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	Patrick J.	I am me, there is a great level of self absorption and introspection in that, but I like it. If we do not know and love ourselves how can we love our neighbor? How can we improve the world?   Posted by Patrick J. on Saturday, March 08, 2008 - 5:25 PM [Reply to this]

	Denial Is Just A Mild Syndrome David Stelle	I fully agree. Even if something wonderful floats into our lives for just a moment, only to be wisked back out, as long as it made you smile or warmed your heart, I believe it was worth it.   Posted by Denial Is Just A Mild Syndrome on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:22 AM [Reply to this]

	Wabbit Twacks	Jump and the net will appear... I love that.. I just wish I had enough faith in that invisible net. Being so scientific I have the habit of wanting to control this experiment we call life.. and decipher it.. only resently have I gained the perspective of enjoying the mystery and not Needing to solve the unknown.. Life IS the unknown.. while the past is known and dead. Jump and the net will appear So where or when have you jumped Before seeing any net? just curious   Posted by Wabbit Twacks on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:16 AM [Reply to this]

		It sounds like your really becoming a complete women:)))   Posted by on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:16 AM [Reply to this]

	Kevin	I absolutely agree that everything happens for a reason, and like you, I try to be open to new experiences, never quite knowing where they're going to lead. Rather than being fatalistic, I believe it makes life more exciting. I don't think it's wrong or inapporpriate to put your hand in the mix. You have to live your life with integrity, and if the new experience goes against what you fundamentally know is right, then you have an obligation to say, "wait a minute..." And who knows, you might be the "reason things happen" for the other side of the coin. Good post, Aria! Kevin   Posted by Kevin on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:19 AM [Reply to this]

	_	I don’t buy into fatalism, although it’s an attractive concept. I believe you can definitely learn from your experiences and some experiences are meant to be.. for our own growth and betterment. I just don’t believe all events are pre-destined. I’ll keep my hand in the pot. I really enjoy reading your musings.   Posted by _ on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:43 AM [Reply to this]

	draiocht	Sounds like you're running in lots of directions. Though yes, some things don't make sense on the surface, it's always good to find one's own place and reason in them. :> Maybe I'm just the cautious sort, but I'm oft making my own nets before I jump; all the same, gotta make that jump to truly be living!   Posted by draiocht on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:57 AM [Reply to this]

	ZORAK	It is a "LEAP OF FAITH". You are really growing into your own.   Posted by ZORAK on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:59 AM [Reply to this]

	pato Patricio Alvarez	I fully agree thak for u words. i will learn to be open to new experiences. my motto to live is " The lie most big of the world is 'just the little tip, I promise you, just the little tip' "   Posted by pato on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 1:02 AM [Reply to this]

	ZORAK	It is a "LEAP OF FAITH". You are really growing into your own.   Posted by ZORAK on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 1:02 AM [Reply to this]

	THIS ACCOUNT IS NO MORE!!!!!!!!	NICE BLOG!   Posted by THIS ACCOUNT IS NO MORE!!!!!!!! on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 1:06 AM [Reply to this]

	LobotoMe aka, Neil	“If we listened to our intellect, we'd never have a love affair. We'd never have a friendship. We'd never go into business, because we'd be cynical. Well, that's nonsense. You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down.” ~ Ray Bradbury : ) ~ Neil OXOX   Posted by LobotoMe aka, Neil on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 1:06 AM [Reply to this]

	Jimmy Jimmy W	Aria yup thats it! Just enjoy the ride & one day it'll be over & hopefully you're not going to realize it bcz you're just happy! BUt you're hapy whether its traveling or not it seems which is good! Just live it & enjoy! xoxoxo Jimmy   Posted by Jimmy on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 1:44 AM [Reply to this]

	R-Three	I've come to the conclusion that no one has my best interests at heart like I do, which makes me uniquely qualified to determine my own fate, does it not? However, I've also come to realize that no matter how smart I am, no matter how smart anyone is, no one gets all the good ideas, or all the gifts. This becomes harder to remember and surrender to, the more successful I am. And it's hard to reconcile these two disparate ideals. One suggests, I surrender to my inner control freak while the other suggests I listen to the will of the universe. The crazy thing is, they're both correct. The world isn't in our individual control. We aren't even in complete control of ourselves. But does that mean we completely let go? As an exercise, it's an interesting thing to do but in practice, I don't think it's practical. I think the magic trick is to get a sense of what the tide is doing and to guide our actions so they don't fight against the tide, which is useless, but make use of the tide. In the last 4 years, I've lost 7 friends and 1 parent, two dogs and a cat. No, really. Each case was different but I can't help but see there's a pattern. Not in the losses to death but the ends of the friendships. I don't know what that means or says about me as a person. It's made me more closed off, that's for sure. But it's also made me think long and hard about what each person brought to my life and how I benefited from the experience. I know, everyone has advice. Get down with Jesus, meditate, do Yoga, go party, stop partying... the list is endless. I don't have any advice but I can tell you that I think this book is pretty amazing: http://www.amazon.com/General-Theory-Love-Thomas-Lewis/dp/0375709223 It is actually based in science but not bound by science. It's not a complete belief system but it's good stuff to know about how the brain actually works, and how we make connections. From the few snippets of conversation I've had with you, I think you'd get some value out of it. Some of it's pretty technical but then, I imagine you'd enjoy that too. Best always.   Posted by R-Three on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 2:26 AM [Reply to this]

	R-Three	ps: I don't think there's a reason or a plan. But there *are* patterns made from our actions and consequences.   Posted by R-Three on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 2:29 AM [Reply to this]

	Jennifer Jennifer Longoria	This is the coolest thing i've heard in a long time. Thank you for sharing it.   Posted by Jennifer on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 2:48 AM [Reply to this]

	Johann (L - CA)	You hit the nail on the head... Even if you didn't realize it: Let it go... Let life run its course. It all happens for a reason, even if the reason isn't obvious while it happens... or even if it isn't obvious right after it happens. As Steven King once wrote, "Everything's Eventual". At some point, something will trigger a memory... and you'll slap your forehead and say, "OH YEAH! Now i get it" Blessed Be, Aria =)   Posted by Johann (L - CA) on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 5:22 AM [Reply to this]

	JUSTIN SANE	Excellent motto. Words to live by. Perfect.   Posted by JUSTIN SANE on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 10:09 AM [Reply to this]

	*☆*GiOrGiA*☆*	you're so right Aria... we only have one life and we gotta live it as best as we can with no regret... everything happens for a reason... i love you   Posted by *☆*GiOrGiA*☆* on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 12:17 PM [Reply to this]

	Chris	To quote a famous man "Dream as if you will live forever, live as if you will die today."   Posted by Chris on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 2:29 PM [Reply to this]

	ercllkk	I think that's very eloquent of you, Aria. The world is such a small place in the grand scope of things, and it's best to see as much of it as you can before you pass on in this world. People will always come and go, but this world we live in will stay forever, so it would be a waste of space if we didn't travel to as many different places as we can. =)   Posted by ercllkk on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 2:51 PM [Reply to this]

	drd952	"Jump and the net will appear" - wow that is not easy to do, at all. Self preservation will not allow you to succumb to fate. And for type "A" personalities it is virtually impossible to let the chips fall where they may. I do not discount what you are saying in hindsight most things in the past have happened for a reason. And that reason was unknown until some time has passed. But wow is it ever difficult to accept that in the present. As far as people blowing in like the wind, that is life. To me, the more that occurs the more you have experienced new things. You cannot stay in close contact with everyone you have met that has been either a positive or negative influence on your life. The older you get, the more this will occur. Be thankful for the experiences (and lessons) some have given you. Hopefully you have also been that "wind" to others. You "stubborn"? Nahhh, I cannot see that . ;)   Posted by drd952 on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 3:51 PM [Reply to this]

	Patrick J.	You are right, if you have patience with yourself and don't give up it will come. Its not that you have to relinquish all control to get there, as a Scorpio that is nearly impossible. It is merely an acceptance that there are forces external to yourself that you cannot control, like a bird in the wind. When a bird uses the wind and the thermals, it can fly for miles with minimal effort. I like the analogy of a wind, blowing thought your life. Something similar allowed me to understand my own fear of not having control. I was going out with a Gemini girl and she was a typical air sign, totally changeable. She could be brilliant one minute; dazzling and the next minute she could be totally washed out and lifeless. I came to understand that her nature was like the wind. Scorpios like guarantees but I realized if I accepted her for what she was, that wind that was her love could power my wings in an enormous way. Those forces external to yourself, like the wind carrying a bird along can be harnessed to incredibly powerful effect if you will just accept them for what they are, out of your control. You don’t have to just have blind faith that everything will fall into place in life, to really be content in yourself means doing everything within your power to be true to yourself, to fulfill your potential and live up to our own personal destiny. The jump that we take psychologically as a person when we accept the call of our own destiny, the call to be true to our own quintessential self, is not about jumping and hoping a safety net will appear. That’s the beauty of life, there is no safety net. The game of life always ends the same way, with death. The only thing of importance is how you live, beautifully, with joy and love and integrity. The jump is like a young bird’s first flight, it’s about stepping away form the safety of all you have known because as some instinctual level you know that some part of you can fly. Your spirit will soar if you trust that it is there and give it the chance to open its wings. If you are really to be true to your self you must take that jump at some point. The purpose is that your spirit rises clean and untarnished like a phoenix from the ashes and the flames of your old life, ready for what ever challenges lie ahead. Enjoy the Flight, PJSIV   Posted by Patrick J. on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 4:17 PM [Reply to this]

	Kevin	hmm....... very true. This is a sad blog, but you are right.   Posted by Kevin on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 7:51 PM [Reply to this]

	wheeler	Well said, sweetie!!!SMOOCHES!!! LUV U MUCH!!!   Posted by wheeler on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 8:24 PM [Reply to this]

	MaKo	Life lessons can be the most difficult to learn but are also the most valuable.   Posted by MaKo on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 8:59 PM [Reply to this]

	Stanley Stanley Trust	I believe that many things happen in your life, because of all the decissions tat you make every second of the day, and also because other do the same, which influences others and their decissions....so , only if you really do nothing , your impact to how life will run its flow will be less . but mostly in the flow of others. So, yes its good to be alert on what is blowing through your windows, in which directions you will guide yourself,or let yourself be guided by what is happening around you, but also to let go sometimes and see what surprises come your way. If it is a short but powerfull experience, it may be because it was meant to and you were open to it, and you decided to take a deep breath of that air. If its is a long and winding experience that seems to vanish in the fog,it may be because you were not alert enough to take a decission to step aside and re-evaluate the path you were folowing, or you just liked the smoothness, you could guess the direction. Life is either grey, dull, monotone, easy-going-on-and-on, or it is like Ying and Yang : one moment sky-high, ultimate joy, lost of fun, all succes, couldn't-be-better, whil the next period is really awfull, sad, loneley, bad, or otherwise not what you want from life. It is what each person chooses that will affect this the most ( and affects a bit again the others and their decissions). Ypu ask yourself why one would enter like a whirlwind, I ask you : why didn't you choose to ride on that flow of air and go with it ? Why it did not stay? Well thats because strong winds are never in the same place, because that would make them a dull day. Oh well, this makes a lot of us think about the true meaning and goals in life, so thank you Aria, for stirring a little in life and creating this small hurricane , at least withing the people that read this message of you. Now its time to sip from another good glass of a ruby port (Graham's - 2001) that I whish I could offer you a glass of and then talk about this all night long......... In another ten years your perspective will be different again, depending on all the winds that you have seen /missed, the experiences that you have gathered/skipped , the people that you've met/avoided...... Anyway I whish all all the luck and love to carry on in whatever direction you may choose to go. Stanley   Posted by Stanley on Wednesday, March 05, 2008 - 9:51 PM [Reply to this]

	Aria Giovanni Index	Hey Aria, You sound sad. I can`t understand why a girl like you should be asking herself quests like this.. I`m sure many whirlinds would stay around for you if they would feel they are needed. I`m sure I won`t ever be a wirlind for you in your eyes, but, as many other people, I would do my very best to be your personal saviour, if you would decide to choose a unimportant person like someone as me... even to be just a friend to talk to. We all have our dreams, but how high we set our goals? What is the goal anyway? Again, I wish you well. A unimportant person :-)   Posted by Aria Giovanni Index on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 12:34 AM [Reply to this]

	deetz	is the lesson learned not to be afraid or to go ahead and take chances? also, is the result the same? do the pieces fall before or after the jump is made? sounds like perpetual unrest. it's maddening. than again, whatever.   Posted by deetz on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 1:41 AM [Reply to this]

	Conflict Diamond	I feel that. Been dealing with it a lot lately. The truth is that some peoples sole purpose for that brief time they leave a footprint on your beach called life, i to inexplicably teach you something or maybe push you to or prevent you from a certain pivotal action or event. trying to understand the big picture is impossible. but it is good to pay mind to the textures and contrasts of it all... if that makes sense.   Posted by Conflict Diamond on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 6:53 AM [Reply to this]

	Alfonso André	Great book you are reading! One of my favorites.   Posted by Alfonso André on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 5:51 PM [Reply to this]

	Brian	I often think about, and feel the way you do. I have yet to even come close to figuring it all out, but I like your thinking. You are a very eloquent writer - nice indeed.   Posted by Brian on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 6:09 PM [Reply to this]

	ChampBeyond1 Adin Colon	I believe the "meaningless" people we encounter happens for knowledge. So that we may learn from them, even little tidbits and morsels, and so that they may do the same with us. Leaving a lasting impression. As if to know someone for a couple days and yet to remember for a couple years. I dont understand how any1 could enjoy relinquishing control completely. i love to have my hands on the reins. Some say you make your destiny while others say you await it. I say both. the postjump net you spoke of may be a person to catch you or the hard earth to land on, regardless I believe it is what you need to walk stronger.   Posted by ChampBeyond1 on Thursday, March 06, 2008 - 11:08 PM [Reply to this]

	chi crak monkie	we can work to make the future more acessibale for our dreams and wishes, we have to set up what we want out of life, and not to expect stuff, thats when we get disappointed, we need to accept life as it is and realize the things we can control and the things we have no control over, and make th ebest of it and do what needs to be done, i rewrote the philosphers stone its my cornerstone of being, turning lead into gold, but im a crazie crak monkie, thats just me, we all live differently and see things different and understand it differently, im afraid of heights i hate coming down, i also hate attention, people aspect stuff from you then and make you something your not, i like being me, but i became chi, its what people made me to be, i thought of myself as yb, so i see me as multiple people, certain parts of me are one thing others another thing and some are their own things, we are multiple faceted if we allow ourselves to be, so i try to be the best me i can be, and try to suppress the beast that lives within me, i work on my self control by giving into lesser evils so i wont betransformed, its hard supressing the bad in us when we want to be, controling ones actions its what seperate us as humans from each other, its better to give into our pleasures sometimes but the importance is controlling them the most, sometimes good things could be bad, and sometimes bad things could be good take what you get and use it, if they dropped a jewl cherish it, if they planted a seed nourish it so it can bare fruits, life is funny and it will always amaze us toys with us and make us question it, getting confused is expected more times then not im the one whos confuseded about whats going on, i just say yes just so i can find out what i said yes to   Posted by chi on Saturday, March 08, 2008 - 10:58 PM [Reply to this]

	chi crak monkie	we can work to make the future more acessibale for our dreams and wishes, we have to set up what we want out of life, and not to expect stuff, thats when we get disappointed, we need to accept life as it is and realize the things we can control and the things we have no control over, and make th ebest of it and do what needs to be done, i rewrote the philosphers stone its my cornerstone of being, turning lead into gold, but im a crazie crak monkie, thats just me, we all live differently and see things different and understand it differently, im afraid of heights i hate coming down, i also hate attention, people aspect stuff from you then and make you something your not, i like being me, but i became chi, its what people made me to be, i thought of myself as yb, so i see me as multiple people, certain parts of me are one thing others another thing and some are their own things, we are multiple faceted if we allow ourselves to be, so i try to be the best me i can be, and try to suppress the beast that lives within me, i work on my self control by giving into lesser evils so i wont betransformed, its hard supressing the bad in us when we want to be, controling ones actions its what seperate us as humans from each other, its better to give into our pleasures sometimes but the importance is controlling them the most, sometimes good things could be bad, and sometimes bad things could be good take what you get and use it, if they dropped a jewl cherish it, if they planted a seed nourish it so it can bare fruits, life is funny and it will always amaze us toys with us and make us question it, getting confused is expected more times then not im the one whos confuseded about whats going on, i just say yes just so i can find out what i said yes to   Posted by chi on Saturday, March 08, 2008 - 10:58 PM [Reply to this]

	LANCE CAli -MOn	Hell's desires could not squalch the flames of your passionate writing .   Posted by LANCE on Thursday, March 13, 2008 - 9:59 PM [Reply to this]

	Eternal Day	According to the Vedas, everything that we experience in this temporary, material body in this temporary, material world is coming to us based on our karma. The good, the bad, the happiness, the sadness, etc. comes to us based on our actions, thoughts and desires, not only from this current life, but from other lives as well. You may not believe in karma, but I'm sure if you reflect on it you will see that it resonates with your consciousness. We have lived many, many lives. Even now, you can see the results of your past good karma in the manifestation of your physical beauty, intelligence and material wealth. These things don't come to everyone. It's not by chance. You have earned these things from past, pious activities. In this present life you have also gained un-seen spiritual benefit from your experiences in India. You probably cannot see it, nor can you understand it, but there is a certain sense of clarity and inner-contentment that is coming to you from it. I encourage you to visit a Hare Krishna temple wherever you may be and talk to the devotees that may be there. From these experiences your realizations will become even more vivid and clear.   Posted by Eternal Day on Friday, March 14, 2008 - 7:37 PM [Reply to this]

	OCEAN POWER!!! SUrfs UP	word... i am still trying the "sit back and observe the universe unfold naturally" method... however sometimes there this little voice in my head that reverts back to the "god's watching out for me" method... i do see the net!   Posted by OCEAN POWER!!! on Wednesday, March 19, 2008 - 5:50 PM [Reply to this]

	Damion Damion hamilton	wow. you are really deep. i think you should be a writer, like me. you have a lot interesting thoughts to share wit the world. Damion Hamilton   Posted by Damion on Thursday, March 27, 2008 - 1:13 AM [Reply to this]

	Distant Dreamer	Thank you Aria. Having the opportunity to meet you in person and make an Iced Venti Unsweetened Black Ice Tea for "No" was probably one of the highlights of my life. To be honest I was just about to quit and walk out of there until you showed up at my register. Your a fantastic, intelligent, beautiful person, and next time your in my nieghborhood and need a Starbucks fix, its totally on the house, (hell the only reason I even took your money was because I was seriously questioning bringing up my guts enough to ask if you were you.) Take care and enjoy all those flights.   Posted by Distant Dreamer on Monday, March 31, 2008 - 1:04 AM [Reply to this]

	Show In LBC Tonight!!	The older I get, the more I realize that I'm placed/steered into certain situations w/ certain people for a reason that I could not have noticed at the time. The more I roll with the punches, the less punches that I actually have to take. I guess that's just the wisdom that comes from experience. Aria, I've always been a fan of your work, and perhaps you could meet w/ my boss and I sometime when you're out here in Los Angeles again. We're always working on events and are open to new ideas and experiences. Best wishes, Kaiser Lucky Haskins Events   Posted by Show In LBC Tonight!! on Friday, April 11, 2008 - 7:53 PM [Reply to this]

	A J	i am lucky right now in my life, i have the trust of a girl who is a friend of mine, i dont know why i am at this point in my life, its hurts me sometimes, i have lost her and found her again, all these words and feelings and there is no relationship or actually feelings, but through some strange twist of fate we are here to support each other right now in life. everyone needs to experience things like this to help make it through life. you will have to excuse me but i thought i would just share my thoguhts on the subject   Posted by A J on Thursday, May 29, 2008 - 8:31 AM [Reply to this]

	iiiiThe Bleu!!!! Adam LeBleu	I enjoy reading your blogs, most people seem to post about random shit that makes their life suck and it is just a breath of fresh air to read something with an intelligent underlay with actual sensibility so thanks for that have some more kudos just because it is a cool word that is fun to say ^.^   Posted by iiiiThe Bleu!!!! on Monday, June 09, 2008 - 9:32 PM [Reply to this]