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Category: Life
Many people seem to think being a transexual has something to do with being gay. First off gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same thing. A person with a male body but a female brain is of course more likely to like men. Most women like men and we think like women. Some of us like only women just like some women like only women.
I remember the first time I had my nails done. I was still married to a woman at the time. The woman doing my nails could not get over the fact that I liked women. She said "Then what is the point?" I told her it has nothing to do with who we are attracted at all. The one has absolutely nothing to do with the other. I don’t live as a woman to get men. Liking or not liking men had nothing to do with what was going on in my mind when I decided to live as a woman and start hormones.
In fact I had no interest in dating men and expected to continue to date only women. It was not until I was living as a woman full time for months before I agreed to date my first man. I could not get any women to go out with me. I went to les clubs and had a few personal ads trying to meet a nice woman but not one taker except for sex and that is not my style. The men came out of the woodwork and some even answered my les ads.
For a long time the Gay community shunned transgender people completely. They knew what we knew, again the one has nothing to do with the other. Its not about sexual identity its all about gender identity. Since no matter what any of us said people lumped us all together the Gay community finely took us under their wing so to speak. I remember back when they would not let transgender people in their parades. It was when they found out we are in the same boat in many ways with the hate and discrimination that we all joined in the fight for our personal freedoms together.
Now we go hand and hand but not for the reasons people think. When two groups that have little in common end up on the same side of a fight, they of course will learn to fight shoulder to shoulder.
All my life women had to ask me out. They asked for my number and they even paid for dinner. I dated a lot. All but one girl I dated said I was way to slow to bed. If a girl wanted sex right off, I got upset and asked her never to call me again even if I really liked her a lot before that. I was on many levels always the girl in the relationship. We ARE women in the ways that count most. For most women I think, its all about whats between our ears and in our hearts and not whats between our legs.
This is just a bit more insight into what it means to be a girl like me. If just one person rethinks his or her idea about transexuals then I will have accomplished something very worthwhile this evening.
God bless and thank you for taking the time to read this.
Your friend Eve
7:20 AM
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