1. OMG! How embarrassing for him!
Because I have no idea about their relationship, maybe he really did think she was ready and he obviously wants to be with her, he went through the trouble of buying the ring and it may have been hard for him to do this. Broken heart? I would think so!
2. OMG! How embarrassing for her!
Not only is she so embarrassed but she is probably mortified that she has had to put him in a bad light. But young girls dream about their marriage proposal at an early age and so I am sure she never wanted to be a bitch like some are calling her, but I wished more people would say no if they didn’t want it. It saves grief for generations to come.
3. OMG! That Mascot is hysterical.
Have you ever seen anything so funny as the Mascot’s reaction? I laughed for a long time about him specifically…not the outcome.
I was giving some thought to the lack of communication and understanding that goes on. This is going to be a tough lesson for this man. I’m sure his motive was good…it’s about proposing marriage after all. But this couple saved YEARS of problems by her saying no. I have seen so many situations where a misunderstanding of someone’s stance can cause trouble. If she said no, he just didn’t know her intentions at all. He not only didn’t have a good understanding of their current status in the relationship, but if it was public embarrassment that made her say no, then he didn’t know her enough to know that being centered out may bother her. I don’t know what happened but either way, they clearly aren’t ready to commit.
It reminds me of a friend who told me that "improving one’s communication skills may be one of the best investments a person can make". Learning how to be a good listener is something I have been endlessly working on. I tend to jump to speak before someone’s done their sentence. I used to dream up a person’s emotions based on what I wish they were instead of facing the reality. I try to use I think or I feel before I state opinion and I struggle to remember to ask others what they are feeling before proceeding with anything I feel really strongly about. But it’s ongoing for me. I have to remind myself every day. My mind can skip ahead…it’s kind of how I am wired. Some people can observe things easily and have a good handle on their surroundings. I can if I really think hard about it! :)
I think we have enough genuine problems in front of us and getting rid of the misunderstandings can at least make more time and energy to deal with them.
I am a real advocate of allowing a person to ‘save face’…meaning giving someone an out that saves them from embarrassment. What a great skill! You know, you say, "Oh I gave you the wrong impression, I’m sorry…no wonder you thought that!" Then the other person has an out.
Now, maybe she did whisper that to him, but geeze…the middle of an arena can’t possibly allow someone to save face at all.
Think I will go listen to the birds, see what they are saying today!
Karen :)
"If you make listening and observation your occupation you will gain much more than you can by talk." ~ Robert Baden-Powell