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JJ Fabini


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Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 38
Sign: Scorpio

City: Fort Wayne
State: INDIANA
Country: US
Signup Date: 10/25/2005

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Friday, May 02, 2008 

Current mood:  sad
Category: Pets and Animals
I distinctly remember the first time I saw him. 13 years ago. Just a tiny little white furball with black spots. The cutest little dog ever, with a huge personality, even at 8 weeks old. He was laying on the blue couch in my living room in the house on N. Clinton. He was the runt of the litter that my roomate's girlfriend's dog had just whelped. She wanted to keep him, but she had just had foot surgery, and wouldn't be able to take care of an energetic puppy. I didn't really want a dog, but my girlfriend at the time fell in love with him then and there, so I caved.
 
He came with his share of problems. He was a puppy who loved to chew, as my roomate at the time, Mike, could attest to. He chewed the hell out of his dining room table and his pearl white Ibenez and some shoes here and there (never touched any of my stuff, though). When the girlfriend got an out of town gig and we split up, Funk stayed with me.
 
He had epilepsy, but it was manageable. In the later years, he had to take meds to make sure his urine didn't crystallize in his bladder. He also had to eat special (and damn expensive) food for the same reason. Over the years, he had some other medical problems, had a surgery or two, but I did what had to be done to keep my little buddy going strong.
 
He's been with me through everything over the past 13 years. You know how it goes - when times are tough, your dog is there for you, giving you unconditional love even when you feel like the entire world is against you.
 
For awhile now, he's had good days and bad days. On the bad days, he would go to the bathroom while laying on his bed and sleeping - just crap or pee or whatever. Then he would go a few days with no problems, and then he'd do it again. Or he would let it go on the floor in the kitchen. Not on purpose, not in anger, but because he had to go, he was old, and that was that.  He had also been falling down a lot, especially outside on the patio, and had developed a couple of open wounds on his legs & butt that weren't healing because he kept falling on them and scraping them on the rough concrete outside. On Wednesday night, he had fallen when I let him out before I went to bed, and while he was laying there he shit, so his rear end / legs were covered in it. So, I gave him a quick bath before going to bed (he's had at least 3 baths a week lately because of this sort of thing). I had the worst time sleeping because I couldn't stop thinking of how hard of a time he was having, and knowing what I should do, which of course upset me quite a bit. I think maybe I got 3 hours. Then yesterday morning when he was let out, the same thing happened again. At that point, I just knew it was time. Gave him another quick bath, M said her tearful goodbyes, and I loaded him up for his last trip to the vet. I couldn't even talk when I got there. I just pointed to him with tears in my eyes, and they knew what was going on. I couldn't say my name when they asked so they could find his file - I just handed them my drivers license - I was a fucking mess. I didn't stop crying the entire time I was there. I couldn't go with them to the room where they were going to put him to sleep (they offered, but there was no way I could do it) so I just said my goodbyes in the exam room, took off his collar, and they led him away. He even licked the girl's face when she was putting the lead on him, and she said "Awww - you're such a sweet dog". That was the last thing I saw him do - lick the girl who was leading him to his end, because that's what kind of a dog he was - just a goodhearted, trusting, loving animal, and I fucking miss him.
M

 
You could not be more right. He was such a good dog and I miss him dearly. Yesterday it was so strange not seeing two dogs greet me as I came home from work. His bed was gone, an empty food dish set next to his wate bowl and there were no friendly barks to greet me as they usually do when I walk in the door. When I was cooking dinner, I saw Lana (our other dog) lay where Funk and she use to lay together where his bed use to be and it broke my heart all over again.


When I first was getting to know Funk, I learned some things about him. I've heard and seen some crazy things that animals had done but I've never seen a dog chase other dogs or animals on our living room TV. Ive never seen a dog eat an entire pack of spearment gum leaving the wrappers behind, or an entire mint plant that J's mom had grown in the back yard when we lived in the apartment. Man that dog loved to eat anything minty. He even ate a dryer sheet one time, but we didnt know until we saw it hanging out the other end of him when we went for a walk. I said to J, "what is that?" Well it was a dryer sheet. Watching J pull that thing out of his rear was so funny that I still laugh now remembering the look on J's face and Funks. I think he was trying to freshen his breath because of the stinky food he had to eat and his breath wasnt the only thing that smelled. Let's just say Funk could clear a room.


You couldnt not love Funkbutt (my nickname for Funk). I'll miss making his smelly food with a cup of dry food and a can of the chicken or turkey (dont really know what was in that stuff), and mixed it up with his vitamins and encourage him to eat it, "good boy, you know you love it, mmm smells good, eat up!" he would sometimes look at me and I swear he would think at me like "ya, who you kiddin, you aint eatin it". When we weren't able to get to the vet to get his normal, as J said "expensive" food he would get the good stuff, ALPO! We would get some chicken-n-rice and gravy and beef in gravy and show him the cans to let him choose and which ever can he would lick more we would give him that can first. What a treat it was. He would get so excited while we were mixing the food up for him he would start whining to the point where you would think he would pass out from the excitement! And when we would set the bowl down he would eat so fast that it would somehow get stuck in his nose and we could always tell because he would snort! We'd have to say slow down buddy.


I know that Funk touched many peoples lives and crotches for that matter. On many occasions that was something that you would hear friends say if they came over to the house was how they had gotten an overly friendly greeting from Funk. If this has ever happened to you, he was only giving you a friendly sniff as "welcome to my house I'm going to sniff your crotch now because i'm a dog and thats what I do". If you had come over often you knew to have a hand ready because if you didnt you were going to get a snout in your crotch.


Funky was a sweetheart. A big spotted puppy at heart, who even if you didnt ask him to, would always give you a kiss. Love you Funkybutt.

 
Posted by M on Friday, May 02, 2008 - 9:58 PM
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Mikel@Streetfirebooking
Mikel Beal

 
Our pets are our family that choose to be with us.

 
Posted by Mikel@Streetfirebooking on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 3:09 AM
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Missi

 
I am so sorry for your loss. I know just where you're coming from. My boy had to be put down last February. He gave me 13 years of unconditional love and companionship, and there is no way I will ever forget that. I miss my boy still.


*raises glass for a toast* To the Funkster!
 
Posted by Missi on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 1:00 PM
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Missi

 
I messed up, I actually had my boy for 15 years.

 
Posted by Missi on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 11:07 AM
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Van
Brian Van Bokkelen

 
Sorry JJ...I met him a few times. Great dog.

 
Posted by Van on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 1:00 PM
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Jammin Jana

 
Sorry for your loss.

 
Posted by Jammin Jana on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 1:01 PM
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Becster *ô¿ô*
Becky Sandstrom

 
So sorry for your loss....had to do the exact same thing to my Golden of 13 yrs.....and I know exactly what your talkin about with the trip to the vet. (Still brings tears to my eyes). Just know he is in a better place now and he has no more pain. Sorry buddy.....Hugs from me to you!!!!
 
Posted by Becster *ô¿ô* on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 2:22 PM
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Beccadobe

 
I am so sorry for your loss =(
 
Posted by Beccadobe on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 4:03 PM
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B
B V

 
Man, sorry J.
Funk was a great dog, even when I had to chase him all over hell to get him back inside!
 
Posted by B on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 4:04 PM
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Lisa

 
made me so sad to read your story...i cry at random moments when i think of my chubs getting old....that had to be hard
 
Posted by Lisa on Saturday, May 03, 2008 - 4:39 PM
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Master G.E.E.
Gordon Engquist

 
Sorry to hear of your loss J, it sounds to me that on top of him being a damn good dog, you were a damn fine owner. We will keep you in our thoughts buddy.
GJLEA
 
Posted by Master G.E.E. on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 11:04 AM
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SCLOHO

 
JJ,

My heart goes out to you & Michele.


It's been nearly 10 years since we first met, and we've been working together again for 5.


I have a lot of respect for you and all you've been through all around. If there is anything, I can do, I'm just down the hall or a call away.

 
Posted by SCLOHO on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 11:05 AM
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doug

 
Hang in there JJ... I'm sending positive vibes your way.

 
Posted by doug on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 2:02 PM
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Laureen
Laureen Voirol

 
J...my heart hurts for you. I know everything that Funky was to you.
He was a great dog, and his owner is pretty kick ass too! I'm here if ya need me! Luv you!
 
Posted by Laureen on Sunday, May 04, 2008 - 4:36 PM
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~C. Lynn~
Cheryl Lynn Wiedenhoeft

 
Oh my gosh, I am SO sorry to hear Funky has gone to dog heaven! Although it's been years since I last saw him, I still remember when you guys got him ... hanging out on the weekend ... he was the coolest dog! To this day, I talk about my friend's dog who would hop up on the couch and sit there like he was human ... I never knew a dog who did that! :) Still makes me chuckle ...

In this time of loss, think of all the fun and good things Funky brought to your life - and everyone's life for that matter - and smile.

 
Posted by ~C. Lynn~ on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 12:38 PM
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Spider

 
We love the hell out of them when they are in our lives for years. But it takes the greatest love to know when to let them go.

I am so sorry for your loss. Keep the memories of him close to you and he will live in your hart forever.

 
Posted by Spider on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 12:39 PM
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JJ
JJ Fabini

 
I just wanted to say thanks to all of you - your kindness and support have definitely made this whole situation much easier to deal with, and I am extremely grateful and appreciative. Thanks so very much.
 
Posted by JJ on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 12:42 PM
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MEGAN

 
Although I have never met Funky I know how much he meant to you. Just your sad words of recollection show that you are a true dog person. This was a quote from an email about your kind of situation. I thought it might be appropriate. Sorry JJ. Thinking of you.


-"People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life--like loving everybody all the time and being nice, Well, dogs already know how to do that, so they don't have to stay as long.
"
 
Posted by MEGAN on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 4:32 PM
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Conley

 
You're such a good spirit, JJ ......... Man, I'm sorry.

 
Posted by Conley on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 7:42 PM
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The Compost HeAP

 
If it would help I could prattle around your house on all fours. I wouldn't be any kind of replacement but it might be good for a laugh or two. Besides, i just graduated and i'm looking for work. It would only be part time but I can fetch and I'm very loyal. If it's all the same to you, I can handle my own baths though.

But seriously, I know how it is to lose something. If I were any kind of poet I'd be more than happy to draft something up, but as t stands my rhymes are in dire need of education and as a result there shan't be any sonnets today.

 
Posted by The Compost HeAP on Monday, May 05, 2008 - 7:43 PM
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K G

 
Oh, JJ I am so sorry for your loss. I met Funk the same night I met my my future husband. Funk was definitely more social ;) I know your heart is hurting, but it will get better with time.

 
Posted by K G on Tuesday, May 06, 2008 - 2:30 PM
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sugarlips

 
it's never easy to say goodbye to an old friend.

i know how much you'll miss him.

♥.

 
Posted by sugarlips on Tuesday, May 06, 2008 - 4:33 PM
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Jen
Jennifer Bragg Spitzke

 
Oh JJ, I am so, so, sorry. You made me cry when I read this and it reminded me of my angel, Jerico. My picture on MYSPACE is my sweet Jerico...
I know how you feel, and no matter what you will always love him and miss him and hold a special place in your heart for Funk.

It sucks loosing a family member, because that is exactly what pets become. It sounds like you went above and beyond what others would have done for their pet when he needed surgery or daily meds, or baths, and you should rest assured that Funk respected you for that, and gave you his unconditional love in return.


Just have some peace knowing that he is okay, and isn't suffering. I believe that all living things human, and animal have a spirit and that when we pass on to our next stage in life God has something bigger in store for us all.

 
Posted by Jen on Wednesday, May 07, 2008 - 2:29 PM
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b♥

 
JJ, I don't know what to say other than I am so sorry. I have been through this as well- and it is absolutely heart-breaking. Somedays it seems like the only people who are there for us are our animals. I love dogs- but for now I have a cat, a very fat cat, who happens to think she is a dog. When my day is miserable, when I am sick, sad, depressed, in physical pain- she is always there to lay on my chest and purr and soothe me and give my hand an occasional lick. She is always ready to defend me from little "predators" (kids) with a strained "Meeooooow!" and a raised paw when I am laying there tired and emotional. She rushes to me and paws at my legs and cries when I am yelling or crying. When I am having bouts of heart trouble she meows incessantly and walks around me with a nervous jaunt. She just knows somehow. I really think animals are the only beings capable of unconditional love- and they sense the things we do not take the time out to feel.


So many people do not realize how blessed they are by their animals. So glad you and M were able to enjoy and appreciate Funky! You must be very compassionate and loving people- sorry as a result this caused you tremendous misery. However, going through this proves that you and your dog had the human-doggie relationship that many dogs envy! You must have been a great owner and friend to Funky, and expressing your pain encourages others to appreciate pet ownership and not take their furry friends for granted.



~B
 
Posted by b♥ on Friday, May 09, 2008 - 3:17 PM
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Notso

 
Crap J,
I just saw this last night and sat stunned with a post box open for a half hour, but words just eluded me. Our animals are more so much more than pets, more like brothers or children. I remember seeing Funk during the SuperBowl, and it stuck with me a while. You just gotta take comfort in knowing he's not hurting anymore, and probably still happily dreaming about what you two would be doing on the way home, right after this nap...
 
Posted by Notso on Friday, May 09, 2008 - 3:27 PM
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Jack
Jack Hammer

 
JJ & M,

I must confess sometimes when I would stop by It was to see Funk, What a great friend you had In him.
And if your wondering, he felt the same way about you to, he told me! (one of his many talents)

Time will heal,
Hammer
 
Posted by Jack on Friday, May 09, 2008 - 8:46 PM
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•·.·´¯`·.·•Jenn•·.·´¯`·.·•

 
I'm so sorry for your loss JJ! Pets are like family
 
Posted by •·.·´¯`·.·•Jenn•·.·´¯`·.·• on Monday, May 12, 2008 - 12:54 PM
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Robert

 
I feel your loss buddy, I have always had dogs, 5 at one point (4 dalmations & 1 cocker...not Joe) I was there when each was put down, it's one of the hardest things to do. But I always remember the fun times and different personalities of each dog I have ever owned. I hope that you are well and that someday you will again experience the unconditional love that only a loyal and loving pet can give you. (and no, Michelle doesn't count ). Peace be with you.
Bob
 
Posted by Robert on Monday, May 12, 2008 - 12:54 PM
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goddess
Jo Beth Harris

 
Oh, my friend. I just read this and tears course down my face as I try to type a reply. No words can ever express the loss of a love so pure as that of a dog. I feel your pain so completely and it breaks my heart to know you had to go through this.


I know it's been a few months now so hopefully the pain has ebbed a bit. I know I still get flashbacks of Wiggles and her last moments at times and it still makes me cry almost 5 years later. I will hug my girls extra tight tonight and whisper a prayer to the goddess that they stay with me for years to come. I will also send good thoughts in your direction.


Take care my dear.

 
Posted by goddess on Monday, August 04, 2008 - 12:16 PM
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