Ok first of all this will be my last blog here, I am starting a real blog on wordpress, LOL. I opened an account on wordpress some time ago but havent made use of it yet, so its time:) I will prolly copy and paste a few blogs from here to get started, but from now on I will just post a link on here each time I blog on wordpress. Ok so the link for my wordpress is...um shoot what is it? LOL

http://kimberlyprendez.wordpress.com/ ok I think thats it.

The other night I was watching the Bachelor (yes, I am addicted and Jason is not too bad to look at), it was down to last 3 girls, Melissa (whom I love), Molly (not a big fan) and um whats her name, seriously I just forgot her name, we will call her girl # 3. Girl # 3 kept telling Jason how she wants to Marry her best friend, when youre 80 years old thats what matters, that you are with your best friend. She kept saying it so much and the whole time I'm thinking, no no I want a lover, I have best friends and although they are great, I dont need to marry them! LOL. I just think you need to be lovers in the marriage first. If you lack passion then all you are left with is a friend, maybe a best friend. So now you are living with a friend, not a husband or wife.

I believe "we" get stuck in this whole status quo thing "oh marry your best friend and you will live happily ever after." No, I think marry someone who you are very passionate about because they will most likely naturally have qualities of a best friend. Isnt the whole idea of Marriage to have a life partner, to make love all the time, to be intimate, to share everything, make babies (if you wish) ok so um I dont do any of those things with my best friend, LOL. My best friend is a person who I can not see for a year and we get together and it is as if nothing has changed, time has not gone by, um I want to see my husband every day:)

I understand marrying someone who you can be friends with but I dont think that should be the most important thing. I mean duh if I have passion with/for you I automatically also like you as a friend. However, if I like you as a great friend does not mean I am going to have that passion with you, the passion that it takes to keep a marriage alive.

Ok so I have never been married so maybe I am talking about what I want, passion. I think being married can be a wonderful thing if both people are aiming for just about the same idea of what marriage is for them. I want a man to feel passionate about me, to look at me and want to be intimate with me not look at me and just wanna hang out like I'm a buddy! LOL. No, I dont want to sit and watch the game and no I dont want you to sit and watch the Bachelor with me, I want to watch it with my "friends" ha ha. Really, if he was into it he would be more than welcome to watch anything with me, just trying to make a point here.

Needless to say my wonderful Jason The Bachelor wants passion so he let girl # 3 go.

Oh let me give you an example...I have a friend her and her man have been together for years, kids, the whole thing. When they are intimate on a regular basis things are so great for them in the relationship and when they are not, things are bad. Sure they are friends but thats all but eventually without the passion they begin to not even be friends anymore....so uh I think that says it all. You need passion before you think of heading down that aisle then its up to you to keep the passion alive:) I suppose thats where all the work comes in, atleast thats what "they" say. If your passionate about something though it shouldnt feel like work, right? Like Jerry Seinfeld said "oh those people are just lazy" when asked about marriage being described as a lot of work.

Your thoughts are welcomed, please leave a comment:) hey I may be heading down that aisle one day I need info people.