I am feeling you... There is nothing more beautiful then the truth... I feel bad for liars, because they lie to cover up their insecurities.. It’s a shame, and some are actually addicted to it... B
 

Maybe you call it karma all just say "what goes around comes around" but, we will all get pay back for how we live....bad or GOOD, either in this world or the next.


XOXOXO
Paul
 

As a friend that has lied to another dear friend i must say sometimes you have to. I have a friend that is all talk, an unfortunate part of his personality, but he has very good qualities. Like he is the person to call if your stranded broke and need to get home. Or the type of guy that would drive out to the middle of the mohavi(sp?) desert if you broke down. that is the quality of a friend. the metal if you will. but business people are a different animal. you have to smile and bite your hand at all the bs that they fling. they are sometime so covered in shit that you have to laugh at them an pretend it is with them. the best thing to do is remember. we are all addicts we are addicted to something and all people are tools they are either there to get us our fix our help us. my fix is running and building stuff. so there you go i love my stuff. but as for friends if you do this then remember they are using you just like you use them.... friendship is symbiotic. and paracitic(sp?) so those people who take more than they are entitled to i send them on the road... hey all guys are not jerks we just look like them or because we have one.... good luck (:
 

lol said perfectly you have the exact stand on it that my wife does and shes red head too. lol.
she deals with liars the same way and it works just hard sometimes cause almost everyone does it
 

One of the things I like about you is your honesty
 

Maybe it's time you started to understand psychopathy. What you are complaining about is prevalent from the lowest rungs up to the very highest. Check out this excerpt ( http://www. cassiopaea. com/cassiopaea/cleckley. pdf ), then do a google search on psychopathy. I think you will find it very interesting.


Thanks for being so candid.

 

There are really two kinds of lies.....those meant to hurt and those meant to protect people. Its the lies that hurt we could all do with out. But lets be honest when we ask our men or girlfriends if are bum looks big in this dress then we would be pretty devastated if thet said yes. I'm kinda ok with the latter type of protective lie...lol.


xxx

Emma
 

I thick you said it perfectly. Life's to short to deal with the constant bullshit from people who you know are lying to you. We all have to deal with this shit every day. It's sad but true.

 

Well I will say I know I lie and I don mean a little but sometimes like you said I have to lie for work. I think those that do it on a regualr everyday basis just want more attention or well feel they need to for the attention. I know alot of people say just be yourself and you dont have to lie to hang out but you said it tosometimes you lie. And I bet some of these lies are for to keep someone happy. I mean I prolly would lie to keep someone happy, and under certain stressful situations i would lie again to keep anyone from overreacting and causing harm. But i bet those arent the situations you were dealing with. Well I feel you how people do it on a daily basis. I think its stupid to.

 

I think everybody lies. I know I do, i'm not proud of it. I think if anyone is really honest than they would have to say that they do.


I kind of think of lying in two general ways... lies that are designed to protect someone and lies that are intended to take something from another.
(best way I describe the second group of lies)

I really don't begrudge people much when they tell me a lie that is designed to protect them, perhaps there's something that they have done and their not proud of or maybe the thing their lying about is none of my business.


I know someone that in their past did some things that they'd rather not remember or even talk about because their trying to start a new life, you know start all over. Who am I to throw their past in their face? So when they tell me a lie about it, I purposefully look the other way, and I would do it a thousand times over because I care about them.


The other catergory of lying that I just can't stand are the ones that are designed to take advantage of you. Like the guy that I used to know that said he was my friend, that said to me i'm old enough to be your father... do you think of yourself as my son?... Let me give you some fatherly advice....blah blah blah...

They guy that says to me all he wants to do is honest deals... with honest people and make some honest money... but this is the guy that when i'm with him and his wife is out of town is picking up women... offering waitresses money for sex when i'm sitting right across the table from him... the guy that when we get through talking with his so called friends and walk away... starts talking trash to them...

The same person that tells me let's negotiate a deal for commissions you tell me what split you think is fair... our partner will tell us what they think is fair and then we will sit down and negotiate, only to find out accidentially that they were sending emails back and forth discussing how they were going to get me to accept a pre-planned deal.


I can't stand those people.