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Status: Single
City: RICHMOND
State: Virginia
Country: US
Signup Date: 3/6/2006
Saturday, February 23, 2008 
I'm not sure even how to start this. I'm not sure of much at this point. But I'll try...

If you read my other blogs, you'll know that I lost a close friend on January 11th - Travis Conner. In an attempt to heal, I fled Richmond, Va for Asheville, NC. I stayed for the rest of the month and into February. Ronnie Graham, my close friend of 18 years put me up at his house in South Asheville. He gave me my own basement room with it's own access. He never asked for a penny. He cooked for me everyday. And listened to me every night.

I left Asheville to manage a Smoke or Fire tour in mid February. Three days into the tour, the morning after our show at the Otto Bar in Baltimore I got terrible news.

Ronnie Graham passed away on Saturday February 16 - early in the morning.

I left the Smoke or Fire tour. I've been in Asheville all week.

This has been a terrible year. So many people I know are so tired and so sad. I am one of those people of course.

Please be thinking of both Travis and Ronnies families.

I'm gonna go for it now. I'm starting to set up shows. Note that some are posted now. I'm gonna record a few songs in April, and if I like any of them I will put them up on here. I'm gonna continue to write until I have an album I like. I'm doing all of this because it's the only thing I can do now. Just gotta keep moving and planning.

When the shows begin, please know that I will play some of them completely solo - just me and a guitar. Some will be just Josh Small and I playing together. Others Caitlin Barry (lil' sis) will jump in. Some also may include a full band. It will rarely be the same this year. The option of being able to play completely alone will give me more autonomy. And won't destroy my travel/band mates home lives.

So that's what's up. Or down. Which ever way you look at it.

Love you Ronnie.

Tim Barry

www.timbarryrva.com
9:07 PM
 
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Myke™
Myke Leopold

 
I cant even begin to express how sorry I am. Man, I dont even know what to say. You and Ronnie and Travis and their families will be in my thoughts this month. Look forward to seeing you out on the road and admire your bravery and strength during such bleak times. We love you Tim. We all love you. Take care!
 
Posted by Myke™ on Saturday, February 23, 2008 - 10:07 PM
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DINO
Mikey paladino

 
About four years ago a couple days before christmas had a friend of mine was drunk and went to hop on a train home from a office x-mas party he never made it. From what the cops said he fell and was struck by the train and died instanly. Only about four months later a real good friend of mine a guy I was in kindergarden with, a guy I shared tons of memorys with from 5years old till 24 was found dead in his room from an overdose. It fucking killed me, I felt like there was nothing I could do but give up and die myself. But I found comfort in friends and family and it just made me realize how everyday is a gift and we should enjoy every breath of air we breathe. I hope this brings comfort to you no matter how morbib the tale or how corny the lesson. My deepest condolences on your friends passsings it just plain sucks. But you always got family in Long Island brother.
 
Posted by DINO on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:45 PM
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I'm alright for now but i haven't been.
James Wadski

 
My fucking god.

I'm so sorry for this horrible news my friend.

Ronnie and Travis will be in my thoughts and prayers for a long time .

Keep your head up man, These tracks have been laid before us for a reason.

Things will be better.

Much love brother.

-james
 
Posted by I'm alright for now but i haven't been. on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:45 PM
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brian rayfield

 
hey dude yeah I know Im not a best friend of any kind ... but I can sympathies and as I said last post you stated the running to NC know that if "vacation" or "evacuation" is needed there are some people in this town of charlotte used to the every day "trips" as it were
but yeah your on top of it better than most at lest you have the plan of making plans and the will to keep moving
keep it real if reality is worth keeping
 
Posted by brian rayfield on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:46 PM
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Avail Fans

 
My thoughts and prayers will be with their families as well as you. Think of the good times and have good times to get you through the bad.

Sean
 
Posted by Avail Fans on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:46 PM
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fluffernutter
Matthew Hoffman

 
Just want to send along my thought and prayers. I hope and trust that you as well as Ronnies and Travis families heal through this. I hope that by writing and going out and playing shows you will heal. God Bless you my friend.
I wish you all the best.

Matt
 
Posted by fluffernutter on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:46 PM
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Nick
Nick Teta

 
Sorry for your loss, Tim. It's hard. Nothing but time heals. I lost a Child Back in 2002 it was surreal and don't know how I got thru but I did. Take care of yourself.
Nick
 
Posted by Nick on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:47 PM
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Raymond J. Justin Jones Jr. III
justin jones

 
Chin up Brother. I wish there was a way that I could help you out through these hard times the way your music (and Avail's) has helped me through so many of mine. Hope I get to see you on tour. Much Love.
 
Posted by Raymond J. Justin Jones Jr. III on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:52 PM
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♫ Andrea ♫

 
Dude I am SO fucking sorry!! You are still in my thoughts and prays as well as Travis and Ronnie's families. I hope thing start looking up man, I think you have my number if you need anything please use it!! -Andrea
 
Posted by ♫ Andrea ♫ on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:54 PM
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Buckeye Budic
Jeff Budic

 
Wow. I am speechless. I am really sorry, man. I can't say much - we barely know each other, but for what it is worth, you, your friends, and your friends' families are in my thoughts.

I just don't know what to say. Sorry, Tim. Wow.
 
Posted by Buckeye Budic on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 7:54 PM
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¡Jon!
jon turner

 
Damn, Tim. Sorry to hear about the rough start to the year for you so far. Hopefully some things will be picking up for you as the year goes on. Hopefully I'll be around when you get around to rolling through the mountains and I can get you a beer and say hello.

Good luck with touring and playing music! Look forward to running into you at some point.
 
Posted by ¡Jon! on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 8:01 PM
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Crapface Nerdzilla-bot.

 
Ronnie, Travis, their families, and friends will all be in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry for your losses. I lost two friends within four days of eachother last January, all while trying to finish my last semester of my senior year, take care of my 15 year old niece who could no longer be at home, and heal from a car accident I was in a few months prior. It was a year that started and ended on the worst of notes. But, you move on, and keep going, because what other option is there... Some days it's easier than others. Take care, Tim. Hopefully music can heal you.
 
Posted by Crapface Nerdzilla-bot. on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 8:01 PM
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Jim

 
Tim,

I am very , VERY sorry to hear that news. All I can say is be tough. About 10 years ago, I was living with my folks and my Grandma. One morning my Dad came in and told me that Grandma died, 2 weeks later my mom was waking me up at 2am telling me my dad was not breathing. He died later that week.

Be tough man, you have a lot of people who love ya man... as from what I said above, I know this probably feels like everything is falling apart for you. Just stay strong... thats all I can say. If I can ever do anything at all, please let me know. Hope I can buy you a beer the next time your in town performing!!

Take care brother,

- JimfromNC
 
Posted by Jim on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 8:02 PM
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Jason Manfredi [Now on iTunes]

 
wow...sorry bro. this year just started and it already sucks ass. Any "homage" songs in the works? If you need a guitarist/back-up singer or just someone to vent to,please gimme a call.
sincerely,
Jason
 
Posted by Jason Manfredi [Now on iTunes] on Sunday, February 24, 2008 - 8:04 PM
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stoner witch

 
Oh damn man, that's terrible. Been a bad year so far, with Travis and now your other friend Ronnie. Very sorry to hear about the loss. Hit some friends up when you are back home in richmond for some company, that always helps when times are rough.
 
Posted by stoner witch on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 5:45 PM
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Robert Bruce

 
Tim, so many times when I've been down and felt like I couldn't get back up from something your words and music have been a big reason why I could get up again and face the day. If anyone can make it through I know it's you because you've pulled so many people through over the years. So sorry about the losses man, I'll be praying for Ronnie and Travis and you too.
 
Posted by Robert Bruce on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 5:46 PM
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Joey Chainsaw
Joe Grover

 
Be strong, bro. My year has been treating me the same so far. It's sad, but liveable. Good luck on the road, and be safe.
Hope to see you out in Florida soon.

Joe
 
Posted by Joey Chainsaw on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 9:29 PM
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ghosty toasty

 
oh god, Tim, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll keep all of y'all in my thoughts.
 
Posted by ghosty toasty on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 9:31 PM
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I'ts getting better all the time!
Scott Templin

 
A close friend of mine lost her father to suicide last week, so i can kind of relate to the sadness, though i can't even pretend to know i understand the pain of loss. My thoughts and prayer are with you.

Be Safe, stay strong.
 
Posted by I'ts getting better all the time! on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 9:31 PM
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Micah

 
"When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you ar weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, 'Joy is greather than sorrow,' and others say, 'Nay, sorrow is the greater.'
But I say unto you, they are inseperable.
Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed."

Tim,
so much love to you and anybody else feeling similar pain right now.

<3Micah
 
Posted by Micah on Monday, February 25, 2008 - 9:32 PM
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Jonathan

 
I'm truly sorry to hear about the sad news...
the good ones are always taken way too soon.

I just thought I should share this with you Tim:
Me and 2 friends last year drove from baton rouge,la just to see you and the draft in atlanta,ga to play live. That will always be one of my favorite memories of my life. Watching you play in the parking lot with josh small will go down as my single favorite "music moment" ever.
Now, when me and those two friends talk about music, your name seems to come up and we remember that 2 day road trip. Lots of funny stories to go along with that trip.

You see, you have changed people's lives with your music and your words.

And for that, I will be forever truly in your debt for making such beautiful songs.

So please pick that guitar up and play.

You will only make more and more people happy with the music you play.

You have a gift, and it would be a shame if you didn't use it as much as you could.

Thanks for everything.

-jonathan
 
Posted by Jonathan on Tuesday, February 26, 2008 - 4:48 PM
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A Whiskey a Dance a Fight and a Kiss Goodnight

 
kep creating tim!!!!
 
Posted by A Whiskey a Dance a Fight and a Kiss Goodnight on Tuesday, February 26, 2008 - 10:45 PM
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Frank Aloysius Madrid
Frank Aloysius Madrid

 
man, that's a terrible tragedy. my heart goes out to you and the families of your friends. in the light of everything i admire your strength of purpose to have your music help you through and your decision to go on tour. i hope you can make it out to LA LA land as you always call it. i have a whole amazing family of people out here who all love you and your music and if you come out if there's anything we can do for you we will.

love and prayers tim.

-frank
 
Posted by Frank Aloysius Madrid on Tuesday, February 26, 2008 - 10:46 PM
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Coelacanth
Grey Glove

 
Be strong brother!
 
Posted by Coelacanth on Wednesday, February 27, 2008 - 4:20 PM
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Household Name Records

 
hey man

so sorry to hear of all yr tough times. keep strong.

love from across the water

lil and kafren
 
Posted by Household Name Records on Wednesday, March 12, 2008 - 6:23 PM
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†SIN †

 
Well.... My mind is racing with the many thought and things I could tell you.. Its never easy to loose someone you love and I too have lost 4 loved ones this year.. One a mother of a beautiful 6 year old-- on Valentine's Day.. Another-- 2 days before his 23rd birthday-- I could go on and on.. Not much brings me comfort except pictures and lots of music. Its what keeps me going.. "Wait at Milano"..........says it all...
Here's a poem my dear friend Nick wrote and tried to hide--because he was too ashamed to share his writtings with any of us.. His humble sweet mom Cookie found it.. I think you might find some peace in it... Best of luck with your heart and soul and the music that lives within you.. Vegas and I await you ---- I always will.. Good luck--Lots of love XOXO SIN

Nick Cirkosz' last poem
Forever Rest In Peace

"What will I do if tomorrow never comes?
I will never find someone I can love
Never have a chance to say goodbye
Never again will I hear friends say hi
What will I do if tomorrow never comes?
Never hear my records, no more shows
All my dreams no one will ever know
Never see my family again
Losing all of them is something I dread
What will I do if tomorrow never comes?
I don’t know yet, I’m living for today..."
 
Posted by †SIN † on Thursday, April 03, 2008 - 5:36 PM
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