This may or may not make sense I don't know. I'm in a middle of  6 page report and decided to write a little bit on this about some concepts that have come to mind since crusing the net a bit.

1. The theory of "going to the well" in terms of trying to hook up with some one. I feel like its kind of a good thing that people go kinda far for college to meet or hook up with new people. Its a good way to keep from getting "black listed" which in other words means you do something bad and the network effect happens and next thing you know girls you just met all of a sudden hate you becuase of the "black listed" items. This means that you have to meet girls out of a certian area because girls will know that you either have this habbit of "putting girls on deck" so they don't matter, or acting like a total jackass (guilty) infront of them that they want to stab your eyes out. Its like setting up for failure and the only question is when that will happen. If this sounds like you I have no pity for you or as a girl told me "too bad so sad" in a sarcastic way. Its really easy to fix...find somewhere else to hook up with women.

2. The theory of "if you don't look for it, it will come." Its kinda like looking for your missing keys. If you forget about looking for them you'll all of a sudden find them right infront of your face. I kinda think this works with trying to get a girl as well. I've seen guys with these elaborate plans to get a girl and they try so hard and end up failing...hell I'm also a victim to this as well. Its sometimes hard to really not try when your in it all and more occupied in trying not to fuck up. I'll give you an example during the fall and spring I honestly don't look for a girl. Its fucking hard and I have too much to worry about that sometimes things in my life don't get done which includes talking to a girly. When summer comes along I get caught up in trying to hook up with girls that I shoot myself in the foot...a lot. So in other words I'm trying to find that perfect balance and from this experience I've seen that not trying works. A good friend told me that I didn't have much to worry about and that if I really wanted a girl I could get one. He said that unlike other people I had my own personality and I wasn't one of those guys that copied and pasted personalities from other guys. That and being a good guy would eventually equal an awesome girl. I guess that goes hand in hand with not trying. If you don't try to get a girl I think that things will naturally happen and hell she might even have a flying car lol.

Wow after reading all of that I don't think any of it makes sense lol. Anyways I guess what I'm trying to say is just be yourself and let things take their course. If that doesn't work then atleast go somewhere else and be someone else...I mean isn't that what going to real college is all about lol.

Oh and for the people who are single and hating it, remember its waaaay better than being in a bad relationship. As Christopher Titus says "you don't get a rebate for sticking out in a bad relationship. Death isn't going to come for you and be like oh well you were with that crazy bitch for a few months so I'm going to let you go." Enjoy the single life and just don't make trying to hook up with a girl some epic drama, trust me it doesn't work at all.

- Jon 45 (Living the cubing function life lol )