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City: Curvy Crossing
State: New South Wales
Country: AU
Signup Date: 3/31/2008

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Saturday, June 06, 2009 
Hi Friends!

It's amazing what we forget as time goes by...or try to forget, as it may be. I have been taking the time to do what EVERYONE should do...GET YOUR AFFAIRS IN ORDER!

Let's be REAL...we are not here forever! Thing about life is...there are no certainties except that the party will end (and the taxman will be the last to leave). I think it's a good thing we don't have a "use-by" date. Otherwise, we'd all be focussing on it and it would be the in forefront of how we spend our time. I believe spontaneity would be nothing more than an afterthought. It's those moments in life that bring the greatest joy...that stolen kiss, that "just go for it" moment...you get the gist of what I'm saying.

We all spend our lives gathering...well...STUFF! Items, food, people, debts, memories, etc. The "Stuff" that define our lives. Who we are is all around us in what we gather and who we gather around us. It all adds up to who we are. Even people who share their lives and home are defined separately in this life. We are all ONE OF A KIND! Unique in EVERY way. Even identical twins and multiples are individually a SINGLE IDENTITY. This is really what makes up this World and everything in it. There is NO ONE in the entire World like YOU! Ain't life grand?

Now, that said...In this unknown expansion of life, we must decide what we want to do with the STUFF we spend our lives gathering. I think we would all like to leave behind even some small reminder that says, "I WAS HERE. I EXISTED." Well, you'd better get your gatherings together and take care of it NOW. No one should be left with your STUFF and especially YOUR DEBTS. Most of us live in THE RED so we need to make sure we have a plan for that too. It's not fair to leave your STUFF to someone who is most likely grieving, to deal with. TAKE CARE OF YOUR AFFAIRS!

In my endeaver to practice what I am preaching here, I have been doing just that. Filing STUFF THAT MATTERS, disposing of STUFF THAT DON'T. Finding fragments of my past that I have filed somewhere in the back of my mind or "closet". Pulling out the skeletons of past and ridding myself of them too. This process has been an incredible Biography of WHO I AM. I am actually getting to know myself better through this process. I am defining myself and what I have contributed to this World. I have discovered, we ALL live a PRIVLEDGED LIFE because we have LIVED! That's what it's all about...LIVING! Mistakes, bad judgements, wrong turns...it's all part of it and how we deal with it as it comes...and goes.

As a Songwriter...I have filed so many songs away that I had completely forgotten. Some are easy to understand why they have been "forgotten"...trust me! I spent my younger years trying to make a statement in alot of my songs. JANE'S PHILOSOPHIES and POLITICAL VIEWS set to music! I actually wrote a Rock Opera called "SUCH IS LIFE" so I could define the World as I see it. The recordings are dated BUT they are a BIG part of who I am as a Songwriter. I have decided to blow the dust off them and put them up here. I have found the first song I ever wrote & recorded. I will put it up when I get the nerve...It's called "He Gotta' Good Love". I will also put up the song I wrote for my Parents Anniversary the Year my Dad passed away. I couldn't wait to play it for them...I never got the chance. It's called "And We Dance" . They loved to dance! Even when there was no music...they danced to the rhythm of their hearts. That was something that just "stuck" with me through the years, so I paid tribute to that in this song. I will have it up today.

THANK YOU SO MUCH for taking these precious moments of your life to read my words, hear my songs and share your thoughts. It TRULY is appreciated.

Now GET YOUR AFFAIRS IN ORDER...Starting...NOW!

CJxxx
Janie xxx

CRITICAL TIMES was the first song ever to radio in Australia that spoke of AIDS. I was inspired by a 60 Minutes story about "Sharlene", a Kings Cross prostitute that was knowingly working with AIDS and without protection. It was BEFORE there were laws to deal with such criminal behavior. She was arrested and no one knew what to do. Human Rights Activists wanted her released immediately as she had "broken no laws". The politicians ignored it for as long as they could. AIDS in the 70's & 80's was SCARY STUFF! No one knew ANYTHING DEFINITE about IT! I wrote this song and sent it to Jeff McMullin at 60 Minutes and THANK him for the inspirational story. They used this song in the follow-up story months later.

SHOW ME THE WAY TO HEAVEN is actually a note to my Dad after his passing. In the days leading to death, he had surgery. During the first 2 days after, my family were so worried they all told him how much he meant to them. How much they loved him. I arrived the same day they told him. When I came in he said, "Thank God you're here. I need someone who can make me laugh. Your brothers and sister are writing me off. I was too zonked on drugs to respond but I heard every word they said. It was so nice to hear but creepy. I'm not going anywhere so don't you go writing me off". After 5 days he was told he could go home the next day. We went to pick him up and he had died while we were in transit. I never got to tell him in words what he meant to me. It has haunted me since. Every member of my family paid Tribute to this LIVING LEGACY of LOVE. He was what every man...every Dad...every Friend should be. I pray everyday that he knew my tribute to him without words. I honoured him by not telling him at his request...I wish I had. This is my note to him in song...I Love You Dad!

Deborah
Deborah Millstein

 
I've put my affairs into order so many times, it's a continual process if you live your life like I live mine, people come and go, stuff comes and goes.  My lawyer thus far the only beneficiary.  Part of this process for me was also the making of a living will and DNR.  I have them everyplace, this a choice I wouldn't want to have anybody have to make..........SOAR, no I didn't figure it out.  You leave me this.............
 
Posted by Deborah on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 7:20 AM
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Deborah
Deborah Millstein

 
....where do the comments go?????? That seemed to soar right out of here.........
 
Posted by Deborah on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 7:20 AM
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Curvy Jane

 
That's great Deborah~SOAR! I moved 3 and half years ago and thought I had done a pretty good job of CLEARING OUT. I did...the STUFF I didn't really need to get rid of and avoided the boxes of STUFF in my office. I am doing that now. It's actually far more defining than the stuff you'd see in my house. I wouldn't want anyone to have to make decisions about what I wrote, recorded, treasured. You know..."One man's junk is another's treasure" type stuff. It's the personal STUFF that is most difficult to deal with when one passes. I just want to make this a bit easier for those that will be STUCK with it if I don't. I also have a "Living Will" and would like a DNR in place, however, this has been a HUGE DEAL to my husband and kids. I know it is MY DECISION but THEIR WISHES must be considered to. The jury is still out on this one...for now...<br />
 
Posted by Curvy Jane on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 7:40 AM
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John S
John Smith

 
Hell, Jane .... I don't know where to start.  maybe with the cubic metre of CD's on the familiy room coffee table ... or the 2 metre high stacks beside the book case, or the 3metres of side by side vinyl in the bookcase cupboards...    I have so many passwords in my world, I need to pass them on to someone so they can deal with my estate. 

We live such complex lives.  I have reconciled myself to the fact that my kids may not look after my guitars & treasures, and it will all waste away.  I have reconciled myself to the fact that I will be a fading memory for my family and friends, and my feeble song writing attempts will probably be wiped from my hard drive without a qualm.  

In the end, I hope that my monument will be that someone says their life was made better because I was in it ... and that it won't be some bullshit eulogy at my funeral. 

When my time comes to croak I hope I am able to let it all go with grace and dignity.

Lets hope its a long way down the road for us hey?  In the meantime I remind myself that worry is just trying to control the future,  and that future is pretty uncertain.

As for your dad, he got to tell you exactly what he appreciated about you, and you told him you loved him by unselfishly giving up your closure speech.   He knew you loved him well enough to ask you not to say those things. 

All this death talk ...... hmmm... I better get on with living!
 
Posted by John S on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 9:11 AM
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Curvy Jane

 
AMEN. I must agree whole heartedly, Johnny. I have so much stuff that needed to be weeded out and others that I simply will not get any more joy out of than I already have. I will give that STUFF to someone who can enjoy them now. I want to put my songs in order in case they may mean something to someone, someday. My Dad was the first person to record "Ramona" (Nat King Cole) and kept but 1 single of it. We were robbed while we were overseas (our belongings in storage with the US Air Force, mind you) on duty and the only copy...GONE! I would give anything to have it. It was an Independant release and there's not one to be found...I have tried! <br /><br /> THANK YOU, Johnny! You have no idea how much your words of my "unspoken words" means to me. I have struggled with it for years. I have handled everything in my life with laughter and he knew it. There were just those MOMENTS I would have loved to tell him of that I simply didn't. I'm sure he knew BUT the thing I would say more than anything else is THANK YOU! He defined everything a father and a man should be...I didn't tell him that and that is how I have always defined him. I hope I'll get the chance...one day...a LONG LONG TIME FROM NOW! .. Until then...Here's to LIVING, Johnny...We both have a lot of that to do...Cheers! Jxxx<br />
 
Posted by Curvy Jane on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 9:22 AM
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Happier Than Larry

 
Hi Jane, I have only just begun to understand blogging. I must say yours is so open and frank. I understand how you feel about your father. I was gigging in London when my Dad passed away. I heard just before going on and was a mess. I expect people thought I was on some completey terrible trip. Which I guess I was.
It seems so personal communicating about such things and I hope you don't mind this input. Is that what blogging is about?
I havn't posted a blog yet
John S. really bought back some good old memories with is latest blog!!
Cheers
Rob
 
Posted by Happier Than Larry on Tuesday, June 23, 2009 - 4:28 AM
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Curvy Jane

 
Thanks so much for your Comment, Rob! I think blogging is a personal choice. I have friends who blog lyrics, recipes, politics, memories, future events, hell, even pirates & jellyfish! :) It's your space to share whatever you feel, think or choose. I choose to blog about my thoughts, life and spin on the World and those in it. I don't do it so much for others really, as I do myself. There's just something theraputic about it. It's nice to hear what others opinions are on the same things...so we blog for feedback, thoughts or just to blog for blogs sake. There are no guidelines but just know, that you are putting it out there for the WORLD to see. That is sometimes hard to remember. Some people DETEST blogging & others LOVE it! Again, it's personal choice. :)<br />
 
Posted by Curvy Jane on Tuesday, June 23, 2009 - 4:43 AM
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