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Wuv, Twoo Wuv!- Matters of the Heart!

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Now - if you made it this far... you are ready young Padawan...

Love is what love is... Boundless, Uncontrollable and above all Love is Unconditional.

The Heart knows what the Heart wants…

Play- You and your true Love are the only ones who can honestly make up the rules... So play like Children... Water fights, Pillow Fights... Dress up like Clowns and paint the town red with yellow polka dots.... Its never too late to be a big kid!

Insecurity- Get rid of it! being acting or obsessing about insecurity and jealousy will chase even the heart of a saint away... and usually right into the arms of another. You can either spend the rest of whatever time you have together - fighting, accusing, suspecting, worrying, lying, invading, checking up on and utterly destroying each other... or grow up and realized you could be spending time Loving Laughing and devoting each moment to making moments.

Accepting- If you truly Love her then you will never ask them to change... Do not Tolerate... To so much as say the word tolerate means that you're are INtolerant of her. Do not be Understanding... there is nothing to come to terms with... She is not something that you should settle for - she is not a consolation prize... She is not clay... Do not try to mold her into what you think you can accept... what you feel she should be... Do not make excuses for her... She will never need to be justified nor explained... She is not useless she does not need to defended like some convalescent involent... But rather you should Accept Her.... Embrace her... Celebrate each and every nuance... Cherish every idiosyncratic behavior... And as she grows, Grow with her. As she changes and in whatever changes she may experience in her life ... Accept Her... Accept her for her... Let her be herself... and... Accept her.

Control - Control and power are the biggest illusions ever! only idiots believe in these types of fairy tales... If You are her everything and she is yours... Then you are each other's exact equals in everything!... No one controls anything... You got her back and she has yours... whoever shows up on the scene takes the lead and the other offers support... IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO IS IN THE LEAD... If you are equal... pettiness and jealousy never exists ... No one is ever really in control.

Support- Support her in everything that she needs, Financial support, Physical, emotional, educational, psychological... Support... Be there in all things... Run to her especially when she the one you are hurt by or even angry at... Run to her... And she run to you... But in all things support her...

Be Complete... You should be complete before you try to be with anyone else... Jerry's line "You Complete me."... Is wrought with emotional and psychological issues that every shrink would love to get a hold of... If you need another human being to make you a whole person... Bad relationships are the least of your concern.

what can you offer someone... an incomplete mess... and then you end up attaching your invisible umbilical chord and you become two immature children trying to raise each other and destroying each other during one of the multiple tantrums you end up throwing while you don't have enough common sense to come out of the rain.... Bloody Brilliant... and it says a lot of person who agrees to getting together with someone who is incomplete in the first place... Find your self...  ACCEPT yourself.. be content and happy in yourself... FIRST and then find someone ... Your Equal...  and become each other's Compliment... Two .... Separate distinct individuals who are whole true complete beings in their own rights... and pour 110% of each other into the soul of your relationship... and become the other half of the same soul while maintain your own unique individual personalities...

Self Image- What you put out there is what you attract... But don't be fooled... This Works at a sub-conscience level... If you put out a false or forced created self image and still attract the same jerk... It is not the jerk's fault and there nothing wrong with you... well?... Not entirely... You see if deep down you have a low self image that you solicit and make and attempt to still attract Mrs. Right and end up with Mrs. Right-now... You just need to realize that you have not truly exorcized all of your demons and still hold on to a negative self image... First thing first... this is a time in your life when you truly need to be alone... now is the time to become centered.. rediscover and fall in love with yourself all over again... once you have done this... you will begin to attract the right person for the right reasons... Then your self image will be the true you...

Faith- This is VITAL... This is the only area that you both need to agree on... You can not live in a divided household... A House divide against itself will not stand... Whatever your faith is... it should be the center of your life and so much apart of who you are that you can not separate your faith from you... this being said... the level of your devotion should be equal to and shared by the one you Love.

Stimulate - Mind Body Heart and Soul... you should inspire the very best ... Inspire... Not complete nor challenge but rather inspire the very best out of each other...

Universe- She should be the center of your Universe, the proof of God's existence and Divine Plan... Outside of her ... nothing exists... God then His creation... Her - Through her... The life that you create together...

Never go to bed angry --- Sanctuary... Fights of any kind should never violate the marital bedroom... ever... Rather have a No Spin Zone... A Volcano Room... one room in the house where neither party can be held accountable for what is said... The other Room - Your Sanctuary - the Marital Bedroom should be a safe haven... a room for Love... Behind that door you should be each other's escape... NO ANGER IN THE SANCTUARY.

Find Time... At the very least find time to be there for each other, At least no less then 15 minutes a day to remind each other of why you fell in love... Intimacy without sex... Sometimes she just needs to be held... and sometimes she just needs a friend.

Listen to the woman... Like Wesley Snipes said, "You got to listen to the woman Billy Hoyle." ... When she just wants you to listen... have her tell you... Then shut up, sit down and just be there for her... that's all... Trying to be the man and fix it will only piss her off and lead you into bigger messes that really has absolutely nothing to do with you at all... so just listen... that all.

Forget what you think you know... The second you think you have her pegged... she will change just to spite you... So do not act like you know her... Again ... Save yourself from the headaches and fights.

Respect- Never call her something other than what your heart screams for her... If you need to call her something call her Love... The second you begin the negative game of negative names... Nobody wins... everyone looses.

Chivalry not Chauvinism- Treat her like a lady- Open doors, pull out chairs... show her that chivalry is alive and well in your heart and in your lives together... But respect the Feminine... The Lady.

Always leave them wanting more- Remember No matter if you are married ... the hunt is never over... You should still be dating her 80 years from now... Let her leave you smiling and she be back for more... Romance her... Let her know that all eyes are on her... be there with flowers and candy on bended knee every time... ask her out... Choose each other every day!

Last but never Least....

Full Circle- Always begin and end each day In Love, laughter, and Us... When two becomes WE there is no ..:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" />Me... during those moments where you are together... remember you are a couple.

 I hope this helps... Thank you to everyone who continues to help me learn and grow...

Especially My True Love... My Wife and My Best Friend... You are my everything!