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When I’m in the mood for some mindless entertainment and my brain is too fried to read or write I always sit back, relax and watch a movie.  But my mind never quite gets the rest that I think it might because a good movie always makes me think.  This time my cinematic selection was the movie, 27 Dresses.

I completely indentified with the main character because she had a hard time saying no and she often put the needs of others before her own.  She had been caught up in these self neglecting behaviors for so long that she never even realized that there was a problem.  It had become a way of life.

All of the giving with very little taking built up over the years, and just as with any pot that’s been on the fire too long with the lid closed, the pressure became too much and she boiled over.   All of the years of pent up aggression at keeping her true feelings inside turned into resentment that ended up leaving those that she loved with hurt feelings.  If she had been honest with others, and most importantly with herself, things would have never gotten to that point.

I was so moved by the message behind the movie that I got up, got dressed and treated myself to a mini night out on the town all by my lonesome.  I remember the days when I wouldn’t be caught dead going out alone.  I would look at people who did go out to dinner or a movie by themselves and feel sorry for them.  Little did I know, they were in a far better position than I was.  I was the one with the problem.   I didn’t have the confidence to go out alone.  Once I finally took that leap of faith, I was surprised at so much fun one could have rolling solo.

You don’t have to worry about waiting for people to get dressed or put on their make-up. You can arrive at and leave your desired venue whenever you please because you don’t have anyone else’s schedule to consider.  It’s actually a quite liberating and empowering experience that everyone should try at least once. 

So every time that I sit back and believe that I can actually enjoy a movie without having to think, I am sadly mistaken.  My mind and my emotions are almost always stimulated because after all, a movie is often just a good story in motion translated from the page to the screen.  So it’s almost impossible for anyone who has a passion for reading to not have a love for film as well.  You always walk away with something even if it’s just a good laugh, cry, or thought that sparks an action.

27 Dresses touched on several interesting issues surrounding self-love and commitment.   In my opinion it’s definitely must see.