I decided to post this as a blog due to the responses and inquiries I received in regard to this bulletin. This entry is actually a response I sent to a young lady on Myspace that go's by the name of Meek(she is on our friend's list). This message was posted as a blog unbeknownst to me by a member of the Jwork Team, and that has brought us here. So read and feel free to leave a comment or send me a message with your response or opinion on the subject.

Women, in my opinion have misdirected anger, which manifest itself onto black men. Now don't get me wrong, men have done our fair share of thoughtless actions that have made us an apt target. Men are stewards of mankind, so in an abstract sense women feel let down. It is too easy for a man to be selfish and in doing so he negates his responsibiliy to woman. Women are in a position nowadays where their fathers and brothers are in jail, or struggling, or unemployed, or seperated from their families, or.......who knows where. They feel through no fault of their own that they now have to fight for themselves, and in the midst of learning how to fight, they learn to apply that inadvertently, and to react, to lash out in an unexpected situation. And to add fuel to flame, they haven't had the benefit of a father's guidance and love. By the time they are in their mid to late 20's they have achieved a level of success and independence and have learned the harsh truth that they can depend on no one but themselves, but they haven't lost the anger and they haven't lost the hope.
Let's get one thing straight from point A. There is no such thing as a no good man or woman. Who among us has figured the absolute truth. Who can answer that almighty question?(you know...the purpose of life). Every man and every woman is simply a product of their own life, learnings, and experience. Our main faults would be a complete lack of communication and an inadequate focus on priority. Point to remember, our emotions and our reactions to those emotions are as different as the organs between our legs. Meaning? Stop expecting men to be women and vice versa.(that's why this whole homosexual thing has gotten out of hand, but that's next weeks topic). Women, are simply guarded. A woman's rationality, in general, is based on her emotion, or her heart. She will make decisions based on her feelings and often come up wrong. How do you stop being wrong, you stop opening up your heart. So when she calls a man no good, what she means is that her decision making is flawed. Here her heart is still in the way of her head. Change is absolutely needed, just not where it is being applied. Women, in my opinion, need to be more realistic in the characteristics they want from a man, or more accurately they should actually acknowledge what their own specific needs are. Next they should acknowledge what are the sacrifices that come with those characteristics, both within her and within the prospective man. Finally they should practice patience and prayer in achieving this goal......and it is a goal. The natural course of life is to share it with another, a person of the opposite sex. So women stop saying "I don't need no man", and stop listening to your girlfriends who don't have a man and are bitter because they can't keep one, a person not in a relationship most likely has quite a bit of learning to do especially if she is angry about it.
Men, are different. Our rationality is a product of an equation, a subconscious drive toward a subconscious desire. While we may not always seem to know what we do want, we always know what we don't want. Men need to focus more on compromise, communication and reciprocation. A man will do anything in his power to get what he wants, and his mind will help him rationalize his drive. What we have to stay aware of is the truth of a situation, and how it will effect the parties involved. Men are nature's, or excuse me, God's, caretakers. Like it or not, stewardship was given to Man. We have to embrace responsibility in all facets of the word. Especially when it comes to our women. The other thing men have become burdened with is the notion that you are wrong or no good if you leave a woman or break her heart. Every heart has been or will be broken, so ladies, get over it. A man is not a bad man because he doesn't want you. Men, we need to identify when a relationship is not meant to be and clarify it's nature at that point. A relationship is a paradox, while you are in it the ability for it to become painful only increases, when you are out of it the healing begins instantly. The longer you are in a bad one, the longer it will take to get over it, and what does that mean for the next man? He has to deal with a bitter woman or the confusion from dealing with the wrong woman. So for us that means we can't keep her around because she has a good job, or she looks good on your arm, or because you still want to hit it. Women outnumber us 11 to 1 and the odds are getting better. Also we need to know that being a man has nothing to do with how cool our peers or our family think we are. Being a man breaks down to one point of view, that of your woman and your children. Keeping in mind that no woman has full knowledge of everything she needs, and sometimes saying no will actually have her saying yes, there should be nothing you will not do for your woman. No night with the boys, no football game, no double time pay, no mother-in-need, no other human being should come before your woman. And woman should be mindful not to exploit this point because your job is also to take care of your man.
That being said, in the world we live in today, a man does have to prove himself, right or wrong a considerate and patient man is hard to find and only exhibiting patience and consideration can prove that you possess those traits. But patience is a virtue, as much as it is a 2 way street....

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