He's Saved...But is He For Real?

Reading Group Questions

The following questions are designed to enhance a group discussion in regards to the novel, He'sSaved...But is He For Real? By Kimberley Brooks (sequel to, He's Fine...But is He Saved?). Each question is followed by suggested
Scriptures which are meant to aid in answering the questions.

1. Michelle can't make up her mind regarding who should be her man – Pierre or David? What should be the determining factor in regards to choosing the right man of God?
   (Matthew 12:33, Matthew 26:41, 2 Corinthians 6:14)
   

   
   

2. Sandy ends up on a string of bad dates and then finds herself in the arms of forbidden fruit. Do you feel Sandy's actions are justified since, technically, he wasn't dating her friend at the time? Does Sandy have a right to go after who she believes is the best catch?
   (Matthew 7:12, James 1:4)
   

3. Once Michelle discovers Sandy's indiscretion, she initially cuts her off. Should she have done this? (Galatians 6:1, Proverbs 17:17)
   

4. By the end of the novel, Liz discovers the root of her bitterness towards men. How important is it to forgive others who have wronged you in the past? (Mark 11:25-26, Romans 5:5)
   
   

5. Liz suspects her man of God is cheating on her. Did you believe she handled it correctly? (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)
   

6. One of Sandy's many dates in the novel involved a man who told her, “God said you were my wife.” Should a woman consent to man's discovery and marry a man like this, just because he said God told him she was the one? (Genesis 24: 5-8)
   
   

7. Sandy also dated a pastor. She thought if she could present herself as the meek, submissive image of a pastor's wife that she could nab him to be his next “First Lady.” How important is it for you to be your true self while dating other men, irregardless of their title?
   (2 Corinthians 13:5a, Matthew 12:34)
   
   

8. A key theme in the sequel is forgiveness. Michelle forgives Sandy. Liz forgives her father.  Sandy forgives men in general. How important is it for believers to walk in forgiveness? Is it possible to walk in forgiveness and love with those who have wronged you in the past?
   (Matthew 6:14-15, Romans 5:8, Ephesians 5:1)

9. Sandy feels she needs a man in order to be happy and feel good about herself. Is it possible to be happy without having a man on your arm?
   (Colossians 2:10, Nehemiah 8:10, 1 Corinthians 7:32)
   

10. Michelle and Liz decide to confront Sandy and Pierre at Pierre's home. Was this a good idea?  Can you make people do the right thing? What should have been done in this scenario?
    (Matthew 5:44; Ephesians 1:16-18)