if someone you barely know (and you are _not_ attracted to) and is just visiting your house, gets into your bed while you are asleep and gropes you in a seemingly sexual manner, and you wake up and kick them out, should you feel guilty if you don't want to be around that person? should you feel bad that because you got upset, you "made them feel bad"?  and since the person was drunk and didn't know what they were doing, is that their excuse that totally absolves them? should you just take it as a big joke?  what if you feel so grossed out it isn't a joke to you even if other people are laughing, and you feel so embarrassed and disgusted you want to take a bath in chlorox?