After feeling drained and exhausted, I decided to lighten up and go have some cocktails with my good friend Rock'n Roll Cherry.  She had had a bad week too, so it all started with the usual bitching and sipping Maragaritas untill alcohol kicked in and we were both feeling more relaxed to discuss our main topic : Coming in bed.
I have been researching a bit on this and as I mentionned in my last blog, I discovered this webpage (paying but there are some free previews) www.beautifulagony.com  It is a very interresting webpage as it is only videos of men and women coming.  Where it gets hot, it is that the person filming only focuses the camera on their face, no body parts. Just pure expression of pleasure on their face.  Now, ok we can all think that these are actors, but that is beside the point as the bottom line is to encourage lust by suggesting pleasure. 
It was freshening to see these little movies as it was for once not usual porn with hard bodies, hard dicks, hard fucks, overexagerated gender actors (super males with huge dicks and huge boobed, long nailed women).  Sometimes I find these porn movies tiring as not only they present sex as a very competitive action, to not say an unreachable sex life style (I don't know you, but after being fucked in the ass for one hour, first I get bored, and second, my ass gets irritated.  Rock'n Roll Cherry confirmed it was the same for girls and their vagina).  And there we know they are all actors and that they fake.  And the whole story about men not being able to fake is totally untrue as by personal experience, I already faked an orgasm to get rid of the guy I was having sex with just to have him out of my bed, it just takes a bit of synchronisation and the good gestures at the good moment....
The bottom line is that the mainstream porn industry does not help creativity, and just promotes oldfashioned, boring sex models, and their scenarios suck most of the time. There isn't real research of pleasure.

Now, to go back to orgasm, Rock'nRoll Cherry had some good stories to talk about.  She explained me that after having had some tough moments in her life, lately she had been enjoying orgasms of great intensity, she felt on top of the world.  Before it was sometimes a bit hard to come, now that she was feeling better overall and less modest when it comes to sex, she had discovered as a good girl the joy of multiple orgasms, with her boyfriend or without him, with or without toys. Basically, she discovered that coming was a natural mood elevator, and she was planning to keep on working on that...  When I asked her to describe an orgasm, she told me she had the feeling to be pure life and energy when coming.  But this where it got tricky for me because talking about orgasm is as a matter of fact a bit intimate.  When I asked the same question to some of my male friends, they were all blushing and had some difficulties to describe it in terms of emotions but where more explicit in terms of biology.  This is how I discovered that there were three types of physical coming for men : you have the "athletic" type, they come all over themselves, yourselves, the bed sheets and if they are in a good mood you can have some on your walls. They are fantastic for the ego, as it is so flaterring to see them coming everywhere.  You have the "mashed potatoes"  type, great to see them coming when watching the face but a bit disapointing when watching their dick, they just put it all over their hands.  And you have the "clean boy" type, they always come in the area of the stomach, the face expression is perfect and they're easy to clean.  The Perfect Come.

I was thinking about that while preparing some spaghettis for lunch, why is an orgasm difficult to describe?  Because it touches the most intimate part of yourself, because when you come everything that makes who you are, your life experience, your pains, your losses and your joys, is released in a perfect moment of time and space where you exist as a life.  When you come, the very core of your personality is exposed and becomes available. And this does not need to be described.  It needs to be felt and lived.

Spaghettis con Pomodorini e Basilico

-400 grams of spaghettis
-200 grams fo baby tomatoes
-Olive oil
-2 cloves of garlic
-Thyme
-Sugar
-Parmesan cheese or Pecorino

Another easy recipe, here.  Take the baby tomatoes, cut them in half, spread olive oil, thyme, chopped garlic and sugar (a spoon is enough) on top.  Pass them into the hoven for 30 minutes at 200°c.  When ready, cook your spaghettis "al dente", mix with the tomatoes.  Put in the plates, and add on top some chopped basilicum.  Spread some gratted cheese (parmesan or pecorino).  Drink a Red Corvo.  If you can, try one of the "Duca di Salaparuta" produced ones.  And listen to some of the good mixes of Max_M.

And then make yourself and your partner come, and come, and come...