JUST A CURIOUS QUESTION! - WHAT YOU GUYS SAID!!

I posted this as a bulletin yesterday just to see if I was an old fogey who's personal relating skills can't keep up with the globally connecting technological age. Thanks to those who took time to respond.

BULLETIN

.... why do the huuuuuge majority of myspacers make add requests and don't send a message to introduce themselves?

Am i just old skool or is this a bit like walking up to a complete stranger and asking for thier phone number. The conversation would go:

Requester: "Hi thought you looked interesting/cool/buff. Gimme your number."
Requestee: "Errrr.....who the hell are you?"

Like I said I could be old skool but shouldn't there be some etiquette that raises the bar for manners on myspace....?

Peace Y'all

*~Z~*

RESPONSES

I totally agree! I often don't even look at the profiles of the people that have added me as I think they should send me a message saying who they are.

The other thing that really bugs me is people using my comments section to just put up their flyers. There are many events/ releases etc I am interested in myself but a lot of the time it just feels like that section is just being used as a free advertising space.

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most agreed, i think so many now are more concerned at collecting friends so they can show they have 389999 friends on myspace, even though they don't know them...perhaps a compulsory "introduction" tab should be filled in first!...anyhoo...

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I do wonder if people find it hard to comment to others they feel are 'real' talent? .....I think readers get put off thinking their words may not be enough. (On the other hand there are so mayny who are using myspace to add friends like sweeties on a string and get a strange buzz from saying how many friends they have (I wonder if those people are wierd loners in the real world?)


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Interesting analogy, but what is even more interesting is if you actually accept them or not. Does the analogy hold up to the reality? Hmmn.. Anyway, I totally agree.

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I think it's due to two things: 1) Cos Myspace doesn't tell u when someone has agreed to be a friend & they've clicked on so many profiles, they've forgotten who they've requested, 2) Cos they too damn lazy

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See, I'm not on facebook, but I think they understand your plight. The requestee has to say where they know you from and send it with their bid to be your friend.

I think here it's about numbers and just in case situations.

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Plain lazy lazy lazy!

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Ok, ok

Can I be your fwend?

There, have asked officially now!

Cyber-etiquette is odd... like when people say "write back" when they've asked you a question so it's already obvious they want you to.

Do you find 95% of your add requests are from other musicians too? Hard to tell which are actual people listening from their band accounts and who has a team of robots doing it for them.

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I agree

What's even more bizarre is people who add ME and then don't respond when I say hello!

What's the point?

Sorry, just had to have a rant there....

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that is true, when i get request from people i don't know i always deny them. if i like your work or if i know you i give them approval. what i hate is when you approve the person and they don't respond when you thank them for the request. that really bugs me.

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:) well if you are old school, i'm right back there with you! :) i always tend to send some ramberly message to introduce myself first!

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i get a lot of myspace add requests and i personally would rather people just send the request and leave me alone. i really don't have time to read ALL the messages. i guess that's cuz i'm not looking to make real friends. (and there is a difference between a myspace friend and a friend-friend.

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Yeah, I know what you mean. I found it very strange to begin with, but I have to admit to being guilty of doing the same thing now! Like it's normal or something!

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Peace and Jollof ;o)

*~Z~*