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Gender: Female
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 23
Sign: Libra

City: Adelaide
State: South Australia
Country: AU
Signup Date: 9/26/2004

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Friday, December 26, 2008 

Current mood:  miserable
Category: Blogging

I tried, I really tried... but christmas sucks.

My sister and I arranged to get each other presents under a certain price range a few weeks ago... we even went shopping to go have a look for what we'd like. My sister told me she wanted 'something shiny'. Seriously, who tells someone they want something shiny and then doesn't elaborate. But she has a lava lamp and a fibre optic (sp?) lamp and collects that shit though, so I had some idea. I told her I needed a new keyboard - but didn't want anything fancy, just a plain ol' keyboard would do. The space bar on this one is shot and it's annoying to press down so hard on it, even though I'm sort of used to it now. So I asked for that. We wandered around and we found a plain black one, just what I needed, and she got it there.


We passed Hairhouse Warehouse and I spotted some hair extensions I've had my eye on... my sister asked how much they were, 10 bucks for a lock sort of thing... she said 'oh, too expensive!' but I thought I'd probably buy them myself anyway. Besides, she'd gotten me the keyboard, I didn't ask for the hair extensions or anything, we just spotted them and I was looking at them. So anyway, I went hunting for 'something shiny' and ended up buying some fairy lights for her and robin (her fiance) to put up in their apartment and make it look all dazzly and cooool. And they happened to be JUST in the price range we arranged to stick to for each others presents. So I was stoked.

Just before we opened our presents. Robin and aimee opened their presents and (probably fake)-showed their appreciation of such a gift. I opened mine from aimee and got a - keyboard, yep. All good. But then.... she pulls out this other gift for me. Whaaat. She bought the hair extensions for me. After saying they were too expensive. And after we agree we wouldn't go over the budget. But whatever, I thought. I shall gracefully accept this gift and show how thankful I was - because I was, they're awesome - and stay positive. Then... she pulls out another gift. It's a big clear ball filled with M&Ms that she painstakingly put inside of it. Robin took it upon himself to say that it took her all night. Oh, and she got one for mitch my boyfriend, too! Great! How thoughtful and nice. Not like me who just stuck to the budget and didn't think for more than 2 seconds to get them anything else.

Next... weeks earlier my mum had asked me what I wanted for christmas. Because I'd been playing spyro the dragon on my boyfriends ps2, I decided to link her to this ebay item of the game for about 10 bucks. She sent back that she bought it and if I'd want anything else... I didn't really want anything else or need anything else (since I'd gotten what I needed; a keyboard) but I thought of something cheap that I could play with and use... a snorkel! Because sometimes my neck hurts when I swim and I need to work on my controlled breathing, so a snorkel would be awesome. So I sent back 'a cheapo snorkel'.

So today I unwrapped a snorkel - but this wasn't any ordinary snorkel. This was some mega pimped out psycho extreme snorkel. It had things on it that I didn't think a snorkel even needed... it's essentially just a tube you can breathe through in the water, right? Well nope, this one has weird gadgets on it that poke off the top for 'water backlash' the packet told me, and the mouth piece was weird and 'new age'...not like the old design of a snorkel. So I was pretty...impressed? But at the same time - my mum ALWAYS does this. And this is where I am completely misunderstood:

It wasn't that I didn't appreciate that she'd bought me a snorkel like I asked - OF COURSE I appreciate that and love her for it.... it's the fact that I am so misunderstood and essentially like a stranger to my OWN family (apart from aimee who at least on some level understands this part of me).

I LIKE CHEAP STUFF.

I LIKE SECOND HAND CHEAP STUFF.

I LIKE MAKING EXTREMELY COOL STUFF OUT OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE CONSIDER JUNK.

I LIKE USING THE ABSOLUTE BARE ESSENTIALS TO MAKE SOMETHING EXTRAORDINARY.

My mum hasn't grasped this despite 20 odd years of me telling her, expressing it to her and showing her. I made freakin' dolls out of popsticks to play with when I was little. I loved them. She bought me expensive barbies but I played with my popsticks and cardboard houses. Then there's the fact that I buy shit-house cheapo make up stuff to make my special effects costumes and stuff. Like for the zombie walk... I bought a mask from cheap as chips for 4 dollars and cut it up, stuck it on my face with tissue and glue and managed to make it look (hopefully a little bit at least) realistic and cool. This is what I'm passionate about. I like ghetto stylin's lolz. But seriously. I'm not an over the top, flashy uber expensive high maintenance type of girl (I may look like it to "outsiders" but that just means I'm doing what I like *well* ...sorry if that sounds cocky eh)... and my mum doesn't get this - and it really upsets me because it's a LARGE part of me. So THAT'S what I am upset about right now. But to my sister, robin and my dad it looks like I've stormed off because the snorkel is crap. Siiiigh.

And I can't SAY this sort of thing to them because I can't explain it! It's so simple but I feel suffocated when I try to explain myself. I can't just go down there and unleash this huge long winded explanation of how I wish they'd just GET my personality and the way I am when they think it's over a freakin' snorkel. Yknow? It's fucked. So then I thought maybe I could write a letter, but uuugh I'm not in highschool anymore and I KNOW they'd just receive it like "wtf?"

And this whole time I feel like I'm being really selfish and awful and not gracefully accepting gifts - but it's because I feel like shit because I didn't get them as good gifts as they got me, they got me like 5 different presents and I just got them EACH a present.... and robins was tied in with aimees. He got me an ezy dvd voucher and choccies...I got him...half a pack of fairy lights :(

And when my mum was opening presents from my sister and robin and dad she was exclaiming LOUDLY "WOOOOW" and giggling and making jokes and smiling and all happy... and when she opened mine she didn't say a THING. And I had to ask her if she liked it. And she realised I'd noticed and was all "OH, YESSS" and came over and gave me this forced hug. It was horrible. I started tearing up then and there (god I'm so sensitive) but I buried the horrible feeling down quickly before anyone noticed.

So then when I went for my long anticipated swim, my snorkel was so bofangled and overdone with crap that a SNORKEL DOESN'T FREAKIN' NEED... I couldn't even slip my goggles onto it like you're supposed to so it doesn't hang down and go in the water. I wanted a snorkel. I got a weird ass crazy gadget posing as a snorkel. My mum couldn't just buy me a 4 dollar cheapo snorkel, she had to go over the top as usual and get me some extravagant thing thinking that's what I like. It sounds as though I'm so selfish and don't care but it's not about that. She doesn't get me. Like when I was asking my dad for pieces of wood to make a crappy easle to paint on, mum went out and bought me a bloody 200 hundred dollar easle. I didn't WANT that. I felt so bad!! She also didn't have a job at the time and was tight for moneys, so aaargh. I said it's too expensive and to take it back and she took it the wrong way and we had this huge fight about me being selfish and everything. I WANTED LITERALLY 3 PLANKS ON SPLINTERY WOOD, TO NAIL TOGETHER TO REST A CANVAS ON. ARGH. And now I have this fucking hideous, over the top, expensive easle sitting in my room and I haven't painted jack shit on it. I want to sell it on fucking ebay. I DON'T LIKE OVER THE TOP FLASHY SHIT. ARGH. I'd even have the same fucking phone I've had since year 9 if it wasn't for the fact it just stopped working one day. I've had 2 phones in my life. Most people my age have had at least 4 or 5. I don't care about the latest gadget or the flashiest piece of technology you can get, I REALLY don't care. My mum just has to get me the BEST BIGGEST MOST AMAZING thing... when I reeeeally don't want it - how do you TELL someone this????? She also got me an expensive Joker from the dark knight doll. I got her a shit present of body stuff from the body shop that she didn't even smile about.

I feel. So. Shit.

Christmas can get fucked.

I'm the most misunderstood person in the whole world. I don't belong anywhere. ANYwhere.

Black sheep reprezent

:(

so now I'm sitting here getting drunk waiting for mitch to come save me.
D.

 
I'm in the same boat. People go overboard with Christmas anyway and tend to get caught up in the marketing ploys.

I took my family out to dinner last night as a nice wholesome gesture and just gave them money in a card today to top it off and i'm lavished with diamond earrings, dvds and all sorts. I love the little things and express my appreciation and gratitude in different ways but society dictates that if it doesn't have a big price tag and smile slapped onto it that it means you're ungrateful.

I'm sorry you feel misunderstood but I know where you're coming from.
I suppose they just wanted to spoil you, I think you're lucky for that though :)
 
Posted by D. on Thursday, December 25, 2008 - 6:34 AM
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Sophie-Louise

 
Yeah. Damn marketing ploys *shakes fist* xD but seriously.
aaw that sounds lovely. We had a seemingly rushed christmas lunch with awkward moments and a fairly lacklustre opening of presents etc. I felt so bad after I just had to escape with mitch to far off lands (belair national park, ha).
Yeah, I do think I'm lucky. I wish someone less fortunate than I could have everything I have that I seemingly take for granted but am absolutely one hundred percent grateful for... sounds cheesy and disney-wholesome but it's true. I feel like I waste so much and get given too much. I am incredibly lucky.
 
Posted by Sophie-Louise on Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 11:19 AM
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ZAEN KREECHA
Zaen Kreecha

 
I completely understand where you're coming from So~Lou..
I've had a similiar thing going with my Fam for ages now- to the point where- we just don't get presents for each other and we focus on our immediate families.. ie: the kidz we have spawned.

It is a horrible feeling.. I totally get you.
My Family used to go over the top as well and make me feel guilty for just wanting to have something simple or a xmas where we just freaking Got Along!

Cheapo things and modified/homeMade things are the most creative and amaazing things ever.. but yes, so many ppl do not Get the concept of them.


Is why I have always done amaazing makeup and puppets but, in a roundabout way where it still looks/is kinda sown, glued, patched together..
Like DJ SnogGHOUL my HobGoblin Puppet for example-
He has a Large dodgy half-foam sphere eyeBall.. the other is a pingPong ball with velcro on the back- so he can tear it off and eat it.. and he is sown together well, but kinda rough from fake fur offcuts.. but-
THIS IS HIS MAGIC.. he is meant to look like that!
His whole back story is that he is a Goblin spirit that enters our world and possesses an old crappy sown together puppet to become more REAL.. Like Pinnochio..

But-

Ppl, demented humanz.. DO NOT GET THIS!
I mean a lot do.. and think he's great.. but-
The ones that bug my brain after all the fuckking effort i put into making stuff and performing all nite are- the ones who say shit like:
"Ohmigaawd.. I thought this guy was meant to be a special fx artist?!".. or-
"That's the shittest puppet i've ever seen in my life!"
ETC.. Fuckking.. ETC..

Those comments that even though you're beyond it.. and you know you're concept and art and everyone who gets you does.. the ones that still cut you down and make you feel like shit.

Happened just recently at a Convention i went to in Melb and even though i expected it.. it still bugged me.. cause SnogGHOUL's character is very demented and misunderstood and his DJ Set purposefully stops/fails and he holds his head and freaks out.. cause- THAT'S WHO HE IS!
He's not perfect and he fuckking tries/does his best.. and this is what i guess i'm trying to express to ppl.. humanz.. is that it's ok to be incomplete.. to be imperfect.. and that personality and your real nature can actually be enhanced because of this imperfection.. Know what i mean??

Oh maan, it's frustrating..
So yeah- I get you So~Lou for sure.


And I really think you're wonderful for being who you are.. even when you're feeling guilty and shit about all this you're still YOU.. You're still real enough to post it up and be yoursElf about it..
Which is your true strength-
You KNOW YoursElf.. and even though others may not get it- the ones who do greatly admire and Love you for it :)
Just remember it ok.. cause the other crap can get to you-
Don't Let it.


Just keep being You and if you allow yourself that truth and freedom.. your life shall reap the success of being that focussed and strong enough to be real.


MERRY KREECHAMAS So~Lou!
May all kreechas, mutants and misfits unite over this most demented of human seasons ;)

Oh yeah- check out SNUFF PUPPETS. com from Melb.. AMAAZING puppets that are done pretty ruff but look all the more awesome because of it :D

You Rockk~
Big Hugz to You hun!

Love + Gremlin snot:

Z xO_ox
 
Posted by ZAEN KREECHA on Thursday, December 25, 2008 - 10:56 PM
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Sophie-Louise

 
Whoa, you wrote a LOT! <333

Wow, that's kind of cool that your family arranged that sort of deal of not getting presents... I think that's actually better, then it gives you a chance to just come together and enjoy each others company. Heaps nice. And people mostly buy presents for the kiddies anyway... it's all about the kiddies at christmas. You just can't enjoy it the same way as you get older in my opinion. Going from my own experiences, everything starts getting tainted as you age. At the same time it gets better as well... gotta see it as half full and half empty, really. Blah I'm waffling on D:

And thanks for mentioning I post the way I post and keep it real etc... that's exactly what I go for when I write...just let my thoughts tumble out, sometimes not always very coherent but I do try to keep some sort of relevancy and realness when I speak out about stuff. So thanks, appreciate that a lot :)

I LOVE your puppets, I think they're awesome, remind me of haggard, olden day drawings and sketches or something, like brian froud creatures all haggard, or that junk lady at the end of the movie the labyrinth <3 keep at it, you love doing it and it's awesome

thanks for the awesome comment kreechaaaa
x
 
Posted by Sophie-Louise on Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 11:40 AM
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Matt

 
My mum does this too but she never seems to understand. One time I cracked at her and it brought her to tears. She thought the way to cheer me up was to spend money and make me feel loved but she just didn't get it all.

I guess I hoard everything. I never throw out anything just in case. My drawers are filled with the things I had when I was a kid. Life's moving forward, but why turn your back on the past. My sister in law is just someone I can't relate to. She throws out everything when it no longer fits with her style, with her life. She doesn't even give it away, just straight into the bin when its passed it's prime.

I love scouring flea markets and second hand shops. Not necessarily looking with intention, not always walking away with something in hand, but a little unpredictability can be just what you're looking for. So long as it works why does it matter if we had it first. Just because you have the money to spend doesn't mean you need to spend it.

Christmas has been interesting this year. Parents escaped to the beaches of Qld and family shindigs have been put on hold for the year. The only family I saw all day was my cousin who called past out of nowhere as the night wore on. We just sat out back with coffee and cigarettes, reminiscing on old times.

In some ways today's just felt like any other day and in a way I liked it better just that way. Perhaps no expectation bears only fulfillment.
 
Posted by Matt on Friday, December 26, 2008 - 4:06 AM
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Sophie-Louise

 
Yeah, every time I try to talk to my mum it just ends up blowing up and going nowhere productive. It's just a slow bickering, then an annoyed angry argument and then eventually tears and slamming of doors and a gradual getting-back-to-talking-to-eachother stage over the next few days. Ugh. It just doesn't work. It's like we're different species and we can't break the language barrier. /nerdness?

Oh my god, I used to be THE WORST hoarder ever. I'd keep everything, ANYTHING and stuff it in tubs under my bed... in fact I still have two 'junk' tubs under my bed... and it's just stuff I'll look at after a while and never use/display. I dunno why I keep it all. But I've gotten better over the years. I've managed to uber-clean my room and get rid of everything ridiculously childish. But I still have a lot of toys... :B

We just had an intermediate family members lunch and a quiet awkward opening of presents which resulted in me wanting to tear my eyeballs out in frustration.

You're definitely right on the no expectation bears fulfillment thing.
 
Posted by Sophie-Louise on Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 11:35 AM
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J T B
Jim Bludgeoner

 
Man, I've been the black sheep of my family for 27 years. You can't let it get you down. Be proud of it.


Cheer up ey - I'm pretty sure you're not the most misunderstood person in "the whole world" - you just need to stop giving a fuck - it's never worth it.

 
Posted by J T B on Friday, December 26, 2008 - 11:22 PM
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Sophie-Louise

 
Yeah. I used to be proud of it during my rebellious, hide-in-dark-corners stage in highschool. But now I want some... closeness. eushejfnbj

I'll try to cheer up and not give a fuck :)
 
Posted by Sophie-Louise on Saturday, December 27, 2008 - 11:23 AM
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