In response to the myspace comment dated 5/15/07: "there's nothing hotter than a good looking girl playing really fucked up music", I would like to point out the reasons why I am offended by this.
Disclaimer: I do not mean to single out the person who wrote this comment. I understand that his intention was to compliment and not to offend. He also said that he enjoyed the music and I sincerely appreciated that. I hope he understands that I am simply using this as an opportunity to rant on this subject... long overdue since I usually keep my mouth shut.
First, please note other similar comments I have received over the years after live shows:
"You're the best female guitarist I've heard- EVER!"
"I hope you're not offended by this, but I've just never seen a female play guitar like that!"
"Man, a girl guitar player! Now that's anti-social!"
"You're the best chick guitar player!"
"You're an awesome guitar player. I'm not hitting on you."
"You play circles around so many guys."
I am a guitar player, not a "female guitar player". Just like anyone else who plays this kind of music, I am working hard to create something original and thought provoking on guitar. This has nothing to do with me being female. I do not wish to put in a separate category because of my sex. If you enjoy the music, please enjoy it because of how it sounds.
People wonder why there aren't more women playing this kind of music. Please re-read some of the above "comments". If barriers continue to be created between male and female musicians through comments such as these, gaps only grow wider.
-Mary