It’s human nature to pass blame and not take responsibility for our own involvement in the issues of our marriage; however, we have to begin seeking to change ourselves and not our mate.  We can’t expect change in our marriages until we first put the Word of God into action in our own life and allow it to change us.  Begin praying for God to change you rather than begging God to change your spouse.  Judge yourself and ask God “Am I the problem? Am I being unreasonable or selfish? Show me Lord if I am the problem or where I need to take responsibility.” When we look in the mirror, we make changes to ourselves based on what we see.  If your reflection shows your hair is a mess, or clothes dirty, you will fix your hair & put on clean clothes without hesitation. In the same way, use Gods word as your mirror to spiritually see what needs changing in you.

And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Matthew 7:3-5

“Father God, I am not yet what I am to become so please keep remaking me over!  Continue to help me to grow and mature in the faith.  Help me not to focus on the shortcomings of my spouse and show me areas that I need to change. Give me Your wisdom Lord, to live according to Your Word and Your will.  Amen”

Challenge:  Focus this week on complimenting your spouse this week for they are doing RIGHT.  Then find something in yourself that could use improvement and work on changing that area this week.