well this is a little bit of a rant but it needs to be said out loud:
WHY IS IT ALWAYS ASSUMED THAT EVERYONE NEEDS/WANTS TO HAVE CHILDREN??
i can't tell you how many people ask me and my husband "when are you going to have kids" as if the natural evolution of every relationship is children. my husband and i don't have a conventional marriage. we don't believe in ALOT of the standards around marriage set forth in countless movies and books, so why would just suddenly make babies?
people, we are OVERPOPULATED. has anyone noticed? and what if it indeed takes a community to raise a child, as in: the more aunties and uncles out there without children the more available we are to be there for overworked parents striving to meet some nuclear family status quo bullshit that keeps them encased in this DUO that exhausts them both?
what is the point of living is to love all human beings as though they are family? what if HAVING children is indeed the 'selfish' choice --- there are 26,000 native children in canada without homes. look outside the native community and the numbers are even larger. there are alot of kids that need homes... why are people so desperate to make blood copies of themselves when they could help kids out that are struggling to be adopted?
i don't know why it is considered appropriate to pry into the personal lives of a couple just because they are married. i don't say to married people with children, "oh... you had kids.... what a shame .... when do you plan on making something for other people than your own nuclear family?? you know, like art? something to clarify your world view to give strength to strangers?"
almost every media form from gossip rags to hollywood movies emphasizes the need to bear children and indeed glamorizes it to the point that lord knows how many bearers of twins and triplets have taken massive amounts of in vitro drugs just to concieve, but aren't there other choices out there to show love for the planet than multiplying?