Is that a question or a statement? I wish I were a fly on the wall of your mind as you read that title. I can picture most of the female readers of my blog putting a little smirk on your face. You wonder why an opinionated man with 4 little boys would think he knows what I want and you are prepared to refute any and everything that I have say, right or wrong. Yet, let's be honest, you are intrigued - so you read on. For the male readers of my blog, I offer this advice - you would be wise to grab a pen and paper and take a few notes. Why? Because I'm about to tell you what women want!
Before I begin, allow me to offer my credentials as to why I know what women want. First of all, I am a husband who, in my wife's estimation, would say that I have been happily married for at least 10 of the 13 years I have been legally married. Secondly, I have had a mother for 36 years. Thirdly, I have a total of 5 sisters – 2 of which I lived with for 20+ years. Fourth, for 3 years I shared residence with 180+ women while working as a Residence Director at Evangel University. Now that was an education! I learned more about women by just hanging out in the lobby than most men learn in a lifetime. Lastly, I know you! Let's face it ladies, you are just as opinionated and vocal about what you want as I am in telling you what you want. So, let's get started…
Women want…
· to be swept off their feet by a night in shining armor who realizes that although this is what she wanted, she didn't really need to be swept off her feet and he needs to realize that actually, she is very independent and self-sufficient.
· a guy who is sensitive, but not too sensitive.
· a guy who is nice, but not too nice.
· a guy who is sweet, but not too sweet.
· a guy who is athletic, but won't choose the game over spending time with her.
· to feel loved and respected and valued. She wants her sensitive man to make her feel special and at the same time she wants him to be somewhat of a "bad boy"! (Bad boys are exciting)
· an artistic, creative, sporadic, and carefree man who knows how to balance a checkbook, help with the laundry and never forgets special occasions like her birthday, their anniversary, and will always remember what she wore on their first date.
· a man who knows what's on her mind but doesn't come across like he always knows what she is thinking.
· a man who can read their mind – but only sometimes, like when it comes to picking out the perfect gift for them or knowing what movie they really want to watch, but he can't try to read their mind all the time.
· a man who will listen to all their problems but never tell them what to do.
· a man who will never lie to them but will always tell them they look good.
· a man who dresses nice, but doesn't look better than them. And only when they feel like dressing up, sometimes a girl wants to wear their man's sweats – so he has to be bigger than her.
· true love - from a man who has money.
To sum it all up; women don't really know what they want. They are confused and confusing. If only women of today were like the previous generation. It was easy to figure out what they wanted. Ask your mom and dad – everyone knew that back then, woman wanted SECURITY. They wanted to feel safe and know they were taken care of. If only it could be so simple.
But, this is the beauty of it all. It's all a big game! We, MEN, get to figure it all out. So don't get discouraged and start thinking you can never know what they really want, so why even try. That's the negative way of looking at things. Instead, be positive and realize it's an open field. Since women don't really know what they want, you can do whatever and be whoever you want and convince them that they want what you tell them they want. But be careful, men. Don't tell them you know what they want because they don't want to be told you know even though you and I both know they don't know and we do know.
But you, young man, don't live with women of old. You have he 21st century girl to deal with. They don't know what they want. So, let the game begin!
Word…
Pasta' Alex