sooo right about women tend to let ass holes get away with WAY TOO MUCH. It's just mind blowing how much those ass holes get away with. TRUE. But once in a while, some feisty brainy chick with no insecurity who would NOT take any BS, wouldn't even buy it, and would be willing to dump him in a heartbeat comes along and puts him in his place. I LOVE being that feisty chick who keeps it real. ;-)

Also they do score, but hey, what kinda quality girls are they getting?? for how long?? These guys would never be able to score a heart of women that fall into your third category... "the mature real good women with strength." And of course, the Karma always takes care of the rest. ;-)

Girls do talk about how they are attracted to those so-called bad boys. I always say, "I am NOT." I am NOT AT ALL. I love honest, caring, sincere, and sweet boys all the way, all the way!

and I looovvveeee YOU!!! XOXXO


 
Posted by Monica on Monday, June 12, 2006 - 2:22 AM
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Angie

 
wow you sure know how to express yourself! :)
that is really great! really!!
 
Posted by Angie on Thursday, June 15, 2006 - 3:58 PM
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BeatrixXx Vanetti

 

Yes, you are right; good guys are often underestimated.  However, these "good" guys often fall for the bad girls too, and don't deny it.  There are plenty of good girls out there but but nobody cares about them.  Guys usually go for looks and not for intelligence and dignity.  Hmmm... but you are right; good guys are hard to find.  At least the kind that is good for their will and not for cowardness.


 
Posted by BeatrixXx Vanetti on Wednesday, September 20, 2006 - 10:24 AM
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Thor Knai
Thor Knai

 

Thanks for the feedback! No doubt this is a highly generalized blog. And obviously this subject cannot be dealt with in four paragraphs. I am actually kinda contemplating taking it down because of that, but hey.. with you guys helping me make my points clear I might not have to!

I agree with your assessment that categories 1 and 2 have much in common when it comes to fear. But there is maybe 1 to 30 or 1 to 20 ratio. So the vast majority falls under 1. Of course there are blurry lines between the three though. ;)


 
Posted by Thor Knai on Monday, September 25, 2006 - 9:00 AM
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jannicke

 

Hei Torbjørn.

Æ e ble jo aldri ferdig med å komme mæ gjennom alt innholdet på sida di, men æ e komme et lite steg videre no  

 

Den her bloggen ble æ kjempe imponert av! Ikke bare hadde den en meget fornuftig innhold, men du klarte som du alltid gjør, hehe. Først ble æ provosert, det vil si engasjert. Men etterhvert kunne æ se at det du sier e helt riktig og at vi faktisk ser folk helt likt når det kommer til dette emnet.

Surprised?!?

 

Well done

xx


 
Posted by jannicke on Wednesday, March 07, 2007 - 8:23 AM
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--->Running Wolf<---

 
Ok, well, first off the 'nice' and 'bad' in relation to women's desires to be with bad boys.  Possibly they choose the bad/mean boy because they fall into your first paragraph about nice people...simply that they are not confident enough to choose otherwise.  What I really appreciate in this piece is this very well proposed line "...to be good because you want to, not because you have to is the me the ultimate show of power."  That statement sums up the meaning of self-knowing and self-realization combined with a beautiful confidence.  Very well written...
 
Posted by --->Running Wolf<--- on Monday, March 26, 2007 - 2:21 AM
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--->Running Wolf<---

 
hmmm....this needs to be read again before I can post a proper comment.  Uno momento por favor...
 
Posted by --->Running Wolf<--- on Monday, March 26, 2007 - 2:21 AM
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ABEL
Abel compres

 
In my opinion the strongest people are the ones who are neutral, the ones who understand and no longer have the illusions that society has place in them.
 
Posted by ABEL on Wednesday, July 18, 2007 - 10:17 AM
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Carlino
Carlo Sorrentino

 
Oh, man! You really had me going. You got me. I was all getting ready to disagree because I'm always having this discussion with people about how having good manners and exercising kindness are not the same as weakness. But then I got to the end and realize you and I are saying exactly the same thing. We're just wording it differently. 

Kindness is a choice we make, in my opinion. And if someone makes the mistake of thinking it is weakness then they will soon find out from me just how wrong they are.

There is only one point I disagree with. I don't think people are so weak that they have no choice as you say. I think this majority is simply lazy, and taking the easy way out. It's easier to not make waves, to be perceived as weak, because weak is not a threat and therefore it's the safe choice. A lot of people trade their strength for safety. I'm not sure how I feel about that, but it's not a choice I like for myself, I guess.



 
Posted by Carlino on Sunday, June 28, 2009 - 4:16 AM
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