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Signup Date: 12/16/2005

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September 10, 2009 - Thursday 

Current mood:Grateful
Category: Romance and Relationships
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There are many times that we allow our desires to out weigh our judgment.  We can feel and see that things are not right, but yet  we allow our desire to paint the picture prettier than it really is. The trick in life is to remember we can’t allow our desires to be come obsessions especially in relationships.

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If you pay close attention I believe that a person tells you a lot about themselves  in the first 10 minutes with their words and their actions. The kind of things that make a difference as to whether or not you should continue on with a relationship or not. The problem is that most of us don’t pay attention. We get caught up in the fairytale of what we hope can be. We continue on the journey until one day the fairytale becomes a nightmare and we are shocked that things have gone so wrong.

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 Many times we look back on a situation in shock, and with our feelings hurt when in actuality the red flags were waving in front of us the whole time, and if we were to tell the story of our journey towards what we thought  we wanted so badly the red flags will stand out.

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Love is not a myth, and having a great relationship is possible with the right person, but it is important to pay attention. If something doesn’t feel right then it probably isn’t. You may have to kiss a few frogs to get to the prince or princess, but it is better to take your time getting to the fairytale, than to be trapped in a nightmare.

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Are you using your judgment or being guided by your desires??

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Ken Bravo
Ken Bravo

 
Hello Stacye,.........

 

Wow you look Great may I say. Good/ Great Topic. "Do I let me Desires cloud my Judgment". The answer for me is "NO". I can see the whole true person within a few min of meeting or talking them. I see all the Red Flags, plain as day, right in front of me. Then you ask "Why be with this person? ".. That's a good question and there are a ton of answers. Am I lonely? "No", did I fall in love and break my own rules? "Yes". But I'm not a child or naive. I can drop her like a “Hot Potato” if any of her flags interfere with our relationship. Nobody is perfect. Everybody needs love and someone in their life. I live a life where if something doesn't work out…Prepare the Heart to "Move On Baby".. I tell my kid.."Son there are 50 Million other women in this world. Don't sit there and cry over spill milk." He's only 10, by the way, but has girlfriends...lol. Anyway that's my story on this topic. Congrats again on your book Baby and your new CD. Sounds Great!!......

 

Love You Always,

 

Ken
 
Posted by Ken Bravo on September 10, 2009 - Thursday - 2:10 AM
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dai dai
Dana Reid

 
Yes you said my name correct. Like the topic. Sometimes things arent always what they seem yet it also isnt right to hide things all the time form people who deserve them just to get by or a little better status. Any wayz your blog is great as usual. Stay humble and remain positive with many blessings.



PEACE and LOVE8
 
Posted by dai dai on September 10, 2009 - Thursday - 3:21 AM
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Glama Girly
Glama Girly

 
Hi Stacye, That was a great blog. Thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I have friends in exactly the situation that you spoke of. It is sometimes very hard not to cloud your judgement when meating others for relationships. It is always a very good idea to really get to know a person very well before making any commitment in that direction. As you say, what people do often gives an idea of what they are like. Do I let desires cloud my judgement? No, not these days, but I could have been guilty of it more when I was younger. Anyway, that was a blog really worth pondering. Thanks again. Take care. Hugs, Roberta. xxx
 
Posted by Glama Girly on September 10, 2009 - Thursday - 1:57 PM
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John

 
I always been drwn to that picture behind you with the word negre behind for some reason where is it from?
 
Posted by John on September 10, 2009 - Thursday - 11:39 PM
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Stacye Branché

 
The picture behind me is a Josephine Baker print by Caron. 
 
Posted by Stacye Branché on September 11, 2009 - Friday - 6:09 AM
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Ephrem
Ephrem Johnson

 
This is a great topic Stacey. No! I never let my desires cloud my judgement. I have five sisters,four older. We talked a lot about women. However, I think it has a lot to do with why I'm still single. I don't take no shit! May your na be na and your ya be ya. So many sterotypes that women bring to relationships. I don't want a freak...I want a woman. I don't want a materialistic woman...it has nothing to do with love. If your love has materials involved in it your doomed from the start. Love is spiritual. I'm not saying go fall in love with a homeless person but after every relationship gone bad you have to start over...not try to pick up where you left off in the last one.
 
Posted by Ephrem on September 11, 2009 - Friday - 12:28 AM
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Chickie
chickie de beer

 
..Dear Stacye,....Youre so right (again)! Ive been there, having a relationship for 10 years, knowing after 1 year that it never was gonna work, but holding on to it and for what? For getting hurt, humiliated and for losing yourself. Losing myself was the turning point. One morning I looked in the mirror and saw that my eyes didnt shine anymore like they used to be, tired of everything and I start asking myself...why dont I love myself anymore? Why am I doing this to myself carrying the burden of this relationship while I know its not getting any better coz we both are living up to different expectations, why am I stretching my limits, why hoping that he would change? The moment that I realized I couldnt change him but also couldnt live with him as he was, I made the change to get my life back. It was the best decision I made in those 10 years. I threw overboard all my fears, like being left alone, start liking myself again and know now that it starts with being happy with yourself and thats the thing I never gonna give up again. I love my life like it is now, enjoying the company of my daughters, friends and family.  And that special person? Who knows? Its gonna be an enrichment in my life but its never gonna be the center of it.
Love, Chickie..
 
Posted by Chickie on September 11, 2009 - Friday - 9:08 AM
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