Sometimes life serves us up some heart break and heart ache. Those times when we're pitched a fastball when we aren't looking and it smacks us right upside the head. And if you're anything like me we didn't even know we were in the game.
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But is this true? Does Life (God) dole out pain and suffering or do we create it for ourselves when we become attached to what we think we want?
We decide for ourselves that having more money, a different (better) job, or being married or divorced is just what we need to be happy, that circumstances other than the ones we are experiencing would be better. And because we have "decided" that something else would be better we also decide to be unhappy with our current circumstances. And we become acutely aware of what is wrong in our life.
What we tend to do next is look around for the "One to Blame". Maybe for you it's the economy, the president, your spouse or ex-spouse, co-workers or the war, who ever or what ever we decide to blame the result is the same. We have ever so conveniently and subtly become the Victim.
Ahhhhhhh…Angels sing. (The angels sing not because we chose victimhood but because we became aware of the choice).
There's that word again. Victimhood is so prevalent in our daily lives that we can be (and usually are) swimming in the dark pool of it and have no idea.
When we "decide" that our lives would be better only if…blah, blah, blah. We have written a story. And it is just a story! We don't even know if it's a true story.
We only have to shift our perception a tiny little bit to change our experience right now. What if that baseball that has come whirling feverishly at your head is just what the doctor ordered? Nothing like a little wake-up call, I always say. And believe me if we didn't need a hard ball to our hard head we wouldn't have gotten it. If you're anything like me I know that I get plenty of clues before the ball and sometimes I even notice them but it's not the information that I think I want.
Shifting our perception can be as simple as asking the right question. And the right question may go something like this…
What would it be like if I allowed myself to be happy right here and right now?
What is right and good in my life right now?
Am I afraid to be happy and content right now?
Why do I resist happiness?
Can I stop giving my power over to my circumstances and be peaceful right now?
What if I have created all of this and I can un-create it now?
We simply cannot Master our lives and play victim at the same time. Believe me, I know, I have tried!