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	adriana.²	Some men are just pigs. But don't worry. You have a lot going for you - your career, your beauty, your personality. Just wait for the right guy.(: Eventually, you'll bump into him.   Posted by adriana.² on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:03 AM [Reply to this]

	Joe Goyette	I can think of several funny things I could post here that would make you laugh hysterically.  However, it would just get me in trouble. I think there  are a few million men out there who would love to date you.  It is a game though, actually, i liken it to a dance. Your  friends all love you Lex, even the male ones!  Ha. Joe   Posted by Joe Goyette on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:03 AM [Reply to this]

	Barbara	i am a free spirit i just go out and have a great time,thats when you meet someone but i am looking for a free spirit guy that likes to be on the go and have fun you will meet someone soon so smile my friend   Posted by Barbara on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:08 AM [Reply to this]

	Terry Terry Jackson	I hear ya. The dating game is overrated and the drinking scene isn't a great way to go. Best thing to do in my opinion is to wait for that random spontanious encounter.   Posted by Terry on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:14 AM [Reply to this]

	Eric	That's the thing about NY, a lot to do in a confined space. Cram enough people in that confined space and it seems as if every person has to fight for their piece of the pie. Nice guys just get pushed away or marginalized for the stand-outs. So the game is afoot every time you set outside your door.  Yet you will find that their are a few of us still out there. We just don't happen to live in the Greatest City. (Although, I have and many other cities to boot)  SO - the point is- don't give up and don't limit yourself to the City that never sleeps. Some where in perhaps, another city, might be the right choice for you.  Perhaps they have lived and are still living a great life outside a Huge City and have kept their wits about waiting for that great woman. They just might be that interesting nice guy you missed on your last outing. I hope you get a chance to meet that someone. You certainly deserve to be in a stress free relationship with a new special someone. Your friend, Eric    Posted by Eric on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:29 AM [Reply to this]

	Everybody loves you now. Jeremy Wittes	Lex...check your myspace mail.    Posted by Everybody loves you now. on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:32 AM [Reply to this]

	Music Encyclopedia	Dear Alexa Ray,                         I have been single for years, and while I can't say I really like it all the time, most of the time it isn't bad. I'm a nice guy I think, and for years I had habits of looking for Ms. Right. I'd either try and make something work too quickly, rush things, too serious too fast, get involved with ones that weren't my type etc..etc.. I don't look for it anymore because dating is a pain in the ass.  Right now I'm out looking for another job like so many others, a career change, and even if I wanted to meet someone new or date I couldn't, too busy. I have me, myself, and I to worry about for now. It may sound selfish, but I'd rather be a self made man again, then try my luck in the dating pool later on. Good luck to you though,                                          Jeff   Posted by Music Encyclopedia on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:34 AM [Reply to this]

	~Alicia~	Try it at my age! Ughhh! Chin up though my dear, he's out there!   Posted by ~Alicia~ on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:40 AM [Reply to this]

	TracyBeth87 Tracy Frye	Hi Alicia!  I agree...  I'm 40 years old, and still single.  It doesn't get easier as you get older...   Posted by TracyBeth87 on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 6:02 AM [Reply to this]

	Brittany♫Rae!	aw, lex.  it's their losses you know!!    Posted by Brittany♫Rae! on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:44 AM [Reply to this]

	Alexander Alexander Ghali	I'm in the exact same boat as you- I rarely go out, and when I do, I never meet anyone; I haven't managed to master how to approach a girl and strike up a conversation without resorting to some cheesy line- which I refuse to do- and there's rarely anyone I even see who I'd WANT to approach... so I just end up not dating, and I guess I've come to terms with that.  You can still be a strong, independent person without a significant other- and you never know, things may change when you least expect it.   Posted by Alexander on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:51 AM [Reply to this]

	Rogue Ryan Witalison	Tough to date up here where I am, Fish Creek, Wisconsin. Not much to do up here but go to the Bar really   Posted by Rogue on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:53 AM [Reply to this]

	Amy	I hear you Lex, AND I feel your pain.. I can SO relate!   Posted by Amy on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 5:02 AM [Reply to this]

	TaKe 17™	I HEAR YA   Posted by TaKe 17™ on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 5:08 AM [Reply to this]

	♥Bëïñg¤Më♥	Its horrible out there...i gave up a long time ago...rather be with my friends who are single too :) Hang in there..you are still young...itll happen when you least expect it :)   Posted by ♥Bëïñg¤Më♥ on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 5:18 AM [Reply to this]

	Konstantin	I don't understand what people like about dating. It's like going on a job interview; Who would enjoy that? I think the best thing is don't go out to find someone to date. Just go out to hang with your friends and have a good time without "looking" for anyone. That way you could enjoy yourself and your time with your friends without any pressure.   Posted by Konstantin on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 6:27 AM [Reply to this]

	John K. (Updated Weekly) John Killion	I REALLY hate the dating thing, too.  Luckily, I found someone a few years ago with a lot of similar interests, so we didn't have a lot of awkward silence.   Good luck to you!    Posted by John K. (Updated Weekly) on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 6:38 AM [Reply to this]

	M. Elaine	OMG!!!!! Can I relate or WHAT!!!!! I'm a VERY grateful recovering alcoholic(11/25/82) so I don't do the bar scene and almost ALL the AA guys are fucked up, and add being 53 to it ALL!!!! I put it in God's Hands and keep VERY busy!!!!  I have a daughter who'll be 21 in September. She's dealing with the SAME thing! All I can say is DON'T compromise yourself or your beliefs for ANYONE!!!!!   Posted by M. Elaine on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 7:41 AM [Reply to this]

	TracyBeth87 Tracy Frye	Agreed!!!  :) Congratulations on your sobriety!     Posted by TracyBeth87 on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 6:04 AM [Reply to this]

	Charlie Kraut	Maybe you're dating the wrong way.  Try this..... "Hey, are you a vet?" -you "No. Why?" -random man (flex your muscules) "Cuz these pythons are SICK!!!" -you    :) All kidding aside, you might want to try song writing when you're feeling this way.  Strong emotions can bring out strong melodies/hooks/lyrics.  Try it, and let me know how it goes.  Good luck! p.s.  That pickup line has never worked.....ever.   :)   Posted by Charlie Kraut on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 10:36 AM [Reply to this]

	Rocco	i think me and you have alot in common,so i totally understand you and what ur sayin.i love stayin in and hangin with friends or that special someone,watchin a movie or anythin just as long as me and that special someone are together.i hate having to dress up to go out,i just love it when i can be myself around this special someone and she can come over or i go over to her house and we don't have to worry about impressing that person but just enjoying each other so that the kind of woman i like and we can be as crazy as we are without feelin stupid around other people   Posted by Rocco on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 12:49 PM [Reply to this]

	Kristina	at least you can say you've been in a relationship. I've never been on a date and I'm older than you.   Posted by Kristina on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 1:11 PM [Reply to this]

	"Give me a good melody"	Lex, dating is overrated - period. You are not alone. When I lived in L.A. and worked in the film industry, I was a workaholic just like you. Many people in the entertainment industry are that way. That said, with the little spare time there is, where do people meet someone? In the "off chance" at a bar or coffee shop? Being a workaholic might be great for careers but something is usually sacrificed on a personal level. Bars are great fun for drinking, flirting, some karaoke, LOL, but not the best place to meet someone who has the same romantic aspirations as you. Perhaps take a ballroom dance class, join a bowling league - any hobby that you love where alcohol and hormones don't play such a significant role. Just my two cents.  :)   Posted by "Give me a good melody" on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 1:16 PM [Reply to this]

	Daniel	It's like we could all use our own personal "Hitch" at times. Dating can be a pain, but the reward afterwards, is definitely worth it.  I mean finding someone to love and support you no matter what.  Someone to help you grow as a person. However dating is also over-rated.  If only go out with one more person for the rest of my life, I'll be happy.   Posted by Daniel on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 1:21 PM [Reply to this]

	8/29/58 6/25/09 I love you MJ	Hi Lex, I'm sorry your haveing a heard time dateing . The right guy is out their for you . Don't worry .Have a good day.   Posted by 8/29/58 6/25/09 I love you MJ on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 2:05 PM [Reply to this]

	Aspenbells Debi Warren	Hey... It's their loss, baby girl....  I am in the same boat, just much older and divorced...  don't like to play the games, so that is how I look at it.  We are AWESOME and they are losing out by not taking the time to get to know us!!!   Posted by Aspenbells on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 2:30 PM [Reply to this]

	Maria	May I give some motherly advice? Go out with your friends just to have fun with them. Men you meet at bars will only make you miserable. Trust your instincts...that sick feeling in your stomach is there for a reason. The nicest guys I've ever met have started out as acquaintances--friends of my friends. Eventually I met my husband at work, I instantly liked him and I got to know him better over time. On the positive side, you DO live in the greatest city in the world and you have EVERYTHING in the world going for you.  "He" is out there and you will virtually trip over him when you least expect it. (It's a cliche because it's true!) Blessings to you, M.   Posted by Maria on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 4:19 PM [Reply to this]

	Jackie Scott represents the BEST bands! Jackie Scott	Great advice!  This mom and grandmom agrees with Maria!   Posted by Jackie Scott represents the BEST bands! on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 11:30 PM [Reply to this]

	Jesse	This reminds me of a piece I'm writing. I've been single for what seems like an eternity and although the thoughts of giving up on love tend to creep into my mind at times, my heart reminds me that someday, somewhere I'll meet the person that is right for me. Some peole say I'm a Hopeless Romantic, but I prefer to call myself a Hopeful Romantic for I'll always hold onto hope that she does exist. To some, finding a true soul mate may seem like a fruitless search, but we mustn't give into that inner voice within us that only brings forth self-doubt. No matter how swept up our lives may become, our heart of hearts exists to seek out that one true soul that can make us complete.   Posted by Jesse on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 5:45 PM [Reply to this]

	Stacey Stacey Christine Smith	Say No More Alexa Coz I Too Understand What Your Going Through !   Posted by Stacey on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 7:02 PM [Reply to this]

	Mauricio Mauricio Jordan	My wife and I used to have a dating service business start up,we worked at it fro a few years,but gave it up,because(surprisingly)single women were out numbered by single men! We did not accept separated women or men,though,just strictly single to make it easier for the ladies. Tough luck. We did managed to get 3 ,still happily married couples. One of them a NYC celebrity,sorry,I'm sworn not to mention her name. My advise,NYC is tough for dating,but don't give up! Contact us if you need pointers. Good luck!   Posted by Mauricio on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 7:59 PM [Reply to this]

	Scissor	Choose an activity when u go out instead of standing there and drinking that way, you wont care if u meet anyone cuz ur playing. Anyway, it feels like theres a shortage of good men so cast a wide net. Xoxo   Posted by Scissor on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 8:12 PM [Reply to this]

	Jennifer Spengler	I say... just let it happen.  Don't feel pressured to date!  If you feel like you're searching for someone, you'll probably not find him.  It's when you say, "Whatever!" and kind of give up on it that a potential Mister Right might be knockin' on your door!   Posted by Jennifer Spengler on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 10:47 PM [Reply to this]

	Johnny Lazer	Lex, I'm 50 and happily married for 18+ years. You must be on the low end of 20 something (I figured this out since I spent a good part of my 20's lonely and trying to learn to play your dad's tunes). I met my wife in a navy bar I was playing in, and we spent two hours that evening talking over 'breakfast'. The next 2-3 weeks we just mostly talked on the phone. The point is, that for all the superficial outward attraction, you must find someone that you share beliefs with, and the only way to do that is to get to know the mind before you get to know the body. Hope this helps... LAZER   Posted by Johnny Lazer on Wednesday, August 12, 2009 - 10:58 PM [Reply to this]

	Marisela Marisela Spindola	Hi! The same problem here. I just hate the whole dating process, I'd like to have a better social life, but for some reason, that way of dating doesn't work for me, maybe it's better just let the things go in an espontaneous way!                                                                Good luck wit your show!   Posted by Marisela on Thursday, August 13, 2009 - 12:28 AM [Reply to this]

	Marissa	I am RIGHT THERE with you. xo, Riss   Posted by Marissa on Thursday, August 13, 2009 - 1:48 AM [Reply to this]

	laurence (sam) Laurence sam Walch jr.	feel same way, hard to find great girls in bars.  sam!   Posted by laurence (sam) on Thursday, August 13, 2009 - 4:35 AM [Reply to this]

	~unusualy~not*tall~ jessica wrotny	OMG! totally hear with the dating .....hard lesson learned with the going out and drinking.....does not work that way,     but when you are least expecting some one will come around :)   Posted by ~unusualy~not*tall~ on Friday, August 14, 2009 - 3:09 PM [Reply to this]

	Stronger everyday :)	I hate the fact that everyone seems to go clubbing these days to find a guy!!!!! I HATE those places. You want to meet a man while walking through a beautiful park somewhere, someone really romantic who is sat on a bench somewhere staring at the scenery......... those people are always the most interesting!!! not a drooling, drunk party lover type :( Well thats how i feel anyway........ xxxxxxxxx   Posted by Stronger everyday :) on Friday, August 14, 2009 - 4:44 PM [Reply to this]

	Peter Langstaff	Doesn't get any easier the older you get unfortunately :-/   Posted by Peter Langstaff on Friday, August 14, 2009 - 4:58 PM [Reply to this]

	becca	you know its not always guys im bi and sometimes the women are worse than the men im about ready to call off a wedding because of the damn pressure   Posted by becca on Saturday, August 15, 2009 - 10:50 PM [Reply to this]

	Mr. Sunshine	It's a pooey game, that's for sure. Tell you what, take a trip to Adelaide, Australia and we'll go out for a drink, there's a lovely place just down the road from me called the Avoca. Come on, it's only halfway around the world! Chin up sunshine, I'm sure you'll happen across someone soon enough! Jase. :)   Posted by Mr. Sunshine on Sunday, August 16, 2009 - 3:22 PM [Reply to this]

	Ann	Alexa, take it from an old friend that knows you, your mom and your dad . . . STAY AWAY FROM CELEBRITIES!  It's not that celebrities are bad, per se, it's just that Hollywood relationships have many more problems than those with average people - think Bon Jovi who has been with his high school sweetheart for over 25 years!  Also, don't look for it - don't "date" and seek out a man.  That never works.  Trust me - when it's right, you will know it.  You will know what is genuine, what is meant to be.  Wait for it and it will all work out.  Seek it out, and it never works.  You are in the best city in the world, but the worst place to meet people.  Just lay back, enjoy life and let it happen.  It will come out of nowhere.  I tried for years!  When I gave up, I met the love of my life (Bill Walsh).  Hang in there kiddo.  You are an amazing and beautiful person.  You deserve the absolute best! Ann Nassauer Walsh ;-)   Posted by Ann on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 12:49 AM [Reply to this]

	Raymond Raymond Fritz	-- a poem for sad eyes -- you take what you need you give what you can you concede to the calling while you make other plans... morning burns with promise of hope sleep yields the power for you to cope while night trips over her lonely stars the moon engulfs all your heart scars so take that which you need and then give what you may throw all caution to the wind and let your soul sail a prince will surrender his pride for the gift of a glimpse of you love is only for the giving    yet this, you already knew... xxx from ray, for you, now feel better, not so blue     Posted by Raymond on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 12:02 PM [Reply to this]

	Jeff	It never gets easier and marriage has it's own problems as well.  The times in my life I wanted to be alone and work were the times when someone came looking for me. Love is like the cable guy. It may show up anytime between 18 and 80. If you leave the house for a moment you might find that you've missed it and they've moved on. This goes for all the fellows out there too.    Posted by Jeff on Wednesday, August 19, 2009 - 1:57 PM [Reply to this]

	TracyBeth87 Tracy Frye	Hi Lex!  I agree with you 100%!     Posted by TracyBeth87 on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 6:00 AM [Reply to this]

	Jo	Hey - I honestly think its the East coast lolol. Plus, men nowadays arent into serious relationships until about 30. I'm from the ct/nyc area... and met someone. he's in Ohio though. So we have a long distance relationship. Try nashville, I hear the people are nice there. lol idk. hope all is well and gl!   Posted by Jo on Thursday, August 20, 2009 - 6:11 PM [Reply to this]

	Jeremy Jeremy Grisham	I feel the same way. I can't find anyone nice myself. I am tired of the dating game.        Jeremy   Posted by Jeremy on Friday, August 21, 2009 - 3:23 AM [Reply to this]

	Master0fPuppets MasterOf Puppets	I concur. I thought as I got older, the head games would stop, but no - they've gotten worse. At least when I was younger, there was less responsibility, so it was easier to make decisions on who I'd date... now I've gotta watch out for gold-diggers... as you probably have experienced yourself. Every online profile I have, states "No head games please"... but that doesn't seem to weed them out... I just wish I could find someone "real". Seems the women I meet are all game-players, and don't want to be "tied down" so to speak. *shrugs* Hope you find someone real, too. <3 Rob   Posted by Master0fPuppets on Friday, August 21, 2009 - 2:51 PM [Reply to this]

	Krista Krista Holmes	You remind me so much of my group of girlfriends. We're all singletons (except my one friend) and feel the same way. Granted, we don't live in NYC, but you'd think we'd find some good guys away at college...but nope. No bueno. So no worries, love, you're not alone on this boat. The dating world sucks. But you're young, talented, sweet and beautiful, so you'll find an interesting, NICE guy soon!   Posted by Krista on Friday, August 21, 2009 - 3:37 PM [Reply to this]

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