First widely promulgated by the National Leather Association, this expression has become a fixture in the vocabulary of most leatherfolk. While I don't disagree with the intent [to list what most leatherfolk consider the essential elements of leathersex] it is appropriate to reflect on the meaning and selection of each word.

SAFE In the beginning of the new [and still existant] era of aids, "safe sex" was an important step in changing behaviour. However, it has been many years since we realized that, at best, it is "safeR Sex.

No matter how quiet and intense a scene, both [all] parties should be finding some enjoyment; satisfying some need. Perhaps "safer, satisfying, consensual" ? I have to admit that when I hear the expression "no limits" I re-consider removing "sane" from the phrase.

CONSENSUAL For many "Old Guard" leatherfolk, this is the most problematic. Detailed, pre-scene negotiation may be as enjoyable as debating a Pre-Nuptual Agreement; it is just as necessary. Until you've played with someone long enough to truly know if there is 'implied consent', you leave yourself open to major trouble (and disappointing relationships).

Negotiation doesn't have to lead to a 12 page Memorandum of Agreement; but it should provide some clear limits and method(s) to change or end the scene if required. Obviously, details and styles should reflect the individuals, and their mutual history.

I can't think of any reason I would enter or continue a scene that fails to meet these three requirements.

The requirement for consent is also why I consider K-9 scenes [sex with non-human animals; not humans expressing their animal natures] inherently wrong. Beyond any health issues, you can't convince Me that a dog [horse, etc] can give informed consent.

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