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Gender: Male
Status: In a Relationship
Age: 90
Sign: Libra

City: Somewhere
State: Illinois
Country: US
Signup Date: 4/10/2006
Sunday, May 31, 2009 

Current mood:  blessed
Stitching Life Together

Among the people closest to me in my life, I am lucky to have a quilt maker. Now, other folks may have a painter or a potter or an amazing cook in their lives. For those of you in that latter category, admit it, you’re always hoping the chef will invite you over for dinner. In my case I have a nice quilt that is always on my bed, and my ex-girlfriend has a beautiful wall hanging quilt (that matches her couch!). When I’m at a sibling’s house I’m likely to see more evidence of the quilter in our midst. The quilter’s love is everywhere. And I have other giving, talented people in my tribe too, by the way. Among my peeps there’s also a painter, who paints direct to wood. And in fact, my photography or my ex’s photography is also spread among the inner circle of people in my life.

But today’s blog is about love, quilt making, and living as well as we can. It turns out that the quilter has another friend whose husband has a brain tumor. He has hovered near death in recent times, but just at present he is doing better and everyone is allowing themselves to hope. Below you can have a look at the quilt that was made for the friend and her husband. The style is known as an Autograph Quilt. You’ll hopefully be able to see that in addition to beautiful quote found one each on the light colored panels, there are also other more personalized notes from the people closest to the gift recipient couple. I just thought it was lovely and wanted to share it.

The “back” side
autograph,quilt

The messages
autograph,quilt,message

I can't claim to know the story of how each quote made it onto the quilt. Clearly some of the messages are the quotes from the famous, while other quotes appear to be originals. Frankly I like some quotes better than others, but here's the list spelled out, just in case you can't read it from the picture.

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear. ~ Mark Twain
If your problems become to much to stand, kneel…
When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.
Dreams get you started; Discipline keeps you going
Mountaineers leave caches of food at strategic places to be used if in danger or a blizzard. We need memories as “caches: to strengthen us when we are drained.

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass… It’s about learning to dance in the rain.
A good example has twice the value of good advice…
“Clouds Move” ~ an old Norse saying
Stop saving your tomorrows, because they soon will become yesterdays…

Wisdom is knowing the right path to take… Integrity is taking it.
Problems are nothing but wake up calls for creativity.
If your day is hemmed in prayer, it is less likely to unravel.
The longer we follow the right path, the easier it becomes.
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of it’s troubles. It empties today of its strength…

To imagine is everything… To know is nothing at all…
Just one person can change the rest of your life…
It takes guts to leave the ruts!
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it… If you can dream it, you can become it…

What I hear I forget. What I see I remember. What I do, I know.
Nothing good was ever achieved without enthusiasm. ~ Ralph W. Emerson
Happiness is a Choice, not a Response.
No matter how often we say money doesn’t bring happiness, we’re always ready to give it another chance.
Yesterday has past. Tomorrow has yet to come. Today is a Gift. That’s why it’s called the Present.

Adversity causes some people to break; others to break records.
Each day comes bearing its own gifts. Untie the ribbons.
Gratitude is Heaven itself. ~ William Blake
Life itself can’t really give you joy unless you really will it. Life just gives you time and space. It’s up to you to fill it.

Life isn’t a matter of milestones, but of moments…
There is more to life that increasing its speed. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
The best way out is always through. ~ Robert Frost
The world always looks brighter from behind a smile…
Freedom is a state of mind ~ not freedom from something

Here finally is an example of another quilt our quilt-maker made.

Top side (graphical design)
Quilt top side

Flip side (seashore theme)
quilt,shells,seashore

So here's today's query...

Do you have someone in your circle of friends and/or family that produces art or food or gifts that really seem special to you?

Are you known among your peeps for something that you do or something that you make?

What special talent or gift do you wish was in the midst of your family and friends?


Currently reading:
The Year of Living Biblically: One Man's Humble Quest to Follow the Bible as Literally as Possible
By A. J. Jacobs
BellaDonna

 
I have friends who are photographers, writers, musicians, and artists. One person made a lovely drawing for me for my birthday, and you just reminded me that I need to get it framed. I can do hand-coloring on B&W photographs, but I'm not sure how many of my friends even know that. I would like to hear a certain friend sing and play his guitar for me when he gets a chance, but he's been busy.

Thanks for sharing these beautiful quilts with us. I also enjoyed the quotes.
xo
 
Posted by BellaDonna on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:38 AM
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Mark

 
Hi Donna,  Here on MySpace you seem to me to be almost of vortex of creative people, because you are so creative and everyone is drawn to you.  You’ve certainly inspired me on occasion.  I suspect the same is true in your life outside of MySpace.  A drawing for your birthday sounds like a special gift indeed. 
 
I’ve heard about the hand-colored black and white photography before, but I don’t think I’ve seen an example.  Maybe a blog topic for you? 
 
I have a feeling your guitar playing friend will eventually give you that gift (ever so humble as it may be :~).


 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:20 PM
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Jana
Jana Douglass

 
I love quilts.  My grandmother made some, but she sewed all kinds of things.  My Mom loves to cook.  I wish I could do both, or better yet make the time to do something like the quilt that is handed down as an heirloom.  The autograph quilt was beautiful. Thanks for sharing!
 
Posted by Jana on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:47 AM
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Mark

 
Hey Jana, Thanks for dropping by.  Cooking, sewing and quilting in your blood line.  You can’t go wrong there. The heirloom quilt idea sounds like a great project. 

You also reminded me that I have another friend who sews, but she doesn’t happen to quilt.  She has made me all kinds of things over the years.  My favorite gift from her was a set of hand-made tote bags for my kayaking adventures.



 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:34 PM
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♪♪Kev®

 
These quilts are simply beautiful. You know I love the quotes.

Thanks Mark. This was great!



 
Posted by ♪♪Kev® on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:49 AM
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Mark

 
Thanks Kev, Glad I could add a little art to your life today.  :>)  ~m

 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:44 PM
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-slj

 
MY friend and colleague Brian.  He plays amazing guitar.

It's always an honor and a pleasure to go to the local music store in Vienna and listen to him test drive guitars.  I offer to drive and pay for the fuel, or a beer at the end of the trip.  It's like my own cover charge.  I introduced him last June, and he inspires me to take up the bass.

Concerts for One



 
Posted by -slj on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 6:08 AM
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Mark

 
Hey that’s a very cool friend to have.  I wish I was so good on guitar as to inspire my friends like that.  After all, I need more beer!  But really even a good folk guitar strummer can be a joy at a party.  Yet another way to give the gift of music.  You know, I have to say, if you have a good buddy who’s that clever on the guitar, taking up the bass could be quite cool.  You guys could jam  together and he could give you tons of “accidental” lessons along the way.  Of course you will face one risk, and that is that you’ll struggle to pay attention to what you’re playing for listening to what he’s playing!  Really, that can happen with great players like he sounds to be.  Good luck!

Markus

 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:38 PM
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ARTISTIC, by NATURE

 
Thank you so much for sharing these lovely quilts. That is one of the arts I haven't tried yet. But I plan to. I have a box full of squares made from my late mother in laws gardening shirts. I plan on making a quilt for my husband with these squares. I have always wanted to try one. And I will!
 
Posted by ARTISTIC, by NATURE on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 6:36 AM
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Mark

 
I was just part of a charity project making quilts for the homeless for one long day (yesterday).  We made 82 quilts.  I was a flipper, the person who takes the inside-out quilt and turns it outside-out.  Then I would pin all the edges so that the sewer (the zigger) would be able sew without concern that the batting had shifted or lumped along the edges.  That said, during the course of the day, I managed to do every single job – even sewing.  I broke three needles.  Is that bad??  My friend helped me and she was very patient with my “guyness.”  Anyway, I would love to learn to quilt and when I have a clear shot at doing it, I’m going to take it up.  I know all the mechanics of it now, but the art of creating the pattern in the “top” can be very complicated and that I would need to study. 

Were you thinking of making the quilts out of the squares throughout?  Perhaps with a border around the whole thing?  That you could easily learn from the Internet, I’m sure.  Of course you need a reasonably capable sewing machine too.  Or you could take a general quilting class at a fabric shop and do your project there. Either way, good luck!

Markus



 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:39 PM
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Colleen
Colleen Sperry

 
thank you so much for sharing.. these quilts are amazing.. the love is clearly sewn in each stitch!  
 
Posted by Colleen on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 7:11 AM
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Mark

 
Hi Colleen.  It’s a pleasure to share with you and thanks for dropping by.  Yes, I thought the quilts were lovely and these are but a tiny sample of what she’s done over the many years.  If you knew her, you’d see that “love in every stitch” is so true. 


 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:39 PM
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mia

 
This may sound funny, but I bake rum cakes (I only have 1 oven) so when I make five or six rum cakes I have to wait for the oven to cool inbetween.  Every one loves my rum cake and I make it and surprize each person with one whole one.  Thats what I do and it makes me happy.
 
Posted by mia on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 9:43 AM
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Mark

 
Rum cakes work for me.  :>)  I think it’s great to have a trademark gift like that.  For one thing it’s a way of sharing love, but it’s also a sense of tradition and connectedness that everyone in your realm experiences together.  Very cool.


 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:41 PM
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B-u-x

 
Mark, you may be a new friend, but I already appreciate your thought provoking blogs ;-)  This one just succeeded in making me think of each and every one of the good people in my life and what it is they do that 'adds' to my existence...I hope I give something back to them.  Beautiful quilts by the way.

Bx
 
Posted by B-u-x on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 11:08 AM
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Mark

 
Thanks Bux.  Your comment reflects on the blog in precisely the way that I hoped people would read it. it.  People ‘add’ to our lives.  We are all artists of some kind.  There are so many ways to give and to love.  And there are so many ways that we are loved.  And by the way, you just added to my life :>)


 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:42 PM
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mia

 
I'm back reading again...this is a beautiful blog.  Thank you for sharing with all of us.  I couldn't get my mind off your writing.
 
Posted by mia on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 1:03 PM
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Mark

 
Aww… shucks.  You gifted me with a double reading.  :>)  Thanks!


 
Posted by Mark on Sunday, May 31, 2009 - 5:42 PM
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~Susan~
Suz Rocks

 
Oh wow!! Loved the quote quilt! My mother crochets and does some beautiful work.  My father is a musician like myself.  A lot of my friends enjoy some fiction I have written and I guess I'm known for that.  I do wish I was a better musician and writer, though.  I am my own worst critic and I'm always striving to do better.  My best friend has become somewhat famous for her finger puppets.  She sells them on etsy and has been published in several mags...etc... it's an amazing craze she's started, check out her work here: http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=6084105
 
Posted by ~Susan~ on Monday, June 01, 2009 - 3:42 AM
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Mark

 
Hey Susan, I think we both have admitted to being our own worst critics.  But I’ve read several of your things, one of them an extended non-fiction, and certainly you can write.  I would love to read some of your fiction pieces too.  I don’t think I’ve seen any of those yet.  I did also go look at the finger puppets sites and she’s definitely got something going on there.  Cool how she can convey what makes people look like themselves with just a finger puppet.  I can see how she’s gen’d some buzz.  (And based on her myspace page she’s got interesting taste in music ;~)  Thanks for the link. 

 
Posted by Mark on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 5:14 AM
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~Susan~
Suz Rocks

 
Here's a link to a very short fiction piece I wrote on the group site: http://blogs.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendId=470985884&blogId=490250792
I lost a lot of my "novels" in hurricane katrina :( I have very little left to share these days and trying to reubild my collection... ugh!
 
Posted by ~Susan~ on Wednesday, June 03, 2009 - 1:29 AM
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Mary Ellen

 
I have to tell you some of those quilts brought tears to my eyes. Some people sew- your friend creates- and beautifully. I have been blessed to know many artists. Artists of the word, painters, quilters musicians... I am blessed that my talent is the talent of appreciation. I truly love and appreciate the talent of others. I would love to write well, I think- and quilt- and...so many things. sigh.

 
Posted by Mary Ellen on Monday, June 01, 2009 - 11:09 AM
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Mark

 
I'm glad you liked the quilt, truly.  Giving the gift of receiving.  It’s a beautiful thing.  Sincere appreciation is what every artist craves.  And there’s more to it too, because while some people go off and create elaborate artifacts, other people give smaller gifts that let them stay more present in the lives of others.  It’s (as they say) all good …  Oh and one last thing – I just snuck over to your blog and YOU CAN WRITE.  Nice stuff.  :>)

 
Posted by Mark on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 5:17 AM
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Copernicus

 
My Grandmother was a quilter and pajama maker.  She would use the leftovers from the pj's to make her quilts.  So since she had so many grandsons the quilts were usually made with Santa'a or baseball players for the grandsons and with remnants of dress material for the adult quilts.  I had one of her adult quilts which I received at age 21 that I used until threadbare.  My brother's is still pristine and hangs on a quilt rack.  Go figure.  Who do you think had more enjoyment.  Quilts were meant to be used in my book.

Oh, I make my peeps laugh.  I've been doing it for years with impersonations of people and my silly sense of humor.  And how are you doing Mr Mark?  Long time no see;-)

 
Posted by Copernicus on Monday, June 01, 2009 - 2:32 PM
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Mark

 
Now a pajama maker in the family would just have to be cool.  And baseball player quilts would certainly rock!  :>)  That’s funny that she worked with pajama fabric, but it makes perfect sense.  You definitely made use of your quilt as I’m guessing your Grandmother had in mind, and that’s the way that I am too.  I put quilts on my bed.  Although just the same, it’s nice that your brother has served as a quilt curator – keeping a memory of Grandmother’s quilting days well preserved.
 
And yes, I can imagine that you bless the family with your humor and are known for it.  :>)

Thanks!  ~m

 
Posted by Mark on Wednesday, June 03, 2009 - 2:52 AM
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Bob
Bob Daalder

 
Hi Mark, this is a great blog. It gives me a kind of 'Chrismas feel'. It makes me realize more that every single person in my life has some kind of meaning with me. They add special 'things' to it, not only material, and that is probably why these persons are into my life.
Almost every day, when I'm about to go to work, I write my wife a little message just to let her know that I love her. Maybe it's not art in a common way but it's art to us...
 
Posted by Bob on Monday, June 01, 2009 - 5:44 PM
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Mark

 
Hey Bob, I like the story about your notes to your wife.  That is absolutely the spirit of creative love-gifting I’m talking about.  The thing that each person brings into the circle does NOT have to be tangible.  I guess I would say that to fit my blog, the “gift” should be something the person is known for.  In one relationship I was “known” with my girlfriend for my bedtime stories.  She used to practically beg for them like a little kid.  I’m sure your wife anticipates your notes and really likes getting them.  Thanks, by the way, for dropping in and commenting.

 
Posted by Mark on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 5:20 AM
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Wayfaring Panda

 
Those are beautiful quilts: I hope the friend's husband gets better. It must be nice to see so many people "signing" it with those quotations. I have no special gift of my own, but I do have a friend who has a touching habit of buying presents for people when they're feeling down. When one mutual friend went through a relationship breakdown, he coordinated all of us to buy separate presents for her. It was very sweet.
 
Posted by Wayfaring Panda on Monday, June 01, 2009 - 7:54 PM
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Mark

 
Ha!  You have no special gift of your own?!  Come on, don’t be shy.  I LOVE your stories, even if I’ve been absent from reading of late.  Of course MySpace sharing IS different from sharing with family and close real world friends.  It’s funny because I have a few talented people in my immediate midst, but very few these days who write.  I make of for that shortage with MySpace.  And yes about the gift-giver friend.  I have a sister who is like that.  She always sees where the tribe needs to show a little love and gets us coordinated.  Very cool.

 
Posted by Mark on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 5:21 AM
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@--->--§ Dana §--<---@

 
These are lovely! I did.....it was my grandmother---she didnt quilt but she croched and made most of the female families special occasion dresses: Prom, wedding, banquets etc. One year she made us all "special" dressy made for a queen jackets/coats. She also was the family cook. Everything southern she could do---I miss her fried potatoe still. She use to make home made tamales in buck. Throw hillybily tea parts. An her house was surrounded by at least 50 flower beds she even maintained with cancer the last years of her life. I just adored her. She is irreplaceable.
 
Posted by @--->--§ Dana §--<---@ on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 12:40 AM
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Mark

 
I hear about the people of generations gone by and how they did so much on their own like sewing, crocheting, cooking, gardening, and on and on, and I wish that people today could fit that into their lives just for their own sanity and (as the blog says) to show a little love.  It is good to be connected to people through bits of creativity. 
 
Your grandmother sounds like a woman full of character and lots of love.  And yes, she does seem irreplaceable; but the love is all still there.  The times have changed but we’re all people inside.  And you grandmother’s spirit is right here in your comment. 
 

 
Posted by Mark on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 5:23 AM
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Cyndi Dawson (of Dawson/Scott) wordrocker!!

 
(I also love quilts) and these were beautiful and heartfelt pieces.

I hang out mostly with musicians so for me, sharing their gigs, songs, cds, gifts and talents is extremely communal to me.


 
Posted by Cyndi Dawson (of Dawson/Scott) wordrocker!! on Tuesday, June 02, 2009 - 8:38 PM
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Mark

 
You're sort of immersed in a circle of friends with talent.  And of course you're one of those people ~ sharing the love with your poems.  I must say I envy you being in a circle of friends who are all creative.  Of course all people are creative and love sharing in their own way, but some people are "driven" to be creative.  I like being around such people, and it seems you've accomplished that.  What a great commune!  ~m

 
Posted by Mark on Thursday, June 04, 2009 - 3:02 PM
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Glenice

 
I don't think you've added me as a friend yet; am i allowed to add a comment?
I, too, am a quilter, although my thoughts are more in the fabric than the words. But these are lovely quilts and also lovingly made. How is the friend's husband? Better news I hope.
My quilts have memories sewn into them, with the material - my late mother's dress, my sister's first own-made skirt from school, material that made me a cuddly toy etc... They are soooo comforting - curling up in bed when you feel down, with a cup of tea, and looking at all the pieces of fabric and letting memories come back when you look at each piece of material...
 
Posted by Glenice on Wednesday, June 03, 2009 - 1:31 AM
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Mark

 
Hi Glenice, Thanks for dropping by.  Of course anyone can comment as my blogs are completely open. And it's very nice to get an actual quilter here commenting.  Perhaps you should blog some photos of your quilts.  That would be cool.  Your comments, by the way, were very poignant.  When you talk about quilting, you bring in the history, the memories, of the fabrics used in the quilts.  That's really "stitching life together" isn't it?  I was thinking about that very idea when I titled this blog.  Of course the sharing of art stiches our ongoing lives together so there's a double entendre. A quilt when made from fabrics we've used connects use to our own lives too.  Like Scott above whose grandmother made him quilts from his pajamas.  :>)  Please, Glenice, drop by any time.

Markus


 
Posted by Mark on Thursday, June 04, 2009 - 6:48 PM
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Glenice

 
I will have to add a photo of one of my quilts. I don't do the snazzy well-dsigned quilts like you've included in the photos in your blog, although they are completely beautiful. Especially the shell one. But I think those take a lot more design and planning. But they are done by machine, aren't they?
No, mine are done entirely by hand!! Every stitch!! I make them from scratch, from squares of material, some are just scraps!
This evening I have been doing something similar, in terms of retrieving old bits of material... I am making "bunting" (rather than buying it at vast and impersonal expense) to have at our camp pitch at the Glastonbury Festival (- I'm working there in order to get a free ticket, I'm so lucky to just live about 5 miles from the festival, and I can't wait to see Bruce Springsteen!!) - anyway, I thought I would decorate our little cluster of tents (and also help us to find them) with some hand-made bunting - so this evening I've been cutting out triangles of fabric from my big box of old bits of material. I got quite distracted; nearly every piece brought back a whole flood of memories that I could describe quite well! And the best bit of material that I found was a blue-ish/purple-ish piece of patterned material that I recognised; my mum was wearing this in a very old photo (black and white) where she is holding me as a small baby - I'm now 42!!!! How amazing is that - the material is 40 years old and it's still brightly coloured! So I will happily attach that to the bunting, and when I see it later this month around our tents I will think of my mum holding me in the back garden as a baby!
You can't get much better than that for memories evoked by "art" in my book!!!!

 
Posted by Glenice on Friday, June 05, 2009 - 12:52 AM
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Mark

 
Thanks for this account.  It's fascinating to think the fabric sort of parallels your life to land in your creative hands today. ~m

 
Posted by Mark on Saturday, June 06, 2009 - 3:13 AM
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Byron Getonefree
Byron Getonefree

 
Only just seen that Mark. So beautiful... thanks for sharing it.

Byron

 
Posted by Byron Getonefree on Monday, July 27, 2009 - 4:12 PM
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Mark

 
Hey Byron, thanks for dropping by.  I agree the quilts are gorgeous.  I think that when I settle down (back in Seattle soon), I'm going to take up quilting myself.  I guess we'll see if I have any knack for it anyway. ~m
 
Posted by Mark on Monday, July 27, 2009 - 10:21 PM
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Dawn
Dawn Carpenter

 
Absolutely beautiful quilts and a wonderful collection of inspirational thought provoking sayings!  I am the artist in my world.

 
Posted by Dawn on Tuesday, August 18, 2009 - 11:46 AM
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