The definition of the term "window of opportunity": 

     - A short period of time during which an opportunity must be acted on or missed.

Men, when it comes to dating relationships, you always have to keep this term in mind.  Whenever you meet a young lady that you may be interested in, you have to remember, if something is most likely going to become of it, you have to take advantage of the window of opportunity.  Realize that you have a short period of time between when you meet her and when you take the risk to make your move.  The pressure is on!  Can you handle it? 

We have already acknowledged that we have a problem in the Christian dating world.  In the previous couple of blogs, I spent time addressing this problem from the female perspective.  But now, I want to speak to the fellas.  The long and short of it is this, a big part of why this problem persists is because guys are missing their windows of opportunity.  For whatever reason they are not stepping up to the plate and letting the girls know they are interested.  What's holding you men back?  

• fear - of rejection, of the unknown, of being exposed as having no game?
• inexperience – not knowing what to say, you can't compete with other guys?
• indecision – the pressure of dating gets to you, you aren't good at making decisions,  there are a few girls that interest you and you can't narrow it down?
• blindness – you can't see the quality girls all around you?
• lack of testicular fortitude – plain and simply, you don't know how to Man UP and go for it?
  

Whatever it is holding you back, it's time to move past it.  I speak to so many guys who I know are interested in a young lady and after long periods of time, don't do anything about it.  A lot of guys are willing to take their chances by hanging out in the "friend zone" forever and hope that one day the girl will magically decide that he is actually her knight in shining armor.  Get real fellas!  This type of thing only happens in the moves if your name is Matthew McConaughey or Justin Timberlake.  And the reality is, you don't look that good with your shirt off like Matthew and you can't dance like JT.  The facts that you have a cute smile and are easy to talk do not give you a free ticket to jump in and out of the "friend zone."  You, my friend, would be wise to look for and capitalize on your window of opportunity. 

The good news is, at least you have a window.  Most of you guys reading this blog are quality fella's.  I mean, there may be thing or two that you might need to work on, but over all you know how to work it well enough to at least get the window open a little. 

Guys, you need to realize there are a lot of quality girls out there and it's about time you stepped your game up.  Get over your fear and indecision and Man Up and ask a young lady out.  Look for your window of opportunity and act on it otherwise you may miss it.  Guys - start showing a little courage and be willing to take the risk and ask a young lady out on a date instead of just hanging out with them all the time.  This is good for all of us.   It's good for you because you never know when you may happen upon – The ONE.  It's good for the young ladies because it helps build their confidence when guys ask them out.   And believe it or not, it's good for the body of Christ because we are cultivating healthy male – female relationships with young people. 

Can you dig what I'm saying?

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P. Alex