kinda i mean u do need to make time for the bf/gf but u should b able to do ur own thing also....... hope that helpful? if not sorry! lol
 

A priority?  Or top priority?  Every relationship is different.  Every person is different.  Each couple has to find the right balance that works for them.  You have to understand each other's personalities, needs, desires, and what keeps them healthy and happy.  Some people can't stand to be around the same person all day every day.  They need variety.  This doesn't mean they don't love the person they're dating, it just means they need contact with more than one person every day. 

 

So yes, the person you're dating should be a priority (otherwise, why date them?), but not at the expense of cutting off contact with the people and things who make you who you are.  The best relationships just happen.  They fall into place as two people meet and start going the same direction.  The couple should just be an augmentation of each individual, not the end all and be all to life.  But don't have a selfish attitude, saying "I have to be around other people more than I'm around you" if your squeeze is saying, "I need to have a lot of time with just you and me to feel loved and secure."  You just have to work it out yourselves.  And if you can't, maybe that means you shouldn't be together in the first place. 

 

 

 

Are you still having the same problem Abby? I think sometimes you do need some space so you wont get sick with each other, but if  I genuinly like the person or truly in love with her I would rather spend each time with her than anybody. But it's easier said than done. My advice is do the same thing and spend more time with your friends.  
 

well i think you know my opinions on this.  maybe not...so, i think that a bf/gf should definitely be a priority.  but, i don't think the person should necessarily be top priority until you've given your life to him/her in marriage.  but, as with any relationship, if a person needs/wants attention and you care deeply for that person, you'll be happy to be there for them.  one time a guy started giving me the brush-off and that is just so not kewl.  let's just say it didn't last long after that.  none of my friends do that to me, so why would a bf?  i don't put up with that kinda thing from anyone, let alone someone i'm dating.  that's just gay.  on the other hand, if a bf is being too clingy, i'll kindly let them know that i need some time with other people or by myself.  if someone is too clingy, they quickly become annoying which is way uncool in a relationship.  yeah?
 

ok, so i'm gonna take a shot at this...i know that a lot of people probably are going to agree with me, but! i think that your boyfriend or girlfriend should most definitely be top priority! i guess it really depends on the relationship, but, i NEVER get sick of my boyfriend! i mean seriously, i read a couple of posts above that said that if you spend too much time together than you'll get sick of eachother, but me and my boyfriend NEVER do! we spent from 8am-midnight everyday this summer together and now we spend every minute together that we aren't working or at school...

abby, to be honest, i really think that it's VERY important for your boyfriend/girlfriend to be the very top priority. i think that if you're having problems, you should try talking to your boyfriend to let him know exactly where you stand on the relationship. my boyfriend is my best friend and i'm not kidding! we do EVERYTHING together! of course, when my friends come back from college i put a little bit of time aside to see them, but i'm always with my boyfriend more than i am with my friends. i don't think under any circumstance you should put your friends before your boy/girlfriend!

it's really up to you to initially decide what you expect of your boyfriend in terms of how much time he spends w/ u, but i hope this helped! write me back if it helped! thanks!

andrea